So how do you guys apporach people at the bars? I find it pretty difficult to just walk up and start talking to people as most everybody is talking to friends in a little group. Im not talking pick up lines, maybe more along the lines of ice breakers. And ladies, what do you think would be the ideal way for a guy to approach you?

 

well first off ... http://wingwomen.com/

one method that worked particularly well is to send someone (preferably a gal-friend) to the prospect and have this buddy tell her about your interest. it's the whole, "i have a friend who thinks you're hot but he's shy" ... then if the prospect reciprocates with interest, the buddy can send her over and/or make formal introductions.

i know it may sound lame and cowardly to send a third-party to hash things out but believe me, it worked for this dude. it saves the gal from the embarrassment of getting blatantly "hit on" and the guy from the embarrassment of getting straight-out rejected.

 

My best luck has been just picking up in a conversation about something I know about. Not to interrupt of course and only if the conversation sounds open.

 

This has been covered a few times in the past few months, the best pick up line is no pick up line, any girl with even a modest level of inteligence will see a hidden agenda. Just walk up to her and say "Hi, how are you?" Or something similar, not "Hi, I'm Jim"

Do not give your name, if she does not ask your name with in 5 minutes move on, she's not interested in you. Its the easiest way to gauge her interest in you, be prepared to be shot down and move on quickly.

 

don't

 

may have worked for you, but I don't recommend this.

If you had a set of nuts, you'd come up and talk to me yourself. just my and i will say that to the "friend" shows lack of imagination and lack of personality.
think about it, if you are too nervous to talk to her in the beginning, it only makes the conversation all the more akward once you start.

but hey, if it works for you, then keep going



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that wing woman thing...

yah i see you at the bar with a woman, i'm not coming near ya...

 

So heres a senario for you folks to make it little easier. You see 2 girls sitting at the bar talking, your interested in one of them no the other. What do you do? Yes you have wingmen but they are no topguns. And no you are not allowed to buy drinks for then cause I dont do that unless they are gonna blow me.

 

"Ladies, what's happening?" Its as simple as that, see what they say, probably you'll get the "not much, what's up with you?" share some very short interesting story that has recently happened to you with them and see what happens. If your just barely staying above water, be a man and make a graceful exit, quickly! There are plenty of woman out there that will like you the way you are, no point trying to change their opinion of the ones who don't.

You've got to be secure, sturdy, yet fun and friendly and the only way to learn is a lot of practice.

 

Do you just come right out and say, "I'll buy you girls a round if you blow me?"

I'm guessing that doesn't work too well for you......

 

just fucking go up the girl and start talking how hard is that?! its even easier when theres aclcohol in your system so give that a try

 

I've tried the asshole approach wich seems to work well for parties but not so well for bars. trying to figure out why.

 

The "asshole approach" will only result in one of two things:

1) You getting your ass beat by her guy friends or boyfriend
2) You coming off as a complete ass - hence the name

Quit worrying about what works or what doesn't. It's all about confidence and just coming off as yourself. Walk up and talk - it's that simple. If it doesn't work, you'll never see them again and perhaps you can learn from the interaction. Change up your approach/tone/attitude next time.

 

Best post in this thread..

Its funny how people change themselves completely to go talk to a girl...You dont need any type of crazy approach or put up a front, just be yourself and man up.

 

Exactly...be yourself. If it works, it works. If not, oh well. Too many people get all worked up over "what's the best line" or "how do I approach a girl". Well, let's see, you can first start off by walking up to her - that's a pretty good approach.

Confidence is everything in my opinion, but not cockiness, and that confidence comes out in your personality. Some have it. Some don't.

 

Just whip it out.

 

But seriously, I just spark a conversation. I don't like meeting women in bars because of the defensive nature of women in these places. They know what's up from the get-go, and I don't like giving that satisfaction... But, if anything, I might isolate a girl and talk to her when she's away from her girlfriends, tell her heel looks like it's about to break, etc.... something to throw her off.

The best places to meet women are places were women aren't expecting to be picked up.

 

 

just ask them to play a game of pool

 

^^Pocket Pool?

 

What I used to do is always go out with my ugly but confident friend and send him in a guineau pig. I would tell him to say and let him know which one I wanted and try and dance with her. I find bringing a guineau pig helps but sometimes going by yourself and showing confidence can attract more women also.

 

I'm usually the distractor. When I go out with my straight friends, like on the geophysics pub crawl last night, I got one of my guys hooked up with this girl who we just met at a bar called Hudson's. I just went up to her once I saw she was staring at my costume (a barbarian), and asked her what she thought my female friends were (they were dressed as Team Zissou in little speedos and toques and dress shirts like on the Life Aquatic). Well she got it right, she knew right away, and then I struck up a conversation with her and her friend, and casually mentioned that my buddy was getting lonely tonight and if she wanted to talk to him. Well, she gets up and goes over and talks to him, and they ended up going to her house together. Mission accomplished. I have NO fear when I talk to girls. I'll show them my muscles if they want to see, or I'll just talk straight up and ask them what they're in, what kind of stuff they like, why they're out tonight, etc etc.

I can also distract the ugly friend of the hot girl. You know the ones, that have ugly friends but the main target is good looking. If my guys need to get with the hot girl, I'll go strike up a conversation with the ugly one, even if she looks like she's been through a meat grinder and her ass is the size of Jupiter. Then, once my buddy's in the clear, I break the news about myself to the ugly girl by telling her the bartender has a nice ass or something. The look on their faces is the best.

 

can i be yer buddy

 

the example I'm about to give didn't happen at a bar, but at a Starbucks... and I've used it several times since... and it amazes me how easy (sometimes) to start up a conversation...

It was a rainy day last winter.... I was at a Starbucks... and this really hot chick got behind me in line... and I realized that I've seen her around at the 24 Hour Fitness... so, I'm standing there waiting in line... nervous as hell... and can't think of anything to say... anyway, I placed my order, paid the cashier and stepped over to the side to wait for my drink... again... still nervous... then she ordered and came over and stood next to me... still can't think of anything to break the ice... so this dorky guy made his way over after placing his order... and just said... (to her) "...great day for a coffee, huh?" And just like that... they hit it off... went on and on about random stuff...

...so, since then... I've used that same line so many times... Let's just suppose it's hot, and she orders a "Frappacino", I'd say... "...great day for a 'Frappacino', huh?". And it always works... I mean... your demeanor matters too... if you're all nervous and shit... it just creeps'em out... so say it like you'd would to a buddy or something... Don't be too much of a... "Don Juan"... cause that shit just doesn't work.

I'm sure you can think of a way to apply that in a bar senario... remember, it's not just what you say, but how you delivery the line...

 

You need it! If you were here I'd teach you how to hit on girls, and force you to get yourself to the gym.

 

"Great day for a beer huh?" Of course if someone said that to me I'd say "uhh when is it not?" Good tip though. The dorky guy probably knew she was way out of his league so he didnt bother getting nervous.

 

Or if you wanna get to the point....

Great day for a protein shake, huh?

As far as this "talking" thing is concerned... yeah... err.. just give it a go, dude. Can't win em all, so have fun trying.

 

I walk right up to them and say, " I have four nipples." It works every time.

 

 

Most girls I know don't want to meet people at bars, so there's not much someone can say to begin with that'll work. Most of my friends just find the approaching men more annoying than anything. I'd say you have a much better chance of meeting someone you'll find interesting (for more than the first hour and a half of knowing her) somewhere else.

And don't have friends speak on your behalf....Makes people feel like they're back in grade eight. Do it yourself.

 

Met my wife of almost 9 years at an Irish Pub. Opening line? "Wanna shot a game of Darts?"

 

I tell them they are the sexiest girl in the bar, whether or not its remotely true.

 

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nah but u're right, thats when u meet the more interesting ones