My ex have been dating for about a year on and off. We broke up 2 times already for reasons of her not wanting a boyfriend and not being ready. Everytime we have both hooked up with other people but we still kinda have those times where we meet up and have sex. Now she comes back to me and tells me that she is totally into me now and has no doubts. I love the girl to death and love spending time with her but she has this friend that i cant stand and she is a bad influence. I now I cant tell her not to hang out with her but I just get a bad feeling when they hang out. The problem is that I kinda have doubts about what she is saying. Should I take her back or should I forget about it. I dont know what to do?????

 

so you don't believe her when she says she's got her shit together?

you shouldn't.

not after this happening twice....she only keeps coming back b/c you keep letting her..

about the friend: do you mean this friend is going to influence your gf to break up with you? if they go out together do they get all wild and crazy and you think she's cheating?

 

and your gf is a big girl i'm sure..old enough to make her decisions about messing around with you without any encouragement..

 

How old is she? I see you're 21, so I assume she's about the same age. Youth hasa funny way of causing people to not get serious. Why exactly does she want to get serious now? Is it because of her friend that you two didn't get serious before? What does her friend have to do with the two of you?

 

They go out and go crazy and she hooks up with people. To be honest this is not her personality. i Knew her for a while( not good friends but I knew her). she jsut isnt like that but when she goes out with this girl, she goes crazy.

 

Sorry to break it to you, but that's her personality. People don't hook up with strangers just because her friend is there.

 

Maybe your right! I think that its because the other girl is constantly hooking up with a different guy and she jut tries to fit in. I cant really make excuses for her but I am just stumped on whether to give her another chance or not. She tells me that this last break up made her realize how much she cares about me and that she sees how good I was to her and she wants to take me seriously but I dont know if I can trust her.

 

Sounds like more trouble than she's worth.

 

If you already question your trust for her, the relationship will be doomed before it starts. My suggestion, if you really want to give it a shot, is talk about all these issues with her before getting involved with her.

 

If you broke up even once, it's not worth it.

These on/off relationships, rarely work out.

Save yourself the trouble & move on.

 

And you can't blame the booze either because from everything i've experienced the way someone acts when they get drunk (past highschool anyway) is a very good indication of character.

 

I'd suggest finding a grown up and throw that child out of your life.

 

You broke up the first time for a reason, you broke up again the second time for a reason...why bother making it a third? It's like shooting yourself in the foot, it heals and you do it again. The first and second time you learn, the third time your just asking for trouble.
I think it's pretty clear that most people think it's a bad idea.

 

Here is my take...

You are too young to be in a committed relationship, so just play nice and enjoy the sex....

Also, don't get her or any other girl preggie!!!

 

My I sure hope you aren't allergic to penicillin, cuz with her hooking up with multiple other guys then coming back repeatedly you're gonna need it in the very near future. There is a word for women like her, rhymes with more. It isn't her friends and if it is she has a weak personality or sense of worth to begin with. Get it? Now get over it (her) - not worth your time.

 

tell her the friend goes, or you go. easy solution for you

 

i'd just play it casual with her and enjoy the sex like Eggplant said

 

A relationship is built on trust. Period. If you are going to sit there and make your self sick about if she is hooking up or whoring the town - IT'S NOT WORTH IT. It is hard to give up the one you care about, especially since I'm guessing this is the first girl you fell hard for. (?) In the big picture - you will happy about it in the future. You don't need to date some one like this.

There are a ton of girls out there, live it up and kick her to the curb.