A few other mid 20 somethings at work that I know (really aren't too many under 40 folks in the fed. gov.) are already married, or engaged. I certainly don't consider myself immature by any means (in fact, some would say I tend to often be on the serious/intense side) but marraige and kids is the furthest thing from my mind right now. I guess part of the reason I feel that getting married in your 20s is young is because I don't want kids. But...I can't imagine being 24-26 and thinking about family planning.

These days, I consider getting married under 28-30 getting married "young". At least in a major city (like Baltimore and even more so DC) where 'starter' homes are $350k. Seems to me like to have to be close to 30 to be financially grounded enough to be able to support a family (even with 2 incomes) Is 30 the new 21? I think so, considering folks who go to college get out around 22-24, and need a good 5 years to get established in a career and watch their earning rise a bit (hopefully). I make a good salary plus excellent benefits, but even if I married someone making what I make (which would create an annual income over $100k gross) I still can't imagine having kids on that in this very expensive state.

So...basically, I'm wondering, is getting married under 30 these days considered marrying young?

 

It depends on your reasons for getting married. It really shouldn't be financial. I'm getting married in a couple months and it not for what our combined wages will be or what will happen when our kid grows up. I will say that a couple years ago, I was not ready to get hitched. I think it happens one day and you will feel differently. Or else, don't get married. Some people are not meant to be.

 

Different situations for different people. I probably won't get married for another few years, but that's fine with me. Maybe I'll get engaged in that time, but marriage is definitely more than 2-3 years away.

 

 

 

There's no right or wrong answer. It all depends on the individual.

 

being married for me in the past was the worst mistake I made in my life and I did it because she was pregnant (dumm). but now that I left here and found someone different it has been the best life i ever lived, it all depends who you meet, someone could eff your life up or someone who could make you happy for ever just becarefull lots of girls putting up fronts out there.

 

i was with my wife 9 years before we got married, the time was right and she said yes.

i just turned 30 and she was 28. i think it should be put off a little longer than some want

 

I'm nowhere close. I figure around 30, I'll start to think about it.

 

I don't think i'd consider it before turning 30, and if any of my friends were to ask me i'd say wait until at least then. But everyone's different. My aunt and uncle were engaged in (if I remember correctly) their early 20s after knowing each other for maybe 9 months. They've been together for 40 years and are still madly in love with each other.

 

I'm 28, married 2 1/2 years, my wife is 23.

 

Generally speaking, yes, but as mentioned in other posts, everone is different.

I'll be 34 when I get married in August. She'll be 32.

I have noticed, though, that people over 35, tend to have shorter times between meeting, engagement and marriage. Usually less than 18 months between meeting and getting married.

 

My parents married young. I could care less. I'll be going to grad school for my PhD and exposing society's bread and circuses. Marriage is for the unwashed dirty masses.

 

I'd like to get married before 30

 

most 20 something are just starting out. and starting out with a family is not a good start, and I do see some people marry for some bs reason. But alot has to do with the people, i just feel it is a little too early for our society

 

My fiancee is 21 and I'm 23. We've been together for a little over three years and feel it's time for us to get married. There's really no compelling reason for us to not get married, and many reasons *for* us to get married (namely I have a good job with steady income, we love each other, etc.).

Basically, if you're ready, go for it. If not, wait. There's no rush on these things. Even though we're getting married pretty young, we're ready for it. But just as there's no rush on it, there's no reason to put it off because you're under 30. Just do what you're comfortable with, that's all.

 

Each person is different and so are their circumstances.

There are some who are ready at 21.. and there are some who arent ready ever. Its all about knowing who YOU are, your beliefs, preferences and knowing your strengths and weaknesses. Are you honest with yourself on what you need to be doing? Can you communicate well?

Just some things to think over

Personally I think you should NEVER marry unless he/she is your best friend.

 

I think early 20s is young, while upper 20s to mid 30s is perfect. Of course it depends on the person, but this is generalizing. I want to be out of school before I marry.

 

Yep. I'm 30 & have no plans. I like being single. I like my freedom.

I'm not opposed to marriage. When I'm ready is when it will happen.

I have friends the same age who are married, & know people who are 20-25 & married.

 

psstt, jen did you hear this??

 

I don't think so. The correct age to get married is whenever you BOTH are ready - regardless of how old you are.

My wife and I got married when we were both 27, but had dated since we were 22.... I think a 5-year "ramp-up" is enough to warrant a marriage before age 30.

 

I'm not getting hitched until I'm done with school. Chance are, I'll be going to grad school, so I won't be done before he's 30. Looks like he'll be going to India to find a wife.

 

Guy at work just did that. Can't imagine how.

 

I'll get married when I feel I've experienced enough...and I feel that I'm ready with a girl I LOVE...not like. So that could be 5 months from now....when I'm 35....or it may never happen. I don't think about it too much...but I do want to have kids though. It will all work itself out in the end!

 

Eh, we know we did it young, but we lived together for three years and then in an LDR for 6 months and still wanted to do it, so we did. And then we lived another 6 months in an LDR and I'm moving back in with him and it's like I never left. We won't be having kids or buying a house probably till we're in our late 20s or around 30, but if we were gonna live together anyway, might as well get the tax break associated with getting married. It actually made more financial sense to go ahead and link up than it would have to stay separate for five or six more years. While I got fatter and fatter...

 

I tried that, it didn't work for me

 

I think whenever your ready to get married is the right time.

 

Ill get a wife from india... but ill still keep you as my girlfriend.

 

Couldn't find a nice Indian girl?

 

am I missing something? Isn't it usually called the marriage penalty?

 

the wife and i were living together b/f we got married for a few years, it all comes together at the riight time

 

 

to each his own.....

 

I wouldnt live with anyone before marriage. Im old fashion.

 

im getting married this spring at 22, hell be a month shy of 25. Weve been engaged for three years (because I felt I was too young at 19,20 and 21.) And we were no where near financially ready.
Hes about to graduate from college and should have a steady income (ill be in school forever so waiting for me is a no go), and weve been living together for 3.5 years now.
It seems perfect timing and itll help me with other things financially (i can get a school loan easier cause ill be deemed independent of my parents, i can get onto his health insurance from his job..)

but for kids? no where near ready for that and getting married doesnt mean im going to pop a kid out anytime soon.

 

Late 20s to mid 30s is best IMO.

 

Translation: My parents would kill me if I even mentioned it.

 

pretty much

 

LOL@ listening to your parents

Seriously, you'd let their opinion keep you from living with an SO before you're married?

 

To be honest im pretty open to it. But its really looked down upon in the indian culture.

Then again im not the model indian