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Old 06-24-2005, 10:36 AM
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Originally Posted by 01_CL-S_COUPE
I grew up in NYC, went to Berkeley for 2 years, lived in Alameda. I assume its still a shithole. But I loved San Fran. I used to go to Xclub, City Nights, Sound Factory, DV8. Are those clubs still around?
I live over in the valley away from the shithole areas. I work in Oakland which is still stank and ghetto. Shitty Nights and Sound Factory still exist.
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Originally Posted by PsychoInDenial
Well I'm not going to sit here and say that looks don't matter, because as well all know they matter to a point. I don't expect the guy to be Brad Pitt, but I do expect them to have something there to get the juices flowing. To me, having a sexual attraction is necessary. I have some guy friends that like me as more than a friend, but I never wanted to cross the line and hurt them since I fully know I cannot see them in a sexual way, and yes they have a great personality, but bottomline if the sexual attraction isn't there, it's not going to work and the last thing I want to do is end up cheating on them or something.

Anyways, update on the situation. I have discovered this guy is borderline psycho. First off he called me last night right before I was heading to bed, so I didn't pick up, the last thing I needed was to be stressed out before I hit the sack.

He left a message saying how sorry he was about what he said the other day and he was drunk and emotional and shit. Mind you he was being sir drama queen early in the afternoon 2 days ago. Drunk and at work? Yeah whatever, this guy is full of shit. Do I even owe him an explaination at this point if he's coming up with lame ass excuses for acting like a bitch? He's started to creep me out.


Tell him that you hate guys that make lame excuses, and that because of this, you have no desire to see him anymore. You have to say it firmly and politely.
Old 06-24-2005, 11:09 AM
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Tell him that you hate guys that make lame excuses, and that because of this, you have no desire to see him anymore. You have to say it firmly and politely.

I'm not sure if he even deserves an explaination. He's psycho in that super scary creepy way. Right now I just want to completely ignore him and not talk to him again, he's creeping me out! But I know he's just going to keep on calling and calling unless I say something... Good thing he's 500 miles away from me.
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Originally Posted by PsychoInDenial
I'm not sure if he even deserves an explaination. He's psycho in that super scary creepy way. Right now I just want to completely ignore him and not talk to him again, he's creeping me out! But I know he's just going to keep on calling and calling unless I say something... Good thing he's 500 miles away from me.
Say something, for your own sake! Good thing he's far FAR away.
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I think I'm going to say something to him online so I don't have to deal with him on the phone, something to this extent:

I'm not sure what's going on with you right now, but I don't think I can be of any help. I would appreciate it if you left me alone as I have my own problems to deal. Sorry.
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what the fawk is a case catching mofo? lucy got some splaining to do
Old 06-24-2005, 12:47 PM
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what the fawk is a case catching mofo? lucy got some splaining to do

Here's a tip, read the thread first before you comment.
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crap!

ugh.. I fucked up!!! I should have just started my response with: "we're cool but please stop calling me..." but before I could say anything he signed off...

him : hey you...

him : i called last night...

me: hi

him : were you sleeping?

me: yes

him : did you get my messege?

me: yes

him : ok

him : we cool then, right?

me: yeah its cool

him : aight

him : ill call you later

him : bye
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Originally Posted by PsychoInDenial
ugh.. I fucked up!!! I should have just started my response with: "we're cool but please stop calling me..." but before I could say anything he signed off...

him : hey you...

him : i called last night...

me: hi

him : were you sleeping?

me: yes

him : did you get my messege?

me: yes

him : ok

him : we cool then, right?

me: yeah its cool

him : aight

him : ill call you later

him : bye

NOOOOO! That was the worst thing ever! What were you thinking answering "yeah it's cool" .
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case catchin mofos?? who talks like that?
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NOOOOO! That was the worst thing ever! What were you thinking answering "yeah it's cool" .
lol

what was the message he left?
Old 06-24-2005, 02:41 PM
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I know.. I was ment to say it's cool is the sense that I'm not mad, because I was trying to do damage control. I was going to continue to say but I really just need to be alone right now, but before I could say that he freaking signed off!

The message he left was some bullshit apology for being a dramaqueen and that he was drunk when he said it, which as I said before is bullshit, who gets drunk at noon while at work?

and for the last time mofos = motherfuckers, I'm ghettoistic ok? Catching a case means you are tripping over somebody that you shouldn't be. so a case catchin mofo means its some guy that is trippin over me that really shouldn't be! Is that better?
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Before reading the thread I thought she was talking rapper-speak, like "catchin a criminal/court case"

"Two multimillionare motherfuckers catchin cases" - 2Pac & Snoop - 2 of Amerikaz Most Wanted

This is the ghetto version of catchin a case. i.e. when you have to go to court as a defendant, etc.
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Originally Posted by PsychoInDenial
I know.. I was ment to say it's cool is the sense that I'm not mad, because I was trying to do damage control. I was going to continue to say but I really just need to be alone right now, but before I could say that he freaking signed off!

The message he left was some bullshit apology for being a dramaqueen and that he was drunk when he said it, which as I said before is bullshit, who gets drunk at noon while at work?

and for the last time mofos = motherfuckers, I'm ghettoistic ok? Catching a case means you are tripping over somebody that you shouldn't be. so a case catchin mofo means its some guy that is trippin over me that really shouldn't be! Is that better?
Why would you do that? You should have implied that you WERE in fact mad (even if you weren't) and that you definately don't want to date someone who gets drunk in the middle of the day. There's no good reason to do damage control. Damage control is what you do to save a bf that you LIKE, not some guy you want to get rid of. If anything, you need to increase the blast radius as much as possible and make yourself undesireable
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Originally Posted by PsychoInDenial
I have a friend that likes hers the size of coke cans, if she wasn't married I'd offer you a referal.
Since they don't exist in nature she must go through life awfully disappointed.
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Originally Posted by PsychoInDenial
and for the last time mofos = motherfuckers, I'm ghettoistic ok? Catching a case means you are tripping over somebody that you shouldn't be. so a case catchin mofo means its some guy that is trippin over me that really shouldn't be! Is that better?
straight mellow jello boo boo baby. i'm just sayin that slappin the sticky on the pooty side aint no thang.
Old 06-24-2005, 02:54 PM
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Originally Posted by zeroday
straight mellow jello boo boo baby. i'm just sayin that slappin the sticky on the pooty side aint no thang.
werd mah nigga!








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Old 06-24-2005, 02:57 PM
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Originally Posted by Always Dirty
Since they don't exist in nature she must go through life awfully disappointed.

I guess they must... I don't have the pictures of course but she's content with what he husband has to offer, or she wouldn't have married him.

And this chick is worse than me by far... but that's a whole different topic. Right now I just gotta clean up this mess I'm in and get this weirdo off my back.
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Originally Posted by youngTL
Why would you do that? You should have implied that you WERE in fact mad (even if you weren't) and that you definately don't want to date someone who gets drunk in the middle of the day. There's no good reason to do damage control. Damage control is what you do to save a bf that you LIKE, not some guy you want to get rid of. If anything, you need to increase the blast radius as much as possible and make yourself undesireable

I am such a wimp when it comes to chewing people out directly like this. I haven't gotten pissed off, just really annoyed by him so its hard for me to be blatantly mean to him. It takes a lot to really piss me off and then just go on him.

I don't know why I'm being such a wuss about it, I guess that's my shy side coming out where I'm afraid to speak up and say something.
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Originally Posted by PsychoInDenial
I have a friend that likes hers the size of coke cans, if she wasn't married I'd offer you a referal.

This is what happens when you have the "McDonalds" of vaginas (1 billion served).

Give this link to your friend, she may find it useful.

http://www.childbirth.org/articles/kegel.html

But seriously, I dont think that even exists in porn
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Originally Posted by fdl
This is what happens when you have the "McDonalds" of vaginas (1 billion served).

Give this link to your friend, she may find it useful.

http://www.childbirth.org/articles/kegel.html

But seriously, I dont think that even exists in porn
Oh trust me this chick does her kegals. This girl is a true nympho. By this I mean she sometimes has to get off at her bathroom at work by herself because she can't wait until she gets home.

I don't know if her husband is truly coke can size as I have never personally seen it, but she says she can't put her hand around it and needs both hands
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case catching ?

See video "Goodwill Hunting for STD's"
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Originally Posted by PsychoInDenial
Here's a tip, read the thread first before you comment.
excellent tip, i'll keep that in mind hence forth. however,as instructive as your response was my question remains? k thanks
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Originally Posted by PsychoInDenial
Ok so here's the deal. I go on a blind date with a guy about 2 weeks ago. Before meeting we got along great on the phone. When I meet him in person, he's a nice guy but I don't find him attractive at all. I try to blow him off nicely by not calling him. Today he IM's me being all drama asking why it seemed like I wasn't interested in him when we met in person and how I didn't seem to like him as much as he liked me.

Mind you I did not have any sexual relations with this guy, I simply just hung out with him for a few hours and watched a movie. What's the best way to blow this guy off with out getting him too butthurt?

Would it be nicer to say I'm trying to work things out with my ex? Right now my excuse is that I'm busy with other aspects of my life. I hate to lie to the guy, but somehow I don't think its right to say I think he's ugly to his face, especially when he didn't do anything wrong...
that dude is psycho...

why do you even care...

just tell the dude, "i don't like you that way." if he asks "why?" you say, "b/c i think you're ugly..."
Old 06-27-2005, 02:45 PM
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Smile update

I did it! Of course I did it the weenie way and talked to him online. I had to do something because he kept on calling


Here's the convo:


me: we need to talk dude
him : whats wrong?
me: I've been thinking about everything you said
me: and I honestly think you're blowing everything way out of proportion and stuff
him : i told you i was fine
me: yeah exactly.. which is weirding me out.. you act one way one day and then act totally different another
him : well i have to...becuse i dont want you to feel weird
him: but i guess that didnt work
me: well you're weirding me out but telling me this bs about you being drunk at work
him : huh?
me: you told me the reason you got all emotional was because you were drunk
me: but when you talked to me it was midafternoon
him: when im drunk i am
him : but im fine
him: dont get me wrong...i think your a great girl and i want to get to know you
me: well i don't like these mindgames.. so I'd just prefer to be left alone
him : but if you want me to back off... i will
me: I think you got some issues you need to deal with or something
him: and i did
me: either way, i think its better if you just left me alone
him : ok
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Originally Posted by PsychoInDenial
I did it! Of course I did it the weenie way and talked to him online. I had to do something because he kept on calling


Here's the convo:


me: we need to talk dude
him : whats wrong?
me: I've been thinking about everything you said
me: and I honestly think you're blowing everything way out of proportion and stuff
him : i told you i was fine
me: yeah exactly.. which is weirding me out.. you act one way one day and then act totally different another
him : well i have to...becuse i dont want you to feel weird
him: but i guess that didnt work
me: well you're weirding me out but telling me this bs about you being drunk at work
him : huh?
me: you told me the reason you got all emotional was because you were drunk
me: but when you talked to me it was midafternoon
him: when im drunk i am
him : but im fine
him: dont get me wrong...i think your a great girl and i want to get to know you
me: well i don't like these mindgames.. so I'd just prefer to be left alone
him : but if you want me to back off... i will
me: I think you got some issues you need to deal with or something
him: and i did
me: either way, i think its better if you just left me alone
him : ok
Good! You showed him. I hope he doesn't call again asking for you to take him back. But you ended this well. I'm proud!
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Tell him you're more psychotic than him
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I like how he just said "ok". Good thing he didn't put up a fight or I would have had to go on him, and that would't have been cute. He better not try to call me to explain himself :knocksonwood:
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Your old avatar was better.
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I for one stopped caring about this after the send post.
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Your old avatar was better.

Thanks, but my goddaughter was too cute not to give her some avatar time and let her be the attention whore instead
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Originally Posted by PsychoInDenial
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As long as it's not his!
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Oh he's gone, no IMs crying to me and no phone calls. I still feel kinda bad about it, but I know it was for the best, I didn't want to lead him on to think there was a chance and the fucker hopefully learned not to act like such a psycho lil bitch. That's my job!
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Oh he's gone, no IMs crying to me and no phone calls. I still feel kinda bad about it, but I know it was for the best, I didn't want to lead him on to think there was a chance and the fucker hopefully learned not to act like such a psycho lil bitch. That's my job!
:w00t:

Time to get out there and date some hotties with some brains and coolness to go along with it. And a BFD never hurt.
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on the BFD. My goal is to find a hot white guy. Hopefully he won't make my hand itch like the last one I dated.
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Originally Posted by PsychoInDenial
Oh he's gone, no IMs crying to me and no phone calls. I still feel kinda bad about it, but I know it was for the best, I didn't want to lead him on to think there was a chance and the fucker hopefully learned not to act like such a psycho lil bitch. That's my job!
Like I said in another thread, "heartless".





j/k good job, I know you agonized over it.
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He's still calling me! I woke up to check my missed calls and there he was. What do I do now? I had a similar problem with another guy that kept on calling me for 3 years after I had last seen him and he didn't stop calling me until he got locked up (he ended up going to jail for having sex with a 16 yr old when he was 27 and she had his kid so that was the proof) but yeah, besides changing my number, what drastic measures need to be taken at this point?
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You sure do pick winners!
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You sure do pick winners!
Oh yeah...lucky me.
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I know your trying to be nice about this, but if you'll never see him again, who gives a $hit what he thinks?? If the dude can't figuer it out already that you don't want to see him, he ain't gonna figuer it out by being nice and beating around the bush. be blunt, and just right it off as circumstance. That's what I would do.....


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