So we're both at work right now,
I texted her;
"Saturday night, you free?"
Took about an hour till she got back but it said
"I thought I was hanging out with you :-)"

That was pretty heartwarming
Shes off work at 2 on Sat. Think Imma pick her up around 6 or 7ish, take her out to the east bay where I'm from (well, just moved to the south bay recently). Get some famous Zachary's Chicago style pizza that she's never had before but wanted to try, go with the flow till around 11-12ish, and then bring her to my close friends bday thing right when its poppin!
I dunno if its movin kind of fast to have her meet my friends already lol. She's already kind of intimidated that they're from Oakland, but they're all College Grads. We do get pretty party crazy when everyones on one though haha

 

very nice

however if you go to the party i would not drink to much and keep an eye on her. you don't want to get shit faced and something to happen, that would be very bad. this has happened to me before.........and we were both pretty messed up and that was the end of that. taking it to fast, i don't think so. go out have fun. banks seem to be hot spots haha

 

For sheezie! I'm always super careful about that too lolz. This past saturday on my date I actually took a magic marker pen so I could keep track of how many drinks I had at the club haha.

 

I think it's cool to introduce her to a few of your friends in small groups when you're first getting to know her. Of course if the party is going off and you're paying attention to her and not carousing with your boyz than it should be all good. Oaktown in da house

Where did you go to school btw? Cal?

 

Kind of excited haha, her bdays on the 28th too (but I should keep the present at a low cost to keep her expectations low, that way I won't be too expensive to outdo the next year haha), GBF baby!!! (Some of you old hags may be familiar with the term haha).
I'm still in school actually, at De Anza , due to transfer half a year ago but I changed my major after scoring this job, so I've got another half year at least togo before I transfer.. too hopefully either Cal Poly SLO, UCLA, or Cal


And yeah, I did get shitfaced once and said the wrong things to a girl I was talking to, and that was the end of that. I don't plan on drinking much if any Sat... unless I don't have to bring her home that night

 

^Suite! Jus asking cause I went to school in Palo Alto and my aunt lives in Walnut Creek. I lived in Santa Barbara for a year between undergrad and med school. Central coast kicks ass, I'd check out Cal Poly SLO. Cute girls and very down to earth

 

Progressing I see.

 

Calpoly SLO alumni

 

Nice! I wish we had SLO-type chickies at Stanford. Beauty and brains. You know what they say, "9 out of 10 women in Cali are beautiful and the 10th goes to Stanford" All brains and not so much beauty lolz.

 

Wong, I couldn't remember if this is the first time meeting this chick or not (date), but I don't think the wild party is a good idea. There are other things you can do to have fun that are less noisy and more one on one. No, I don't mean sex. I mean more ways to hang out. After all, you do want to know what's up with her, and fun let's her open up a lot easier...you just want to be able to "hear it" and benefit from it, when it does. Plus, what if the party gets turned out and she is a lil nervous, as in wants to roll out?

Make your own impression before your friends do...plenty of time for that later playboy...good luck! Metaphor: Remember, the more you put into that account, the more you get to withdraw! I'm proud of you "banker"!!

 

Yeah I get whatchu sayin, but I think she kind of wants to go. I brought up the kickit thing and she was pretty coo with it and even asked if I wanted her to drive out there too, she'll take her own car out (this is like an hour drive btw!), that way I can drink and stay over if I wanted to. I told her if I do drink its only gonna be the birthday shot, so I can still take her home later in the evening. I did make sure to ask if she had to be home at a certain time and it was cool to be out late, as long as she gets home before her parents wake up

We're gonna have our one on one before that I think it'll be fine. She seems pretty comfortable around me, its one of those people where you just click
I did have a feeling it was "too soon" to bring her to somethin like this, but she seems pretty excited to meet my friends.

So last night we were talkin and I forgot what I said, but I remember her response was "Well now you have me"

Anyways, my co-workers been bugging me to show them a picture too; do you think its too soon for me to add her on facebook? haha, or should i mention or ask her that way its not like i'm stalkerish searching for her. The girl coworker here is telling me she's not gonna add me cuz shes a girl. I told her well I'm not adding her cuz i'm a guy, at least not this soon .. honest answer please, someones gonna say no its not just so I post pics i alreayd know it Lol

 

dont add her. dont mention facebook. act like it doesnt exist and leave that damn site. it can only cause problems for a relationship. ask to take pictures with her or hit a photobooth, its more initimate and shows that you want to be IN the pictures, not fap to her pics online

 

Photobooths? We're in the 2000's man!

 

Take pics during the party

 

Let her worry about the facebook thing. You don't need to fap fap fap to her pics anyway since you have the real thing.

 

Sasha's response is gold! That way, if you share pics online, your pics are of "the party" and not of "the girl" if you know what I'm sayin! (spoken like Sarah Palin)

 

Yea, ixnay the facebook idea. That's ghey.

 

Buying her birthday gifts? Meeting your friends? Adding her on FaceBook? Showing pictures to your coworkers?

All this and you've only been on one date?

I don't want to bring you down too much so I won't get too critical.

Just don't get caught up. Too many guys have a tendency to shoot an arrow, paint a red circle around it, and call it a bulls-eye. Have fun.

 

What's the big deal about the facebook thing? You two are going to be friends on there eventually


If you really want her to add you just mention something unrelated about it and she'll want to be added when she knows you're on there.

 

Tell me about it, man.

 

I feel your pain brotha! At least our football team is not sucking ass.

 

FaceBook in and of itself isn't the end of the world. However, buying a girl gifts (or thinking about it so quickly), having her meet your friends, talking to your co-workers about it, and texting too much are all indicating that his game is weak.

I understand that he really likes this girl and he's connecting with her and that's great, but if his game was on point he wouldn't be doing those things so quickly because it takes some time to know a girl. Meeting friends, etc. are priveledges that she should earn, not just hand them out to whatever pretty face gives him attention.

Put it this way, if you had 3-5 plates you were spinning right now, would you really take them all to dinner dates so quickly? Would you introduce them all to your friends so quickly? Would you add them to your FaceBook so quickly? Would you think about buying them birthday gifts within a matter of two weeks of knowing her and only going on one date? Chances are you wouldn't because you knew you had options and that these girls were into you anyway. So you'd have the pick of the litter and these girls would have to play to your standards. He's worried about getting the outcome he hopes for and is trying desperately to make it happen.

What will happen if this goes the way I predict it will is she'll enjoy his positive affirmation (ego boost) and date him for a bit and have some fun, have sex a few times, maybe even become "official" - but eventually congruence will fail. Women have an innate ability to sense a lack of congruence. When congruence fails it indicates to a woman that their man is not as strong as she first believed. And thus she'll branch swing. All of a sudden the calls stop and "it's me not you" or "lets just be friends" or "i need some time alone" or "i'm too busy with school" or "he's just a friend" which then leads to "you're too controlling, I can't take this anymore, goodbye".

He seems real suave right now over the phone/texts/dates to her but not on here. He's too concerned with making this work. Being results oriented and doing these "nice" things will not help him in the long run.

Young guys should focus on dating multiple women and if he meets a girl who meets HIS standards AND shows high interest in HIM, should then lavish her with the attention/gifts/introductions that she deserves.

Of course, this is all my

 

I'll agree with you to a certain extent, but again everyone has their own approach per situation. First, you don't know how or what we've talked about. It's detail that doesn't need to be discussed over a forum. I don't even need to be posting this here, but it's just for the peoples' here entertainment. For months I've been lurking in this section while at work, why? Because it's entertaining reading these stories, so I'm just giving back into the community.

I havn't jumped into conclusions, my options are still open to any girl that I meet and/or if I find interest in another women, at least until I do find that I feel I can be compatible with this one, be it a fling, or end up long term.
Gift; Lavish? It'd be something small like I mentioned earlier. I wouldn't expect someone I just met few weeks ago to get me anything extravagent, either. At most, it'd be something small, given what I know about her, something that she may like, to express that "Oh, he remembered my birthday!"

About the co-worker thing; they know much less than what has been said here. All they know is that I got this girl to go out with me, and they asked for pictures.

Anyways, I'll have pictures up for you lurkers soon
Back to work

 

It's just my opinion.

 

Here's one for ya
Deleting it tomorrow evening

 

not bad playboy, not my taste but not bad.
I'm more of the european-american look for my chicks. like 5ft 8 or 6 ft.

 

Nice face...I'm a junk in the trunk and breastuses man myself tho Wong. She's a nice looking chick, but she ain't built for "show and tail"...just show...she can be thrashed and smashed tho definitely.

Who is the kid? Orrrrr...whose kid is that????

Sounding more and more like boning and loaning. When she said you got me, did she mean you got us? She does after all know you can afford Pampers!

Words of advice: Split it - hit it - quit it - and forget it!!!!!!

 

I like em small so you can toss em around

She's got an older sister with 2 kids, shes an aunt O_O

 

I approve. Looks like an innocent and well self-taken care of type of girl.

I've had my share of big booty tig ol's myself.

 

Spinners FTW! Haha, I like taller girls myself but she looks like a quality gal. Asian pride in da house

 

Glad to see that things are going well with this young lady...keep it real bro! Cali is a sweet place to hang out with a new young lady.... seems there's always someone kickin' it somewhere...

 

Smaller is hella good for thrashing. You are definitely right about that. But I will lay true, solid, effective wood to anything up to about 145-150. After that, I'll put in work, but I have to be in the mood, and in-between jobs...and I'm usually not...a brother like me does NOT stay unemployed long...

Good luck with that Wong. Have fun! She is holding that baby like she got semen and eggs on the menu dawg! Watch out! Hahahaha...

 

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^ hell yea!

 

Talk about giving blueballs!

Details please?

 

Dammit! I missed the pic.

Great that things turned out well! Congrats!

 

dammit it, i always miss the pics...

missed the ones in the other thread and now missed the pics in this thread

 

i just typed it.. but i dont know if i want to post this.. LOL
PM me

 

haha... atta boy... i missed the pics, let me know if they will be up for a second go round...

 

Damn, missed the pic too.

PM?

And congrats!