So here is some background:
Met this girl in highschool, she has a smoking body, and great personality. She was alway dating someone, or I was, so nothing ever happend during HS. I grauate, then she does, she was a ear under me, and we go our seperate ways.

About a year later, off of a whim, I call her up and we date for a months. We were both very young, and it really didn't work as I traveled a lot and was a very jealous person. Long stoy short, I ended it, very badly mind you.

Skip forward another year. I am home for summer from College, single, and she is in town recently broken up. The two of us are simply looking for attention, and we have a little fling before I left again.

Fast forward a couple of years to about a month ago. She is back from her year abroad, and is tired of living with her asshole father. I casually mention that I had an extra room in my house. A month later, after coming back from a short stint with the peacecore in Mexico, she moves in.

She is hotter than ever, and a completley different person. She has matured incredibly, and still has her great personality. I myself have grown, and am a different person. As soon as she moves in, we are playing, flirting etc. Last night, she just happened to sleep in my bed

So here is my question: am I playing with fire by playing around with her? We both agreed that we just want attention, and that a serious relationship is not in store. However, she will probably be living with me until at least December, and is stil going to college. She does pay rent, practically nothing, and is currently helping me build a deck. Do I need to cut this thing off before anything more happens? We both enjoy each others company a lot, but I am just worried about what would happen should we "split" and she continues to live with me-and brings other guys home.

What, O great Gods of the D&R AZ forum, should I do?

 

I voted no. But after rethinking, if you're just in it for the fun, then why not? Just ride it out. You've got nothing to lose.
Personally, I'm the jealous type, so if the chick was staying with me and bringing other guys home, I'd be pissed.

 

 

Wow - that's a tough one. I can't decide on what to vote. If you think you can handle a "friends with benefits" type of relationship then go for it. If you don't think you or her could do that, then you might want to cool it off a bit.

From your last comment, it sounds like you'd have a rough time seeing her with other guys. Perhaps you have more feelings for her than you're willing to admit?

 

I don't see anything that precludes even a meaningful relationship. You two clearly like each other very much, I say continue seeing her and see where it goes

 

dont see a problem with it as long as both of you know you are on the same page with things.

would you bring home other women?

 

Keep her for a f buddy but not for a relationship. Are you man enough to handle it?

 

Wait....so within all that time you never banged her?

I dont see this going anywhere....Abort! You're in the friend zone.

 

Um, I have, multiple times.

I am interested in her, but then again, I have alway been interested in her. We have had a friends with benefits relationship before, and it worked out fine.

I was the jealous type, but have been really working on shunning that aweful evil. If shit goes south, I think that this would be an excellent time to test out the work.

We are both clear about her intentions, and mine for that matter. I am the type of guy to hang in there and see what happens. If it develops into something more, great, otherwise, it was a hell of ride along the way

 

Exactly what I was thinking. But, she is really not sure what she wants to do with her life, not a big surprise, and it really scares her. She wants to have a plan before jumping into something long term. Plus, she has had some real "winners" in the past and is almost at the point of hating all men-well, almost all

 

Dude, I dont know why you need advice. It seems like you know what you want to begin with...just go for it. No Regrets

 

No one is saying you should propose... She and you are obviously happy together, and are currently having fun . You may as well try it on for size at some point.

Mike

 

Just make sure she continues paying rent/helping around the house.

 

Well, yes, I know what I want-but is it the right thing to do? I guess I am just a little concerned should something go wrong . . . oh well,

 

Trust me, no problem there.

 

So basicly you want a girl who will bang you and pay you for it?

I dont see the problem. Unless things get bad between you two and then she does bring guys home. That would be weird for you both, no?

Or would you kick her out before that.

 

Well wouldn't your ideal girflriend(dreaded words: spouse) be your best friend in addition to being smart, funny, and extremely hot?

Mike

 

It is going to bite you in the ass. If she's moving in, there's no way in hell she'll be your FAF without it progressing to something else. If you like her enough, just go for it!

And btw,

 

Sounds like shes semi using you (cheap rent, attention whoring)... and youre doing the same back.

Dont fall for her, and youre good to go.

 

That's awesome. You like her, and she pays the rent. What more do you think you could ask for?

 

If you like her, go for it...


And, ...

 

i say if you like her and you want it to go places.. then by all means go for it... i mean.. she is living in ur house.. dont have to go far to pick her up! but then again.. if you decide not to go with it, then i still see a slight prob.

when she eventually starts bringing other dudes to "visit", you may start that jealousy thing again cause u may have this "what if" feeling.

 

You let some broad live in your house for practically no rent? You better have cock sucking on demand or else she should gett he boot.

Set up some cameras aroudn the house so you have collateral incase the deal goes sour. Can never be too safe. I would just keep hitting it until you get bored.

 

Whats "FAF"?

If it progresses into something more, then great, but I am not getting my hopes up.

Pics-that will have to wait, don't have any right now. I'll work on gettin some though.

 

fuckin ass fuck???
fuck inthe ass friend??
frequently asked fuckers??
Friends inthe Air force???
help me out here.. im running out shit to use!

 

It sounds to me as though you like her more than you're letting on. Would it bother you at all if she had to go back on duty?

It sounds like this arrangement you have is working at the moment. It's convenient for both of you, and it's better to have a roomate that you know than a stranger.

You've already banged her, but I'd be worried about getting too attached. She sounds like a very 'free spirit' type of person who could leave at a moment's notice. You should really stop thinking about a relationship, because I've been with someone like that, and when they leave it feels so cold.

 

do what needs to be done.

 

wait to see what happens, like someone else said no regrets... would you rather have her stay with you till dec and not bang her ever again and have her start bringin other guys back now?

run with it, if it doesn't work out in the end then it doesn't... life goes on... just make sure you don't get more attached than she does...

 

As you don't live by yourself, how is your housemate with this.
Annie could be in a bad position if you two go bad.

 

Yeah, well, she doesn't know anything yet-although I didn't even think about her coming into this section-could be bad news already

She is moving out soon, so it could be a great thing or a very, very bad thing. Only time will tell.

 

Who's Annie? Your sis?

 

 

Gotcha... I think she'll find out soon once she wanders in here.

Anyway, the boundaries have been defined. The only issue here is whether you can prevent yourself from developing feelings for her, which is of course hard to predict.

How do you see her right now, just someone to have fun with or more than that? How do you think you will feel once she starts to date someone?

 

That about sums it up. You have to picture coming home to find her with some unworthy schmuck. Then reverse it... if you meet someone else and bring her home, will the roommate's presence make it more awkward?

 

Already spoke with her

On another note, the entire relationship just flipped a huge 180. It was a very long night last night-too much to type now. I will be asking for new, and unfornatley more serious, advice later.

 

And at first I was going to call you today to ask about the coilovers and to deliver a little something that I received yesterday that also has contents for you and Annie. I guess now there may be more to discuss.