In terms of women that is...

Recently I was talking to this dude I was crushing on right before I hooked up with my current bf (around a month ago). The guy I was crushing on basically said that the reason we didn't hook up is that he couldn't afford me. He said that my family would look down on him (really asian thing), he couldn't get me anything I wanted/don't already have, and he feels intimidated.

First of all, I don't give a crap about a guy not buying me anything fancy, I can do that on my own...and my family would have loved him as long as he made me happy. Was money an issue for any of you guys? Do men really think that way? I know he wasn't BSing, I've known him for a while and the issue has come up before...but why would a guy be scared off by something like that?. He and I could have been really happy together, arghhh

 

People like to say it doesn't but it does.

The man has to feel like the provider and protector. If you can do it all without him he tends to feel useless in the relationship. Like he has no purpose.

 

Women who capture my heart tend to get spoiled by me, but to me no money is not that large of an issue. Last girl i dated made more money then I do. Didnt bother either of us. They know im not mooching off them, and if i get the feeling im being mooched off of, then good bye.

But i agree with red-cl I do like to feel like a provider. At least an equal, i dont have to pay all the time, but its usually when youve worn me out in fighting about whos paying.

 

Shit If I can find a woman that makes more than me and is happy with herself then I would pick her up in an instant!!!

 

i know what girls are in it for the dough, it aint hard to tell

 

Geisha,

I've never heard of a man turning a woman down because he can't afford her... maybe after he sleeps with her and she is crappy in bed, but otherwise- NO! Sounds to me like he just wasn't too interested; or maybe it was a culture related issue that I am not familiar with.

Women- on the other hand, are different. 70% of them want a man that can spoil them. Do looks matter? YES! Does kindness matter? NO... Chivalry? NO... A good job and a sense of humor? Maybe... It's all about the money and the looks... I'll keep my eye out for that other 30%... thanks

 

i dont give a shit about money... I honestly havea hard tme letting my dates and/or female friend pay for anything... I like when ladies offer to pay... I let them pay for the $20 movie while i cover $100 dinner... I have dated very wealthy broads and I am not wealthy at all... It should make no difference... As long as you are into one another the money is non existant with the world around the 2 of you!

 

but usually if there is a strong relationship it all works out, but the guy does like to feel like he is a provider

 

wow I am the opposite of that.

I don't like dating poor chicks.

 

$$$ doesn't matter. However I don't really attract women that are flat ass broke.


Cept, my stupid ass ho-bag ex. I had to pay for everything for that bitch. Although she's such a compulsive liar she'd say the same for me probably.

$$$ doesn't matter. Sex and power do.

 

I hope not...I'm broke as a joke.

 

money matters, of course. Whoever believes in "Love is everything" is either still in puberty or never had a serious relationship. Money, I meant a sense of security for girls. Women need security, mental security, physical security and, of course, monetary security. Women probably don't want a Donald Trump with loads of money, but at least enough so not to worry.

I used believe in power of love, yeah, maybe for like first few weeks/months, but reality soon kicks in and all hell breaks loose. I am going through one right now, and trying to look at the bright side of everything.

What I am saying, love and security, both are most important.

 

Money is how I started talking to this waitress. I gave her a $20 tip for Christmas as she gave my friend and me great service at the diner, checking to see if we needed things every 2 minutes, refreshing our drinks, etc.. Now she kisses and hugs me every time I walk into the diner and I've never seen her do that with another customer. I think girls appreciate it when a guy's not cheap and btw, I only give her regular tips after Christmas (15%) and she still shows me much affection so showing a girl you're not cheap can go a long way.

 

1) 99% of women are money grubbing whores.

2) Women are money pits no matter how you look at them. Almost everyone i know who is broke is broke because they spend tons of money on their woman.

I like to call them (the guys who spend the money) pussies who buy their sex.

 

I could use a "Sugar Mama"

What's the old saying ?? I'm looking for a blonde nympho manic who's father owns a Ferrari dealership

Nahh, it don't matter

 

bro if i am droppin major cash on a chic she better be the one i marry, i aint trying to get caught up spending all my dough on some random female:P

 

You never want to look like a cheap bastard. Money matters a lot.

 

none of that matters to me. i like the guy to have his own money (i dont like freeloaders), and I like to make my own, so i dont have to answer about all the stuff i buy.

sure i like gifts, who doesnt.. but my bf has been supporting me while i was out of a job and i really like making my own money much better

 

DING DING..I did it.

Makes more and almost 12 years younger than me. :bananahump:

 

 

If they know you got money they can get over the fact that you LOOK cheap.

 

sounds like its probably an azn thing. As far as us indians go, getting together with someone of a different socio-economic class can be kinda complicated. As a guy feeling like he comes from a financial situation that is below yours, it sounds like he's kinda intimidated by that, and by the idea that he doesn't feel like he'd be accepted by your fam because he doesn't think he'd be able to provide for you the way you're used to. Its usually easier for a girl to make the "step up" by finding a wealthier guy than it is for a poor guy to get with a wealthier girl...especially in azn circles....

 

OMG chang, I was just gonna tell you about that shit. Me and my--my moms and I, lol, was talking about that. How guys could possibly get scared off from you because you talk about all you have. Don't do those lol.. that's probably why jusst doing toilet bowl moves. SMDH. lol.. We'll talk about it later.. remind me, maryjane got me fucT. :blaze:

 

money talks...and bullshit walks

golddiggers run rampant around here

 

haha damn just make me sound like a braggart jk hehe...why didn't you let a bish know earlier??? If being po' is all it takes to get guys I'll gladly trade my NM card and go Wal-Mart'in it

 

werd

 

I see people break up because of money and also friends stop being friends because of money. That just the way it is it. Money is important because it does buy a large part of our life that makes us happy. ie, cars, clothes, food, jewelery. I admit it is not everything and can go either way. Too much money will ruin a relationshoip and not enough money can put stress on a relationship.

 

i agree w/ uu 200%!!

 

Your one lucky bastard!!!:pfawk:
I'm jealous of you now!!! But heres a for your find!

 

You are so right. I am one lucky bastard.

 

:whocares:

:nutkick:
not anymore!!!!

 

my girl is a rare find......doesnt give a shit about money....I have to pretend that I dont care either...... even though secretly I'm trying to make as much as I can... I want the bling bling damnit

 

okay on this issue:
it depends on the girl. My ex was all about the benjamins.Basically if you didn't have the paper she wouldn't give you the time of the day.

my new girl she's the opposite. she doesn't care about money.
I'm not knocking on her but she had a rough childhood so she knows what it's like to struggle.

 

Money or size. It doesn't matter which you have; you just have to have one of the two...

 

Phew...at least I have a chance, then. I guess money ain't everything. :o

 

sounds like someone on this board is a snob

 

I dunno, its a wierd situation. I know of so many girls who just want to be showered in gifts...and if you don't, then you're out. yea, u prob. wanna stay away from these types. They're usually spoiled and shit

Right now I'm dating a girl who is a lot wealthier than i am....well i mean, at least she comes from a richer family and stuff. their appartment is in a really nice part of nyc and its crazy nice. But she really doesn't care too much about money (or at least that's what she tells me) and shes really understanding. Its a littel wierd, cuase i guess shes used to like going out all the time and stuff, like always eating out, and somewhere inside i feel kinda wierd, and maybe a little cheap if i'm like, hey lets split and stuff. you can't always pay for a girl, but splitting most of the time can make you feel like you're unable to provide or that you're not good enough.

But as I said before, she really doenst care (unless i'm a complete mooch, which i'm not), and she makes me feel really comfortable about it. So its def something that can be overcome if you want and if both people view the financial situation the same way. Like i pay for her a bunch, but she also pays for me sometimes, and then we occasionally split. So it works out fine. Plus its good for me too...her parents may pay for a flight for her out to australia to visit me when i'm studying abroad.

 

 

CLPower called it!!!!

 

Not sure what's funnier; the bump or the fact that Water-S said "my ex was all about the Benjamins"