WDP-Acura TL

I met this fine 28 yr old at the club almost 2 weeks ago. When I met her, she was by herself. We hung out for 2-3 hrs dancing and talking. We ended up hitting it off very good. We exchange phone numbers and like a gentlemen walked her to her car and gave her a kiss on the cheek. Since then we have been doing a lot of talking on the phone because I was out of town in VA for a week in a half. She seems very anxious to see me. Since I'm back I asked her if she wants to go to the movies, she said she would love to.

My nervousness comes into play now. I have a slight handicapp with my right arm. Its called brachial plexus injury. Its a lilttle shorter than my left arm and have 30% mobility. It happened when I was born the doctor damaged my nerves in my shoulder. I don't think she noticed I have a handicapp when we ere at the club. Should I have told her on the phone about it or just have her find out when we meet tonight. What are your guys opinions on this?????????


She seems like a nice girl, but some people can not be understanding aND look pass my handicapp.

virtualbong

Just see what happens without telling her. If she is a nice girl and you think she'll see pass it, then you shouldn't be an issue.

NEVERaDuLLmoment

i don't see a point in telling her on the phone. obviously she likes you for you, you talk on the phone all of the time and there is a common interest...

Did you ever think that maybe she has one too that you didn't notice????? Would you expect her to tell you this on the phone? i think not.

go out, have fun.

doopstr

How have you handled this in the past with other women?

GIBSON6594

I agree with the above, if she is that superficial then who needs her

Whiskers

Short arm is ok.... Short dick and you may have some issues.....Good luck....Post Pics (of girl, not arm or dick).

tlguy99

Just make sure you stay on her right the entire date and you should be fine

No seriously, I wouldn't make a big deal about it. Its a reduction in mobility, not the end of the world. If she can't see past that then move on to the next one.

kurt_bradley

That's always a good test I guess. If she's cool, then don't forget to

JWhite1301

If the disability is noticeable and you already spent 3 hours with her, maybe she already noticed and did not care. If she did notice, I bet she did, she is respectful (not shallow) and did not mention it, as it probably did not effect her one way or the other.

If she does have an issue, then she is not worth it. It will speak volumes aout her character.

sipark

Couldn't have said it better.

afici0nad0

no big deal.

if she refuses to deal with a man with your injury, tell her to "get the fukc out."

fdl

I would mention it on the phone (not make a big deal out of it, just mention it). I only say this because its making you nervous. So just get it out of the way and enjoy your date without having all this other stuff on your mind.

wstevens

I would mention it as well, but not like you are ashamed of it or worried about it.

nicholbr

just see how it plays out. worrying about it is going to get you nowhere. Just go on the date as if she already knew and if she asks about it just be honest with her. Chicks really dig honesty

good luck!

WDP-Acura TL

You guys are great. I will go out and have a good time and try not to worry about it.

furious1smitul

I say leave it be for now unless she brings it up.... However, if this goes well and you think you'll be meeting up for more dates then it may be a good idea to bring it up at some point. Just as a courtesy, not like you have anything to be ashamed of.... everybody has something, if it's not physical it's mental.

rise

if she says anything...just start talking about how hard it is to find a committed woman to be in a relationship nowadays...
28 year old lady is probably looking to settle down

ric

I agree with a couple of the posters, unless she was smashed beyond belief, she may well have noticed a bit of motor deficit during your conversation, and assumes you will talk about it when you are damn well ready. If it makes you nervous, and that is co-opting your ability to relax and enjoy your time with her, you could, when you call her, mention that you thought she might have noticed, but you are sensitive about some motor control issues. She can either feign surprise and shock, she can tell you that she noticed, but it doesn't matter or she can tell you that she did not notice because your conversation was so captivating which may, actually, be the case..... if the two of you were talking for three hours in a dark club, she was concentrating on your face and eyes, and was listening to what you had to say. .

And I agree, if this woman is as nice as you claim, she won't care. If she does have a problem with it, she is shallow and self-centered, and you're good to move on.......

Ashburner

Yeah, don't worry about it.

Hey, do you at least get to park close at the move theater?

Teh Jatt

Movie

FastAcura

I wouldn't tell her. If she hasn't noticed, then it must not be a big deal to her. Maybe tell her after you've gone on a date a few times, but not right away. If she really likes you, I don't see why this could be something that would make her not wanna see you.

Ashburner

Edited becuz of my spelling

ayougo

were some rubber mang

iTimmy

I am not trying to be a dick or anything, I have a bum ankle myself, however, if your cool with it make a joke about it. Since I limp sometimes, I make a joke about being a pirate with a peg leg. If your cool with it make a simple joke like "trying to get a hand on it" or something like that. It lightens the mood and let's her know that its ok to talk about. At least that's from my experience. In any case good luck

wstevens

Go dancing with her. While dancing, start blatantly feeling her tits. When she gets pissed off, remind her that you have no control over your arm.

jmathew34

Shoofin

I don't see a problem. I look at it two ways. Being that you were born with this problem, you're comfortable about it, right? What have others said about it to you? Has it hampered any relationships in the past? If it's something that wouldn't be immediately noticed, I say ignore it. Let it come up from her noticing it or something. On another note, she doesn't seem very shallow, you may score points (and pity) for bringing it up in a convo. The choice is yours...Good luck!
Ed

JimmyCarter

So how'd it go?

WDP-Acura TL

It went good. I did notice her looking at my arm, but not in a bad way though. She never asked me what happened though. I took your guys advice and didn't care about that but making her enjoy herself, in return I had a good night also. She says that she wants to go out on another date with me tonight, so I'll just wait and see. I paid $34.00 on the date is that too much? lol

JimmyCarter

Time For Sleeep

Short and easy sentence to sum all this up. If she can't look past your handicap, she's not worth your time.

Edit: Sorry, I got owned by my own lack of not reading past 1st post.

@cUr@-TL

word.

Mike 350Z

Well I guess that depends on what all you did If you went for a walk in the park, yes, if you went to dinner and a movie, no.

WDP-Acura TL

movies, popcorn, soda, then after movie walked around Unioversal Citywalk and got her a mixed drink. totaling $33.00-$34.00

Whiskers

FYI - Cheapskate < Arm issue

But sounds good.....

virtualbong

Cheap now, but just you wait if this relationship does go further...LOL

JWhite1301

How about another update?

Newplay1

Good thing she asked you out on 2nd date.

Bad thing is she didn't say anything about your arm eh? hmm that usually means she is afraid to ask.. that usually leads little uncomfortable feeling.. so you should bring it up next time.

gary_william

dude, you have such an "in"; once you explain the arm issue, you will have a perfect excuse to ask her for a hand job after the next date.

"Hay, baby, ya know I did pay for those last three dates we went on. And I did open up to you about my handicap. It is obvious that I find you attractive, and I have not had any in a while. So, hows about lending a brother a helping hand?"

nicholbr

I disagree completely. He said she noticed it and didn't mention anything yet is still showing a strong interest in furthering their relationship by going out more. This indicates to me that she isn't concerned enough about it to run away as well as showing a considerable of restraint and class by not just blurting out "eww whats wrong with your arm" or something to that effect.

I think you're good bro

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