View Poll Results: How often does your girl get off during sex
I'm a girl and I always get off
5
1.91%
I'm a girl and I sometimes get off
13
4.96%
I'm a girl and I've never had an orgasm from intercourse 
4
1.53%
I'm a dude and she always gets off
109
41.60%
I'm a dude and she sometimes gets off
115
43.89%
I'm a dude and I dont think I've ever given a girl an orgasm from intercourse
16
6.11%
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Girls and orgasms with sex
08-30-2005, 05:29 PM
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Originally Posted by supermegaglossy
women who don't orgasm from sex have no room to talk until they can do it on their own. it didn't take me very long at all to learn to get myself off, but it took FOREVER before i had one from a guy (via oral). i've never had one through sex, but i'm sure one day, with time, and a determined partner, i will.
it doesn't happen automatically. it takes time, it takes practice, and it takes communication. every single person is different.
a lot of women are first of all, too nervous and uptight about it. they're afraid they won't, so then they don't.
and then there are a lot of guys who are fooled too easily by women who fake. they don't ask their partners how they want it, so it never gets done, and she goes unsatisfied.
but dont' get discouraged, just because a woman doesn't orgasm during sex, doesnt' mean she doesn't enjoy it. just make sure you're giving her the time of day (or night) to keep her satisfied. women release oxytocin during sex whether we orgasm or not, so we have a different feeling towards the whole thing. whereas men release jizz...
you all should watch dr. drew and learn a few things
it doesn't happen automatically. it takes time, it takes practice, and it takes communication. every single person is different.
a lot of women are first of all, too nervous and uptight about it. they're afraid they won't, so then they don't.
and then there are a lot of guys who are fooled too easily by women who fake. they don't ask their partners how they want it, so it never gets done, and she goes unsatisfied.
but dont' get discouraged, just because a woman doesn't orgasm during sex, doesnt' mean she doesn't enjoy it. just make sure you're giving her the time of day (or night) to keep her satisfied. women release oxytocin during sex whether we orgasm or not, so we have a different feeling towards the whole thing. whereas men release jizz...
you all should watch dr. drew and learn a few things
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Originally Posted by GoDucksCLSPride
08-30-2005, 06:36 PM
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Originally Posted by GoDucksCLSPride
So what do you think? Did we just mature and learn how to please our women, or is it that maturity allows women to be pleased easier?
I'd like to think its me
but I dont think it is 
I'd like to think its me
but I dont think it is Also women are less self conscious now
08-30-2005, 06:49 PM
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Originally Posted by shineynitelite
hey caliadria.. since my g/f has the same 'problem' as you do can you tell me what i should and shouldnt say to her about it for the next time it comes up.. i know it bothers her and in some previous posts that you made you talk about being pressured etc. etc.
i mean she has told me a few times that she feels like shes going to pee on me.. wtf do i say to that, ya know?!
feel free to blabber and to elaborate beyond just that thought ^^.. i'm ready to read everything you have to tell me about this subject cuz i'm very clueless i want to know how she feels w/o the embaresment of her telling me and me asking her
i mean she has told me a few times that she feels like shes going to pee on me.. wtf do i say to that, ya know?!
feel free to blabber and to elaborate beyond just that thought ^^.. i'm ready to read everything you have to tell me about this subject cuz i'm very clueless i want to know how she feels w/o the embaresment of her telling me and me asking her
seriously, i've tried to talk to her all t ypes of ways, tried to try out all different things. I've just learned to eat pussy like mad
08-30-2005, 06:53 PM
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seriously, if getting off was as hard for me as it is for you girls i'd shoot myself 
*knock on wood*
*knock on wood*
08-30-2005, 06:55 PM
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seriously, if getting off was as hard for me as it is for you girls i'd shoot myself
*knock on wood*
*knock on wood*
08-30-2005, 08:01 PM
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Originally Posted by shineynitelite
hey caliadria.. since my g/f has the same 'problem' as you do can you tell me what i should and shouldnt say to her about it for the next time it comes up.. i know it bothers her and in some previous posts that you made you talk about being pressured etc. etc.
i mean she has told me a few times that she feels like shes going to pee on me.. wtf do i say to that, ya know?!
feel free to blabber and to elaborate beyond just that thought ^^.. i'm ready to read everything you have to tell me about this subject cuz i'm very clueless i want to know how she feels w/o the embaresment of her telling me and me asking her
i mean she has told me a few times that she feels like shes going to pee on me.. wtf do i say to that, ya know?!
feel free to blabber and to elaborate beyond just that thought ^^.. i'm ready to read everything you have to tell me about this subject cuz i'm very clueless i want to know how she feels w/o the embaresment of her telling me and me asking her
If your girl typically gets to the point where she is about to pee, then just be prepared beforehand and tell her not to worry about it. Have a towel or something handy and ask her to let her body do whatever it feels like doing.
Anyway, I answered with sometimes. The gf usually gets off if she is on top. Also, she usually reacts positively to my orgasms. Often, that's what sets her off, so that helps.
08-30-2005, 08:02 PM
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Originally Posted by TLover
Any guy who says he ALWAYS gets his women off is either lying or delusional.
08-31-2005, 12:51 AM
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Originally Posted by CLpower
seriously, i've tried to talk to her all t ypes of ways, tried to try out all different things. I've just learned to eat pussy like mad
i want to quote about 5 of you but i'm not going to PW...
i do what she likes, i make her feel as comfortable as possible and as sexy as possible, she says foreplay helps her (even tho she still cant, you figure that one out
) some of you have said that if she cant even get herself off theres no way i can or something along those lines... she tells me that she doesnt.. or hasnt ever.... i find that hard to believe buuuuuttt, she wouldnt lie to me about it she would tell me the truth no matter what..
mizouse.. for me, sex has been problems>pleasure.. your not missing anything honestly...............
i gave her a tattoo like mine..
this ones for you mizouse vv
i love her a lot, i still feel that i cant make her happy..
08-31-2005, 01:12 AM
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Originally Posted by CLpower
seriously, i've tried to talk to her all t ypes of ways, tried to try out all different things. I've just learned to eat pussy like mad
08-31-2005, 05:48 AM
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Originally Posted by fdl
Women dont need to O to be satisfied during sex, so ive heard. Its not like men, where phsycologically we need ot finsih or we dont feel right.
blue balls later...
08-31-2005, 08:41 AM
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let her on top?
08-31-2005, 09:20 AM
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ITS NOT GOING TO HAPPEN.. we both must accept this 
08-31-2005, 09:27 AM
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I'll drop my 
in here...
A bunch of people had valid points, but I'm too lazy to go and quote you all...
It is very difficult for a woman to get off during intercourse. There are certain spots that must be hit for even the slightest stimulation. Women that claim to get off all of the time during intercourse really "know" their body. That is key for a woman, they must first understand what they like in order to help you guys out.
Woman can enjoy sex without an orgasm, but it is 150 times better if they do have one. Most of the time you do feel like you have to pee. (Some women actually do.) Guys, you have to remember that everything is connected down there, and certain times, you could actually be hitting her blatter. This is perfectly normal.
For the guy who asked what to do when your girl says this to you... If you are comfortable with it and you really do want to get her off, tell her to keep going and it will be ok if she does. (just keep a towel underneathe you.) If by chance you will get supremely grossed out if this happens on accident, don't freak out (that will really embarass her, it will be a real shot to her ego, and she won't' be as open during sex anymore.) You want her to feel as comfortable as possible.
It is easier for a girl to O while being on top, rather than on the bottom.
For all of the guys who said there girl has never, ever, ever had an orgasm, or they think they have never (probably not. a girl would know.)........go buy her a vibrator. Problem Solved.
just my
in here...A bunch of people had valid points, but I'm too lazy to go and quote you all...
It is very difficult for a woman to get off during intercourse. There are certain spots that must be hit for even the slightest stimulation. Women that claim to get off all of the time during intercourse really "know" their body. That is key for a woman, they must first understand what they like in order to help you guys out.
Woman can enjoy sex without an orgasm, but it is 150 times better if they do have one. Most of the time you do feel like you have to pee. (Some women actually do.) Guys, you have to remember that everything is connected down there, and certain times, you could actually be hitting her blatter. This is perfectly normal.
For the guy who asked what to do when your girl says this to you... If you are comfortable with it and you really do want to get her off, tell her to keep going and it will be ok if she does. (just keep a towel underneathe you.) If by chance you will get supremely grossed out if this happens on accident, don't freak out (that will really embarass her, it will be a real shot to her ego, and she won't' be as open during sex anymore.) You want her to feel as comfortable as possible.
It is easier for a girl to O while being on top, rather than on the bottom.
For all of the guys who said there girl has never, ever, ever had an orgasm, or they think they have never (probably not. a girl would know.)........go buy her a vibrator. Problem Solved.
just my
08-31-2005, 09:45 AM
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If she has NEVER had an orgasm, buy her a vibrator. I highly recommend the Hitachi Magic Wand. It doubles as a back/shoulder massager, as well.
Shiney, the best thing anyone ever said to me about it was, "It's okay, we'll just keep trying!" Said with a kiss to the forehead, it makes everything better, I promise. Don't get discouraged, do NOT tell her you feel like less of a man (that's the dumbest thing any guy has ever said... nobody is superman, and even a professional gigolo isn't going to get a woman off if she's not ready), and just support her. Make sure she enjoyed herself as much as she could, allow her to be open and honest with you. If she says, "Hey, that kinda hurts" or "Don't touch it like that", don't get offended! The female body is very sensitive in places, and everyone is different! the stuff that worked with your last girlfriend will NOT work with this one, I can promise you.
Oh, and during foreplay, I agree with Andrea... don't just automatically go for the naughty spots; rub her arms, around her breasts (not just the nips!!!), the stomach, the thighs, the calves, feet, etc. The backs of her joints (i.e. knees, arms, ankles) are all very sensitive. Any place where her skin is thin, stroke it gently, etc. If you go straight for the money shot, I tend to feel like that's all you're interested in, like you'd just as soon get it over with as soon as possible, and once I get that thought in my head, no amount of coaxing will get it to go away.
Shiney, the best thing anyone ever said to me about it was, "It's okay, we'll just keep trying!" Said with a kiss to the forehead, it makes everything better, I promise. Don't get discouraged, do NOT tell her you feel like less of a man (that's the dumbest thing any guy has ever said... nobody is superman, and even a professional gigolo isn't going to get a woman off if she's not ready), and just support her. Make sure she enjoyed herself as much as she could, allow her to be open and honest with you. If she says, "Hey, that kinda hurts" or "Don't touch it like that", don't get offended! The female body is very sensitive in places, and everyone is different! the stuff that worked with your last girlfriend will NOT work with this one, I can promise you.
Oh, and during foreplay, I agree with Andrea... don't just automatically go for the naughty spots; rub her arms, around her breasts (not just the nips!!!), the stomach, the thighs, the calves, feet, etc. The backs of her joints (i.e. knees, arms, ankles) are all very sensitive. Any place where her skin is thin, stroke it gently, etc. If you go straight for the money shot, I tend to feel like that's all you're interested in, like you'd just as soon get it over with as soon as possible, and once I get that thought in my head, no amount of coaxing will get it to go away.
08-31-2005, 09:47 AM
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Originally Posted by Caliadria
If she has NEVER had an orgasm, buy her a vibrator. I highly recommend the Hitachi Magic Wand. It doubles as a back/shoulder massager, as well.
Shiney, the best thing anyone ever said to me about it was, "It's okay, we'll just keep trying!" Said with a kiss to the forehead, it makes everything better, I promise. Don't get discouraged, do NOT tell her you feel like less of a man (that's the dumbest thing any guy has ever said... nobody is superman, and even a professional gigolo isn't going to get a woman off if she's not ready), and just support her. Make sure she enjoyed herself as much as she could, allow her to be open and honest with you. If she says, "Hey, that kinda hurts" or "Don't touch it like that", don't get offended! The female body is very sensitive in places, and everyone is different! the stuff that worked with your last girlfriend will NOT work with this one, I can promise you.
Oh, and during foreplay, I agree with Andrea... don't just automatically go for the naughty spots; rub her arms, around her breasts (not just the nips!!!), the stomach, the thighs, the calves, feet, etc. The backs of her joints (i.e. knees, arms, ankles) are all very sensitive. Any place where her skin is thin, stroke it gently, etc. If you go straight for the money shot, I tend to feel like that's all you're interested in, like you'd just as soon get it over with as soon as possible, and once I get that thought in my head, no amount of coaxing will get it to go away.
Shiney, the best thing anyone ever said to me about it was, "It's okay, we'll just keep trying!" Said with a kiss to the forehead, it makes everything better, I promise. Don't get discouraged, do NOT tell her you feel like less of a man (that's the dumbest thing any guy has ever said... nobody is superman, and even a professional gigolo isn't going to get a woman off if she's not ready), and just support her. Make sure she enjoyed herself as much as she could, allow her to be open and honest with you. If she says, "Hey, that kinda hurts" or "Don't touch it like that", don't get offended! The female body is very sensitive in places, and everyone is different! the stuff that worked with your last girlfriend will NOT work with this one, I can promise you.
Oh, and during foreplay, I agree with Andrea... don't just automatically go for the naughty spots; rub her arms, around her breasts (not just the nips!!!), the stomach, the thighs, the calves, feet, etc. The backs of her joints (i.e. knees, arms, ankles) are all very sensitive. Any place where her skin is thin, stroke it gently, etc. If you go straight for the money shot, I tend to feel like that's all you're interested in, like you'd just as soon get it over with as soon as possible, and once I get that thought in my head, no amount of coaxing will get it to go away.
dam, that sounds like alot of work.
usually i dont have 5 hours to waste
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Originally Posted by Xenogen
This is also dependant on how many women that person has been with.
08-31-2005, 04:20 PM
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Originally Posted by TLover
Well, if a guy has been with a lot of women, chances are not every woman has reached orgasm -- just based on probability. If a guy hasn't been with a lot of women, chances are he doesn't have the experience to get a woman off.
02-04-2007, 02:00 PM
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What's up with the disparity between "I always get off" and "she always gets off"...?!?!?!? Anyways, I voted sometimes because I can't get off unless I'm being noisy. It did take me a while to learn how to make it happen, and it involves the right combination of being on top and being able to be loud.
02-04-2007, 02:50 PM
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Originally Posted by B18Ch1ck
What's up with the disparity between "I always get off" and "she always gets off"...?!?!?!? Anyways, I voted sometimes because I can't get off unless I'm being noisy. It did take me a while to learn how to make it happen, and it involves the right combination of being on top and being able to be loud.
02-04-2007, 03:10 PM
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Originally Posted by B18Ch1ck
I don't get the age thing. Or how most guys in here can claim to always get them off.
02-04-2007, 03:18 PM
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Originally Posted by B18Ch1ck
I don't get the age thing. Or how most guys in here can claim to always get them off.
02-04-2007, 11:17 PM
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By no means do I declare myself a pimp, but from my experiences with chicks, there are mutiple outcomes that can happen. I've had a reasonable amount of partners and not every one has came. He's what I've experienced:
-Sometimes, depending on who it is, I could give two shits if the girl gets off.
-Some girls have a problem getting comfortable with someone they don't know and can't cum, alcohol has been known to offset this problem
-I've been told once by a girl that only women can make her cum
The girl I'm seeing now is awsome. I can make her cum but it takes a while. Usually I would say about close to 30 minutes. Sometimes you just want a quickie. Clitoral stimulation really had aided in her reaching an O. I'd say now it can happen in 5-15 minutes. Use a vibe on the clit. Feels good for both parties.
-Sometimes, depending on who it is, I could give two shits if the girl gets off.
-Some girls have a problem getting comfortable with someone they don't know and can't cum, alcohol has been known to offset this problem
-I've been told once by a girl that only women can make her cum
The girl I'm seeing now is awsome. I can make her cum but it takes a while. Usually I would say about close to 30 minutes. Sometimes you just want a quickie. Clitoral stimulation really had aided in her reaching an O. I'd say now it can happen in 5-15 minutes. Use a vibe on the clit. Feels good for both parties.
02-05-2007, 07:34 AM
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Originally Posted by Whiskers
It's probably more common then people think. Women are good at faking (my wife faked it with me for years until she told me about the problem). Hopefully you are right about the 30's thing. But as you said, she has been with others before me who were unsuccessful.