PortlandRL

This has always been one of my big no-nos but I'm thinking about crossing that line. My friend did this a few years ago and it did not end well. I've been talking to this girl I work with causally and I think we share a lot in common and that we really "click". This is something my friend did not have the advantage of.

Is this something I should not do? I'm very wary even thought I think she's great and very attractive.

einsatz

How closely do you work with her?
You only live once... so just think about how you would feel working there if you dated her and it ended up not working out.
How sane is she? If she's a vindictive or crazy type, she can make your life really suck if it doesn't work out and she starts messing with your work life.

FWIW, there are two couples in the office I work in now, both married. I personally wouldn't do it - especially since you're 21 and there are so many other women out there.

PortlandRL

Thanks for the advice. She seems to be very level-headed to me. Our jobs don't really cross paths all that much (she's in scheduling). I doubt I'll go through with it but it's a bit hard to think about passing up.

RaviNJCLs

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If there is going to be a fair amount of separation, then why not? I would say go for it.

imj0257

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I know of about 5 couples that work here. 2 Are on my floor and one pair of 'em even sit like 15 feet away from each other! That right there is too much for me. But also, there is this girl I think is hot and we also are clicking but #1 I know she has a bf and #2 she sits 10 feet away from me. However, if she didn't have a bf I would prolly still go for it.

stic2it

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This has been covered plenty of times before, I wouldn't do a relationship but fucking is all good. I personally won't ever mess with a girl that works in or around my place of work. You don't shit where you eat! Point blank! I unfortunately learned the very very hard way. A nice trip to jail!


Trust me don't do it, I get tempted all the time....My new co-worker is we eat lunch together, go out to the club and I won't do it....I enjoy all the haters around the job though

Whiskers

Considering the economy, I would just try to fuck her before you got laid off...

moeronn

That could be part of the severance package.

I say no, unless you don't care much for this job and can easily find another one.

Ken1997TL

Nice level headed girls are rare in Portland. Go for it!!

Berner

I dated a girl that I worked with in a Verizon retail store. We crossed paths about every 5 minutes. At the time I was 25 and she was 21. Everything was fine and good for a few months then we broke up. I had no problems working with her after that and it didnt bother me at all. She on the other hand made everything very awkward and acted very very immature everytime we would cross paths. I had to sit her down and explain the immaturity. She finally shaped up and was fine and we were friends after that. Never underestimate the crazyness of women.

SupaRookie

whiskers speak the truth.

Derk's K24

I wouldn't totally rule it out, you never know what you could be missing. My mom and step dad met at their work, ended up getting married, continued to work at the same place with offices right next to each other for 5 years and are perfectly happy. They've been married for 16 years. This may not be the case for everybody and you may not even be thinking that far down the road but you never know.

darksom1

Just hit it...no "shitting" where you eat man!

It's not about the good times, but the stuff in-between those times and the ending. I don't know about you, but if I stop seeing a woman, I want to stop seeing her...and don't forget about the drama - at home and at work when it's on! Fuck that!

Just fuck her and duck her...

JS + XES

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Yep.

PortlandRL

That's why I'm so attracted to her. Most girls here aren't all that good looking and the ones who are either have boyfriends or are totally off the psychometer...

RaviNJCLs

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Move.

doopstr

As others said, girls at work you fuck, not date.

imj0257

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Fuck. not hijacking but I just called it off with my gf last week and this hot girl from work that I chat with everyday texted me saying she just broke up with her bf this morning and she was like 'honey, you have an idea' Ya I hooked up with one girl from work about a year ago and that didn't work out too well so I'm against it but this one is hotter :whattodo:

sho_nuff1997

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I guess I have to be the one.

sho_nuff1997

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nbennettksu

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I got a beej from a girl I worked with. Too bad she ended up being completely psycho. Bad idea, I wouldnt do it again.































actually I probably would because I'm a dumb ass

v6cord2k5

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Sorry if I missed it...
How long have you known her?
Are you happy with what you have now?

If it hasnt been too long I wouldn't cross the line if I was happy with what we had.
I wouldn't blame you for taking a risk though, but it's better to take things slowly IMO.

Maybe she can schedule you a little bit of time, haha

1Louder

PortlandRL - it's not yes or no, just things you want to consider. You don't need to worry about dating someone you work with. You need to worry about what happens if it gets bad or ends. If it turned ugly and you found yourself unable to work there, what options do you have? You breaking any company rules? She work close enough that there would be wierd drama? She going to tell co-workers how you are in bed? So whether or not to date her depends on whether you care about any of that.

As for "hitting it" and running - come on You an always do that with a girl not worth dating. If she's worth dating, then date her.

Mike 350Z

It sounds to me that you're in the clear...as long as you don't work to closely with her you should be alright. And as long as you respect her throughout the whole process, even if it ends I don't see why she would start talking shit about you.

sixsixfour

you play with fire, you gonna get burned.

simple as that.

derrick

Don't do it ... I broke this covenant and guess what? Things ended so badly that I had to leave the joint and work somewhere else. The tension was too great. (My fault ... and I didn't listen to my own advice!)

supernova2040

same here.... dating within the work place= trouble

Doom878

It all depends on the chick. How well do you know her? I messed around with this one chick at a job for a while. We ended up stopping but we were cool. However I knew that she was mature so I had no fear of her wiggin out.

stright-(paint)balling

word to the wise:
"Don't find honeys where you make your money"
and i'm not telling you what to do but at work if a couple gets married and both work for Honda it's REQUIRED one of them transfer out of the dept or to another shift. they started that back when my dad worked at Honda due to if personal issues at Home was going on they couldn't bring it to work.

Tomy

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dont do it.. management wont like it, if it ends, she will probably bad mouth u.

ther'es plenty of fish elsewhere..dont confine yoruself

nf3d0149ab

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I work in financial services and I met my current girlfriend there.

Worked out fine but you both have to be able to separate your personal & work lives.

We did and it worked out fine.

6 months after we got together...I was promoted and moved on to another office and we are still together 2 1/2 years later.

To each his own...depends on the partners and their individual level of maturity.

We didn't tell management...again it worked out.

That's my impression and personal experience.

If one of the partners is immature...that's what will lead to this "badmouthing" of the other individual if you break up...immaturity.

No bueno!

Mike 350Z

^^^Did she get bitter when you got a promotion and she didn't? How did management not know about you two? At my work, if you go to lunch or even have a smoke break with a girl, everyone thinks you're banging.

Doom878

LOL ditto here. The new hire in our department used to work with me in my last company. Naturally she comes to me for help or we BS at each other's cube or in the hall. I've already had one co-worker ask if I knew her and even inferred that we were flirting. One other mentioned to us that we sure talk a lot but she's older so she's kind of . Don't get me wrong, I'd love to hit her big jugs and pull her long hair while hitting doggy but it ain't happening.