AZ Crew, hope everyone is doing well! Haven't posted in here for a long while.

I'll make this short and sweet as possible, looking for your opinions...

I was in a relationship for about 18 months with the girl of my dreams, everything was going perfect up until a couple months ago when she ended it. It was random and unpredictable, like a flip just switched. No clear reason was given by her, that is besides the point though. I'm young and there are plenty of fish in the sea. 75% of our relationship was long distance, we would see rachother abour 3-4 times a month and we live a little over 2 hours apart. I am a recent college graduate and she was still in school, I was waiting on her to graduate and she was planning to move in with me once she was done.

Anyway, on with the main point. I gave her a few pieces of jewelry during our time together. Nothing too fancy or expensive, but still name brand stuff. I believe she may pawn the stuff or just put it away somewhere. I would rather her not have the items, as I feel she does not deserve them due to how she treated me. I have not communicated with her since this all went down, just now really getting over it.

So, what is the proper process of getting these items back? Like i said before we live a little over 2 hours away from each other. Was thinking I could send her a prepaid shipper box that she can return to me? (not sure if she would do this, though)

-Blake

 

Ummmm you don't. You gave them to her as gifts. They are hers now. She is free to do with them as she pleases.

 

that's a good point, and I partially agree. I just don't want her to profit off of the items.

 

tough.

they were gifts, you two are over, she gets to do with them as she pleases.

you sound a little naive for 23

 

is this real life?

you guys broke up and you want the jewelry back? a prepaid shipping box? are you kidding me?

 

I missed that part

That would be awesome if he did that, and the package was returned filled with the used condoms of who ever it is she has been banging since right before she dumped him.

 

My thoughts exactly.

 

The reason she broke off the relationship is because she found someone else. Women are always looking for something better(someone better looking or with more money) to come along then they jump ship. She could also be the type to have many relationships so she can get gifts/money from more than 1 guy. Long distance relationships are great for taking advantage of guys like that.

You gave her the jewelery as gifts. She will sell it. You have to deal with it and move on.

Women are like cars, you can't expect to get back the money you put into them.

Send her the box and report back what she put inside of it.

 

^That is until you find the right one.

















Ok maybe not even then.

 

i actually would like to make a request.

do send her the prepaid shipping box, but make sure you put a lot of postage on it because i'd expect that you'd get back a lot more than some shitty jewelry.

 

thanks for the comments guys! i'll just let it all go.

 

Sometimes, as a man, you gotta cut your losses and act like one.

This is one of those times.

It probably stings a bit but that's ok, it's a good learning experience.

 

definitely a good learning experience. Was my first serious relationship. Gotta live and learn!

 

OP: as mentioned by others, once you give a gift (especially if it's inexpensive), it's just part of the cost of being in a relationship. It's not like we're talking about an engagement ring or anything.

 

 

She could send them to the bottome of Mount Doom. You gave them to her. End of story. It doesn't matter if she tries to sell them or not.

 

This ^^^

I had ex's tell me later that they pawned whatever I gave them, I just laughed about it. I've had some nice bonfires with their stuff

 

best analogy ever.

 

Missed the part about sending her a prepaid box. I think you should do it and report back what you get returned.

 

Before we got married I gave my wife somewhere around 10k in jewelry or substancial gifts last being the wedding band. Once you give them, they're gone. The only way I would expect to get anything back, including an engagement ring would be if she just gave it back, Id never ask, or expect it.


I'd also like to suggest you try with the prepaid box though

 

I skipped over it at first too until I saw the responses below it

Please send her the prepaid box, and document everything on here with pictures

 

were gonna need a bigger box.

 

oh and since no one else has asked

 

Everyone said everything I was thinking after reading the OP. Live and learn

 

Didn't Roy Williams (former longhorn/cowboy WR) try to get jewelry back from an ex a few years back? I believe he failed and everyone had a good laugh.

 

Blake,
Sorry to hear, but I think you are SOL as mentioned. Now that you are back in DFW, start the hunt for the next one.
I would love to see the prepaid box thing to see what she sends.

 

I know of a lot of sexy, crazy, wild married women in the DFW...if interested. Lol

 

They were a gift and are legally now hers. Just watch some Judge Judy. They have cases with this stuff all the time. Same with loans as "gifts".
Vice versa with her gifts to you too.
Sorry man.

 

This is exactly why I don't:

A. Buy expensive gifts for girls (I'll save them for my future wife)

B. Leave anything at their house/car that I might care about or is valuable. I also don't like them leaving stuff at my house because it's just stuff that has to be returned if/when it ends. Can't remember how many good hats I lost this way when younger...live and learn


This is very coincidental actually. I had a girl send me a really bitter/bitchy sounding email not long after I broke up with her essentially saying please return everything I ever gave you (all junk). One item she listed was a gift* from her Dad that she wanted me to send back.

*Not really a gift, just something he didn't want that I did and he gave to me

Everybody got a good laugh out of it, and of course I didn't respond or return a fucking thing

 

^ Same girl also sent me a text saying "Please delete any pictures you have of me (clothed or otherwise)"

 

Who gives a f**k what she thinks? She's his ex. Send out the box

 

 

you can't post that and not have any pics to share!

 

Oh to be 23 again.

 

Dude, make sure she regurgitates all the food you ever paid for, that bitch!

(be a proud man, and just move on)

 

 

 

Just go down to the local sewage plant to collect

 

You guys crack me up!

 

More like high school.

Ill take care of it, send me her address.