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Old Jun 29, 2004 | 08:13 AM
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The day after...

Okay, long story short last night a friend of mine who I've been attracted to for the longest time invites me over. This wasnt the first invite, all the previous ones I had turned down because I had a bf, but now that I didnt have one I decided to take him up on the offer. Needless to say some went on and a lot of . My dilemma is that I have no idea how to act around him now. The thing is that he has a gf, who I really dont give a shit about since I dont know her and from what I've seen of her she seems like a real bitch anyway. I dont want a relationship with him, I just kind of want to keep what we have going as long as possible or until he gets caught. How do I let him know that I want to keep it going? We talked about continuing it into old age but I dont know if he was serious and I want to let him know that I'm serious about it. A woman has to get hers somehow right

If that made no sense I basically want to know what would be the most beneficial way to act around him now, and how to keep this going.
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Old Jun 29, 2004 | 08:15 AM
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call him up and go "wanna fuck?"

but make sure its not a female voice that answers the phone
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Old Jun 29, 2004 | 08:20 AM
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Act normal...that way, he knows u dont want a relationship...just fuck friends...
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Old Jun 29, 2004 | 08:21 AM
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Wow, so geisha is the other woman. God damned hawaiian bishes
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Old Jun 29, 2004 | 08:53 AM
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Once again I have to say...



I hope to see...

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Old Jun 29, 2004 | 09:37 AM
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very nice geisha, the best way is the simplist way, just tell him that right away. the world could use more girls like you.
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Old Jun 29, 2004 | 10:38 AM
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I have had a relationship like this with agirl for the past 4 years, except she is the one that has been in a relationship the whole time and I am the "other man".

Basically when we are around each other we act like the friends that we are, nobody else except two of my boys who never hang around her know what we are doing, and I don't think any of her friends knows. We have an unspoken agreement that when I invite her over to my apartment it means that we are going to fuck, to this day we have never uttered the words "lets have sex" it's just known if we are alone in a safe place we are fucking.

We fucked on Friday after she came over to "pick something up" her family and my family have been long time friends, and she has had a boyfrined for about 5 years now so nobody even thinks twice if they heard she stopped by my place they just assume she's getting something for her Mom that my aunt gave to me to give to her or whatever. She did start feeling guilty this last time though saying that she had to find a way to stop having sex with me.......as she stroked my cock I said I understood and that anytime she wanted to stop I would be cool, then she gave me a blowjob heheheheheh..............The Wad is irresistible!
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Old Jun 29, 2004 | 11:23 AM
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^ nice
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Old Jun 29, 2004 | 11:27 AM
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why not just send him a link to this post. Seriously he will be cool with it.
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Old Jun 29, 2004 | 02:10 PM
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just act normal. if you guys used to hang out, keep hanging out, even if you don't hook up that day. if you want some, go over! if you don't, that doesn't mean you can't hang out w/ him "as friends" or whatever.

i think you're in a win-win situation. i doubt you can do anything wrong girl... more power to ya!
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Old Jun 29, 2004 | 02:37 PM
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Way to go Geisha!!!
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Old Jun 29, 2004 | 02:44 PM
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Old Jun 29, 2004 | 02:47 PM
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lemme get this straight, just because you think his GF is a bitch, it's ok for you to be his fuck buddy?
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Old Jun 29, 2004 | 02:52 PM
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why not just send him a link to this post. Seriously he will be cool with it.

My thinking exactly.
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Old Jun 29, 2004 | 03:11 PM
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I just dont believe in the cheating matter, my ex did that and it was the worst thing you could do. He should just end it with her and you two just have your "friendship". I still give you the for gettin yours, but what if a guy you were dating was doing that to you.
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Old Jun 29, 2004 | 03:28 PM
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hey geisha you wanna ummm come over and watch ummm movies at my crib?
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Old Jun 29, 2004 | 03:51 PM
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why are people in relationships while they're fucking other people?
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Old Jun 29, 2004 | 03:55 PM
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I wonder the same thing myself then I see sites like:

www.nasca.com/
www.swingingheaven.co.uk/clubs/
www.searching4swingers.com/

and then i realize why!

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Old Jun 29, 2004 | 03:56 PM
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disappointing in so many ways....
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Old Jun 29, 2004 | 04:30 PM
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"The thing is that he has a gf, who I really dont give a shit about since I dont know her and from what I've seen of her she seems like a real bitch anyway."

Proof girls are evil.
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Old Jun 29, 2004 | 04:56 PM
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Originally Posted by bent09
"The thing is that he has a gf, who I really dont give a shit about since I dont know her and from what I've seen of her she seems like a real bitch anyway."

Proof girls are evil.
We needed proof?
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Old Jun 29, 2004 | 05:13 PM
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We needed proof?
For real.
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Old Jun 29, 2004 | 06:18 PM
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Old Jun 29, 2004 | 06:33 PM
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you know.. its really fucking gay that when a guy posts about sleeping with another girl behind his girlfriends back, most of you dont mind and think theres nothing wrong with it.

but oh.. no no, dont let a woman sleep with someone whos in a relationship. poo on you all.
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Old Jun 29, 2004 | 06:37 PM
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Old Jun 29, 2004 | 06:46 PM
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Originally Posted by cmark
lemme get this straight, just because you think his GF is a bitch, it's ok for you to be his fuck buddy?

If hes going to be an asshole anyway, whether it be with me or some other chick, why shouldnt I be the one to benefit from it? I am not looking to STEAL him, just take advantage of an ideal situation. I dont want a relationship, as Rachael pointed out in IM why would I want a relationship with someone who is just going to cheat on me too And yeah it would suck if I were dating someone who was cheating on me, but at least that would prevent me from marrying someone who was cheating on me, granted he gets caught. Thats life though. The only reason I mentioned that I didnt know her and that she seems like a bitch anyway is to show that I dont have an obligation to her, she isnt my girl or anything or someone that as a friend I'd want him to hold on to.

To everyone else thanks for the advice I think I will just act keep things the way they are, and if it happens again it happens and if it doesnt then I guess it was good while it lasted. the haters.
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Old Jun 29, 2004 | 06:53 PM
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Originally Posted by SilviaGTO
you know.. its really fucking gay that when a guy posts about sleeping with another girl behind his girlfriends back, most of you dont mind and think theres nothing wrong with it.

but oh.. no no, dont let a woman sleep with someone whos in a relationship. poo on you all.
I know you're not throwin' me in that "most" group.

Shit's wrong, no matter what.
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Old Jun 29, 2004 | 07:28 PM
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Originally Posted by SilviaGTO
you know.. its really fucking gay that when a guy posts about sleeping with another girl behind his girlfriends back, most of you dont mind and think theres nothing wrong with it.

but oh.. no no, dont let a woman sleep with someone whos in a relationship. poo on you all.
i agree.

i don't advocate cheating, but why is the girl always made out to be the bitch/slut? double standard is shit.
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Old Jun 29, 2004 | 07:46 PM
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Originally Posted by SilviaGTO
you know.. its really fucking gay that when a guy posts about sleeping with another girl behind his girlfriends back, most of you dont mind and think theres nothing wrong with it.

but oh.. no no, dont let a woman sleep with someone whos in a relationship. poo on you all.
also, that is a very stereotypical response. I never told anyone that i thought it was cool that they were cheating on someone.
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Old Jun 29, 2004 | 08:47 PM
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Originally Posted by SilviaGTO
you know.. its really fucking gay that when a guy posts about sleeping with another girl behind his girlfriends back, most of you dont mind and think theres nothing wrong with it.

but oh.. no no, dont let a woman sleep with someone whos in a relationship. poo on you all.
Shit I'm with you I got a neg rep point because of my story, I wonder who that was? show yourself pussy!


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Old Jun 30, 2004 | 12:45 AM
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Way to go Geisha...

His cheating is a problem, but not yours, you are looking out for number one, you don't even know the girl, if you knew here, then different story.
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Old Jun 30, 2004 | 12:47 AM
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^^^ exactly what I was trying to say from the beginning. Just looking out for number one!
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Old Jun 30, 2004 | 08:46 AM
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Originally Posted by GeishaGirl
^^^ exactly what I was trying to say from the beginning. Just looking out for number one!
what goes around, comes around.
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Old Jun 30, 2004 | 08:55 AM
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what goes around, comes around.
lol and its came around many times, I guess I shouldn't let down my guard just yet. Thanks for the heads up!
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Old Jun 30, 2004 | 09:31 AM
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lol and its came around many times, I guess I shouldn't let down my guard just yet. Thanks for the heads up!
everyone thinks that it has already come around....it'll get back to you in one way or another. It happens to me everytime
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Old Jun 30, 2004 | 09:34 AM
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^^that sucks...but I dont doubt what you say. It has come around many times and it wont stop coming around. There are no perfect people, so we end up just paying for our mistakes or wrongs over and over again...doesnt end anyway so screw it.
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Old Jun 30, 2004 | 09:51 AM
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Exactly Geisha you can't live your life being scared of everything.
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Old Jun 30, 2004 | 10:04 AM
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Old Jun 30, 2004 | 10:07 AM
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^^^^
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Old Jun 30, 2004 | 10:28 AM
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Originally Posted by SilviaGTO
you know.. its really fucking gay that when a guy posts about sleeping with another girl behind his girlfriends back, most of you dont mind and think theres nothing wrong with it.

but oh.. no no, dont let a woman sleep with someone whos in a relationship. poo on you all.

No, and that is not true for all of us here so show us some respect.

In respects to Geisha, I guess that's cool if you have no consideration for the girl on the other side of the bedroom. One day you'll be that girl on the other side of the bedroom and you'll feel the burns of Karma.
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