Ok so there's this girl that I started hooking up with about 2 months ago. We've randomly hooked up in drunken encounters and fooled around. I recently found out she got a boyfriend, but I continue to not turn down her advances. Of course, I'm drunk as well so her being semi-cute doesn't help the problem. I feel guilty though fooling around with someone who has a boyfriend, but the drunken side of me (now) doesn't have any issues with it.

I know it's all about conscience, but to all of you, would you do it? How would you feel if so? It's only been twice since she's had a boyfriend, but I still feel kind of cheap and that I should go find elsewhere, but it's hard when it just falls into your lap (literally and figuratively) while drunk and ready.

Thanks for the responses!

 

If what you're saying is true, then not necessarily. If she's actively pursuing you, then it's really mostly her. Yes, the honorable thing would be to turn down those advances, but think of it this way. If you had a girl that was actively trying to pursue other guys... it's time to find a new girlfriend because obviously that's not the type of girl you want.

 

You are a man.....We are all assholes....

 

It will always be that way in womens eyes

 

IMO you're no more an asshole that she is. She's the one in a relationship. If it were me, I would have stopped after I found out she had a boy friend. Something about kissing a chick and knowing she's sucking some other guy's dick doesn't appeal to me.

 

another man's woman with no strings attached? this is a concern why?

 

Do you know the boyfriend?

 

Hope her "other" boyfriend doesn't have any itchy scratchies that are now setting up residents in your no-no place....

 

Edit: I have been on the other side of that though and it kinda sucks, I guess that what I get for having a small penis

-Mark

P.S. I do have a huge e-penis though

 

Being drunk gives you invinsibility.

 

If you have to ask than you probably are

 

if i knew the guy (i.e. a friend) then i will not condone this activity.

if he's a complete stranger and the girl isnt married (or sick/infected with something), sky's the limit. i agree with studville - if i found out my girl was cheating she'd get the boot.

 

I have been on the other side of this. Its not a good feeling, and something I vowed not to do to someone else. Since that time I have had similar opportunities which I turned down. Also, one time I found out that the girl I was hooking up with had a b/f so I stopped it. Its a question of what you can or want to live with. And, don't use alcohol as an excuse. Obviously, you know what you're doing. "I was drunk" is just a cop out.

 

nah! Just hit it but ever get into a real relationship with her. If she will cheat on her current, she will cheat down the line with her other future b/f. Past behavior is the best indicator of future behavior.

 

Always have to look over your shoulder.

 

Couldn't agree more.

 

karma is a mother fucker

 

just make sure you don't know her bf (or don't like him if you do know him) bc that would make you an asshole then. Think about it this way: if she wasn't hookin up with you on the side, she'd have someone else to take care of that for her. So don't try to be Mr. Morals when she's just gonna go do the same thing with someone else.

Now if you're cool with getting sloppy seconds like that, then play on. just don't get caught up catchin feelings.

but if i was in your shoes, i couldn't do it more than a couple times. it's just weird to me.

 

how would you like it if the situation was reversed?

 

^^So true, past behavior is a true indicator of future behavior.
I have had multiple opportunities to cheat on the girls ive dated, but i havent. Because i feel if i get away with cheating I will keep doing it.

 

 

What comes around goes around.

 

I was in a similar situation wherein I was fooling around with someone and I stopped seeing him when I found out that he was starting to get "serious" with someone else. I was single back then and I was not cheating on anyone but I just felt bad for the girl because I wouldn't want to be in her shoes, believing that the guy she's dating is faithful to her.

 

As long as she brushes her teeth before hand..........

 

Booze is a BS excuse. She's a slut. I feel bad for the guy on the other end; think how you would feel if the roles were reversed. Karma is real. Also, if you're seeking validation for your actions, you already know your answer.....

 

I would probably do it, feel real guilty (know I'm an asshole), but then I'd shower with Axe Snake Peal (it clears the conscious and soul from questionable hook-ups); and then I'd feel fine. But if my girl cheated on me, I'd be fuckin pissed, so I am a hypocratic bastard....

 

Quoted For Truth!

Once a cheater, always a cheater.

 

Ok let's see if I can respond to everyone here:

Firstly, alcohol is an excuse as even though I know of my actions, I don't have my moral conscience available, as I've turned down her attempts every time I've been sober. I do feel bad about it sober, but when I'm drunk and the girl comes and sits in my lap and groping around, it's kind of hard to turn down.

I know who the guy is, he's cheated on her and as for the "sucking the other guy's dick" comment, she hasn't seen him in a week and I don't have sex with her as to not get those diseases, if she were to have them (yes I know there are such things as condoms, I just don't like them, therefore no sex unless she's a serious girlfriend).

I would never be relationship-wise attracted to her as you guys have already pointed out, once a cheater, always a cheater. So yes, it's a very double-edged sword for me.

Karma, I know, Karma is a bitch. I've been cheated on plenty of times, it sucks but I don't really get that pissed off. Why? Because if she cheated on me, obviously she didn't REALLY want to be with me. The rejection part hurts, not the part that she fucked some other guy. That's why I'm very cautious prior to dating anyone. I will not invest feelings until I can genuinely tell they're being returned. So, when it comes down to it, I understand I'll get cheated on, everyone does. But when a girl cheats on me, I don't get mad at the other guy, it's not his fault, it's hers for even allowing it to happen (even if he was the one making the moves).

Yeah, I'm sober now and I do feel a bit guilty and would never do it sober. But I get drunk at college parties, I'm 20 years old, living my life (and winning raffle tickets for every beer I drink! ), so I lose my inhibitions when drunk. I didn't make one move on her, she was all over me and I just let her do what she wanted to do, that's all.

I guess this responds to everyone, I was just curious how everyone else feels in a situation like this.

 

+1 on that response. I think that really sums it up. I know she's had her interests in other directions when I first found out she had a boyfriend and stopped doing it, then I was drunk on two occassions and let loose. We've only done stuff 4 times total and I'm already getting bored of it. I have no feelings for her whatsoever and vice versa. I think I'm probably done with it, but it's still a situation I'm sure many of us encounter.

 

Well put man.

Yeah some girl had a boyfriend and was advancing on me as well, unfortunately I have a conscience, so she calls me a prude.

 

Go for it, keep doing it. If they are both cheaters, the must not have a serious relationship anyway, they are just fuck buddies and there should be nothing stopping you from doing the same other then diseases.

 

Well that's true, they've been dating on and off, already had relationship problems in the first week or so. They have from what I see a pretty weak relationship but I don't think I want to keep hooking up with her...maybe once more down the road but it's not something I feel the need to do a lot.

 

<-------- Asshole.

 

you are an asshole, but it has nothing to do with this thread.

 

of said chick

 

The boy isn't your friend right?

If not, go ahead. It's HER decision to cheat and harm her own relationship. If it wasn't you it would be someone else.

I wouldn't progress any further than messing around, because obviously she's rotten goods.

 

No pictures of the girl sorry guys!

And no, he's certainly not my friend. I've met him once or twice and is annoying to be honest. I don't plan on doing anything else with her. She tried LEAVING her boyfriend last night to come spend the night with me. She's going a little too far with the fooling around on the side so I'm kicking this fling to the curb.

Thanks for all the help guys!

 

I would say stop, if not for being nice to him, or Karma its for the fact dudes are fucking crazy

Last thing I need is a random dude jumping/killing me over some slut. I have had threats before for messing with newly broken up girlfriends...so yeah I am a bit paranoid now.

But if he is a bitch and you know he won't put 2 in your chest by all means do what you do, but if I were him I would kick your ass at first then feel bad about it later because it is technically it is her fault but if I find out and you are around me and I don't have time to cool off I am kicking some ass.

 

we are what we eat

 

So that would make you a pussy?