So i have been dating this girl for about 2 months now. She left for a couple of days to see her family and came back and did the classic " we have to talk" crap. So anyways she calls us off becuase she says she isn't ready for a comitted relationship, ? ISn't that what girls want? Anyways, the next day which was yesturday she acts just like we are still to gether, calls me all the time, blah blah. So last night she came over and well, we spent lots of hours "talking" ....! So she left calls me tells me she loves me and all that gooshy stuff. Today she still called me all days saying that she loves me, so i ask her, " so are we back to gether?" , She gets silent. Then tells me she loves me and quickly changes the subject. Now she is at home alseep cuz she has school in the morning...So WTF am i supossed to do about this. She doesn't want to be with me still, as a b/f but she expects us to act like it. I am so lost, what should i do, cuz i feel like she is kinda usin me for my body,.... which isn't bad but it kinda hurts. What do you think guys, give her more time to come back and continue whats going on now, or keep my man hood up and stand up for my self and tell her i am not going to see her unless we are back together?

 

sounds like a trick to me.

there are plenty of girls out there, get rid of her.

 

I am thinkin about it, but i really care about this one. But i guess it would be better to end it now before i fell to far into it and then it ended.

 

um, dude, you guys have been dating for 2 months. NO, not all women want a relationship. I'm assuming she's the same age as you, so she's probably wanting to date other people or at least have the option, hence no commitment on the gf/bf deal.
As far as her saying she loves you after 2 months, that would freak me the hell out, and i would wonder about that.
If you want the relationship, and she doesnt, then move on. Maybe she'll want one eventually, but for now it sounds like she is just using you as a comfort factor; she knows you're there right now, and she's taking full advantage of it.
Ultimately, tell her how you feel, and see how it goes.

 

That's an easy one...

I think you should enjoy your friend with benefits relationship and see if it develops. You two already like each other, just don't push the issue.

 

You're 20 years old which means you have plenty of time to experience different types of girls. Don't get all caught up into one girl at such a young age. Trust me, you'll be better off going out and dating differing types of girls and realizing exactly what you like and don't like in a girl/relationship.

Don't push the issue with her....if she wants to come around, let her but don't let her rule your world.

 

She fears the committment and doesn't want to deal with the whole relationship at this time. Or maybe she's been hurt by someone else and she's just trying to protect herself.

Only she can answer the question.

 

Well not exactly, but it seems like there's a new one of these threads everyday. I've probably written a few of the old ones

Just do what everyone else said. Tell her you're going on a date tonight with some other girl. She'll get all bent out of shape then you remind her that SHE called you guys off. She'll say 'I dunno I'm confused.' You say 'well figure out what you need to figure out then talk to me.'

 

2 months and she drops and L-bomb already???

Most important rule of women: they all want something different. Not one is the same. They don't all won't relationships.

She's just fucking your head up. You better resolve this quickly before you get hurt. I would say cut off all contact for awhile and see where that leads.

 

she's playin mind games with u, and who the hell is that "in love" after 2 months, how long have u guys known each other? She sounds like a headcase, if she doesn't want to be with u, but calls all the time saying she loves you. Sounds weird to me, sounds like a clingy girl that's scared of commitment, and I'm sure she doesn't know what really being in love is. I say forget her and move on, don't play the game

 

1. 2 months is too early to love somebody IMO
2. you've been relegated to "backup" status...she's just stringing you along in case she doesn't find anyone better..

 

Damn...if you know its just about the sex....enjoy and screw with other girls....cuz girls dig guys who are already with a girl.....thats the scandalous bitch side of them, but it maybe to your benefit.

 

OR while she was home she hooked up with some dude, and now she wants her cake and to eat it too!
You are officially the back up plan. :congrats:

Kick her to the curb and find someone else.

 

I would accept it as a booty call.....dont expect anything else..

 

its even worse when your wearing a ring.

 

First of all if this bitch is saying I love you after 2 months, then she is fucked up in the head and does NOT know what love is. Also, she probably is not into the relationship thing because she is young and might not want the "responsibility" that comes along with it, so she is probably just saying I love you to string you along long enough to get whatever out of you that is beneficial to her....i.e. dick, dinner, movies, etc... Don't spoil her, if you two aren't together the only money you should spend on her is a pack of condoms to protect yourself from this obvious dick jumping slut.

 

:ibRenegadeakaAmoeba:

Seriously, drop her as a "gf" but keep her for the benefits. Just make sure establish with her that this is a sex only relationship and you both are free to see other people. Once either one of you finds a bf/gf, then the sex ends.

 

Yup. Seems everyone said everything already...

 

Jury finds the defendant guilty as charged.

Download E40 'Captain Save-a-Hoe'

and play it for him constantly....

 

She says she loves you after 2 months? We have a classic nut job. Technically since there is no status, you're also free to do what you want. She's using you for back up. Use her poon as back up.

 

freakin

"What's that in the sky, it's a bird, it's a plane! What's that n***as name?"

 

She likes the relationship shit, but doesnt want to be committed.


Translation: She likes it when you hold her hand, but she wants to meet others.

 

couldnt of said it better. Shit , you're not even at the 'bring a chic home from the bar' stage yet. Have fun while you're young.

 

Dude stay away. I love you at 2 months is SCARY.

 

You have crossed onto the 'friend' ladder and now you will be her boy toy. Move along I say.

 

Punch her in the ovaries.

Slam your balls in a door.

Move on to your new life a Eunich.

 

Well ok, so far i have still been doin the dirty. And well, i have brought up some stuff and it all ends to us screwing. So i think tomorrow is the day, when she comes over i am going to lay stuff down for her. Let her know that this is complete bs. Ask her if she thinking about coming back any time soon, if i get blank stairs and dumb looks then i am telling her this is over. You guys are right i really have to stand up for my self...... hard cuz the sex is AMAZING! But beside the point there are plenty of fish in this sea so, ya i guess then i will try and move on. Wish me luck!

 

Thats too easy!