Shes only 45 min away, and I'll drive to see her/ hang out with friends every weekend. (dont know how much i'd see her on the weekends though...maybe once or twice) Wont see eachother at all during the weekdays....

What do you all think? Does long distance work or not? (im aware this 45min drive really isnt long distance) But, being apart for days @ a time creates possibilitys for other bad thing...like cheating and stuff....w/o the other person knowing)

I'm just courious...what do you all think??

 

Depends on the strength of your relationship, maturity, and distance. I had 2 before and they didn't work as we would only see each other during the holidays and summer break. I am not optimistic about it now but I guess I am open if the guy is worth it.

In your case, she's not that far from you and you will see each other regularly. I wouldn't worry if I were you.

 

How long have you been together?

sounds corny but if you guys are "genuinely" friends as well as a couple (like, you enjoy talking to her about general things, not just because you are in a relationship) probably will work cause it's not too far away from each other...

long distance depends on the time frame of the relationship being long distance.....those people that are long-distance for like 3 years, I think they're crazy personally..(although i have a friend that just got married, been w/ her boyfriend for 8 yrs, only lived in the same city as him for 1&1/2 years...)

I think if you don't have a definite time frame for the long distance to end and to be together, the relationship will eventually fizzle (start to go longer and longer w/o talking, making so many new friends that both people don't know, having less and less in common)

it's not impossible, just how much it's worth to you.....

 

Sounds like you have trust issues and not long distance issues.

 

omg, 45 minutes is perfect! You guys can keep your distance during the week and hang out on the weekends. Neither person is smothering the other... wanting to meet all the time.

...and there's always the excuse to spend the night at one person's house after you guys go out!

 

45 minutes It takes me twice that time just to get to work every day.

 

lol, I was thinking the same thing.

 

umm...it will be long distance for probably the next 10 months ....basically, shes going back to KU & shes in a sorority (= frat parties and stuff i wont be able to go to) and Im staying home this year to get some harder classes outta the way @ the local community college and to work and save some $$ (shes in the sorority and im with the parents...= NO spending the night...which sucks..)

Its just hard cuz of the whole college thing...

 

Think of it as a test... if it works out while you guys are apart, then there's definitely a future with her.

If not, move on. You're only 19!

 

living 45 minutes away is a test?

 

I thought they are 45 minutes away now, but shes moving back to school in the fall (which is more than 45 min away?)



Either way, I'm guessing its not the physical distance thats the problem, it's the different lifestyles they will be living.

 

the only think that sucks is that *IF* something did happen...i'd probably never know about it... (ie. if she did cheat or somethin) I really dont think she would...but its just that "out situation" creates that possibility

 

No, i think the 45 minutes is when she "moves away" in the fall.


But ya i dont think this has anything to do with the hardships of "long distance relationships". It sounds like there are some trust issues and hes just not trusting her now that she will be living a college lifestyle.

 

Weren't u having major issues with this chick already? Honestly bro, if you're having issues, AND moving farther away, I see nothing but doom for this relationship. I can tell u from experience, LD relationships don't work, eventually u either get sick of it, cheat or get cheated on, or one moves to be close to the other. I don't know the exact distance you'll be away, but it sounds too far. I'd say keep your head up, try it, but don't expect it to last. And remember that there are plenty of girls closer, nearby to you that you can pursue if it doesn't work.

 

Let's see, you're at home with your parents, she's gonna be having fun with her sorority sisters 6 nights a week. You're probably gonna become clingy and needy to her since you'll be bored and calling her all the time and she's gonna hookup with some frat guy because the rest of her sisters are doing it too. The only way you can avoid this is to not suck as much as the frat guys and don't turn into a needy pussy.

 

no

 

YES if you really really love the other person

 

damn, 45min drive?! you have it good. i still consider that local if ever you need some "action."

5hr plane ride for me to get my action on. but, we've been together for awhile now, so it's not like i'm throwing lyrics to other girls left, right and center...

 

my fiance lives in NYC and I live in chicago. We have been doing this for over a year now. We got engaged like 2 months ago. It works fine if you want to work.
The things that i think that have helped make it work (it honesly hasnt been that hard)\


1) TRUST , TRUST, TRUST. You guys can't get anywhere if you dont trust what the other one is doing
2) You have to really wanna make it work. No half assing
3) We make sure we see each other once a month no matter what.

edit: i just saw you guys are 45 mintues a part. You are a jackass. long distance, dumbass

 

Not with me.

 

Harsh........but true

I knew a few girls in college that had a boyfriend back home who they were very committed to. When the BF would come down to visit, he was usually a cool ass dude who could comingle with us all and not worry that he was the new guy or the BF.

I ALSO hooked up with a few girls in college who had BF's back home. When the BF would come to visit, he was a needy, clingy pussy who felt threatened when he was in our environment. Suprise suprise that they let me I wouldnt usually find out about the bf till after the fact anyway.

Which guy are you? As harsh as it sounds, thats the path you will live.