View Poll Results: Asking Parents Permission Before Getting Engaged?

Did You Ask Permission First?

25.42%

Did You NOT Ask Permission First?

20.34%

Do You PLAN On Asking Permission First?

38.98%

Do You NOT PLAN On Asking Permission First?

15.25%

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Oct 4, 2005 | 09:19 PM

#41

mrsteve

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Yeah I'll ask.

Oct 6, 2005 | 11:06 PM

#42

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I would say that dpends on the dad. I wouldn't say its something that you "have" to do in most families. I'm sure some would think it is nice or cute. If I stay with the girl I am with now (hoping for that, aren't we all?) then I will ask her dad's permission. For one he'd like to be asked and it would make a relationship with him smoother in the future. And two I hate traditional weddings, the long build up and months of planning. With the right woman, I'd like to get a couple friends and family together, plan the entire wedding w/o her, down to the dress, flowers, setup, invatations, ect. Then when she thinks she is going to have lunch with a friend . . . here put this on and meet us in the back yard in 15 minutes. BAM

Oct 7, 2005 | 10:07 AM

#43

rbf351

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i didn't ask, and would never asked anyway. it's not her parents choice who she marrys, it's mine

and if they don't like it tough shit.

we don't speak to her family anyway

Oct 7, 2005 | 10:11 AM

#44

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It depends on the family though. I got married last year and I wasn't going to ask my wifes father....He probably woulda used it as an opportunity to ask me for money or something...

He's a very odd duck...

Oct 7, 2005 | 10:19 AM

#45

fdl

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Quote:

Originally Posted by Always Dirty

What is this, Jeopardy? Why are the poll options in the form of questions?

amateurs

Oct 7, 2005 | 10:20 AM

#46

fdl

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Originally Posted by SDCGTSX

Toss up on the asking part. There was an episode of Everybody Loves Raymond where his brother asks his gf's family and they say no. It's hilarious.

That was funny, here's a clip. https://acurazine.com/forums/ramblings-12/azine-members-320992/

Oct 7, 2005 | 10:58 AM

#47

mfkitson

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Originally Posted by supermegaglossy

it really depends on the situation. but in general, if two people want to get married, why the hell does he need to ask the dad first. get some balls and ask the girl. it's not like the old days where the girl really had no choice. we're independent now, and even if we are daddy's girls, we have minds of our own and don't need our fathers to make decisions for us.

I agree that the parents shouldn't choose. It is between the two people getting married. I feel asking for their BLESSING (not permission) is a very good thing to do as a manners and respect thing. A marriage that doesn't start with respect from both families will be that much more difficult to sustain...

Oct 7, 2005 | 12:05 PM

#48

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Asking for permission to marry one's daughter is some really traditional bullshit. It's ludicrous. She's not a fucking commodity. If she's old enough to get married, you don't need her parents permission. So what, you going to ask her parents if you can fuck her afterwards? Please, if you respect her parents, then promise to treat the girl the best way possible till death do you part. That's good enough when you promise in front of God.

I would concentrate more on the girl than the parents. You are after all marrying the girl and not her parents. Trust me, in-laws can be a pain in the ass. It's best to decide many things amongst the two of you alone. Fuck everyone else.

btw, asking for permission to marry someone's daughter does not make you a gentlemen. I know some guys that asked before and later on in life end up cheating on their wife. WEAK.

Oct 7, 2005 | 01:36 PM

#49

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has anyone asked and gotten a NO from the parents?

Oct 7, 2005 | 03:13 PM

#50

tlguy99

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Absolutly, for a few reasons:

1. The parents will respect you more and appriciate the gesture
2. Since you are entering their family, you kinda want to start off on the right foot.
3. It will bring you closer to her parents and will enable them to accept you more easily into their family.

Of course, then its really akward if they say no...