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Old 04-23-2008, 10:11 AM
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Age difference

I'm sure this has been discussed, but you can't search for "age" here.

I'm 25 and I'm being set up with a girl who is 20. I've talked to her on the phone and she sounds very nice and mature. Level-headed and ambitious. So basically my question to you guys is how much does the actual number matter to you? How much older or younger would you consider acceptable.
Old 04-23-2008, 10:17 AM
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My fiancee was 20 and I was 25 when we met. 2 years later and we are happy and have never found the age thing to be a problem. We have similar interests and have the same maturity level.

I say go for it
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Nothing wrong with that. You hit on the most important concern, so if she is mature then I don't see a problem. Go for it.

I stopped dating younger women because most of them were too caught up in the drama. It was frustrating.
Old 04-23-2008, 11:28 AM
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my current girlfriend is 25 and I am 30. she and I have the same maturity level.

my ex wife was 20 (i was 25) when we got married. she was way too immature, as was I, hence the ex.
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You are a pedo...
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You are a pedo...
says the man who posts naked pics of himself and his baby in the tub
Old 04-23-2008, 12:37 PM
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25 and 20 does meet this formula:

(your age/2) + 7= minimum age of the person you are dating.

(25/2) + 7 = 19.5
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Originally Posted by GIBSON6594
says the man who posts naked pics of himself and his baby in the tub
Old 04-23-2008, 12:43 PM
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I've dated women up to twelve years my senior. When I was younger, I always preferred older women as they were for the most part established, confident, and articulate.

If this new girl is mature and you share the same interests, then age shouldn't be a hindrance.

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My guy is 4 years older than me and it's working out great. As long as you are compatible and mature, it really doesn't matter. You basically have to take it on a case by case basis because everyone is different.
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I preferred women who were more mature mentally when I was in my teens-20s- that usually meant women who were a couple of years older than me at the time. When I was OP's age, 5 years younger or 10 years older didn't matter, although it never got to those numbers for me.
My wife is 2 years younger than I, and I'm not sure that there are many women younger than 28 that I would find attractive (including personality, not just from an aesthetic point of view) at this point in my life.
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I'm 25 and my girl is 26... she'll be 27 in October and 6 months later its my b-day... I'd go 3 years younger or 1 year older... thats my range... 5 years younger is pushing it at your age but would give it a shot... you never know... Age is but a number...

Let us know what you decide...
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^^^^

Makes no sence to me.
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Nothing wrong with that difference. However you may run into issues of where to go because she isn't 21 yet.
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plus when she turns 21, she's gonna be running around shitfaced at the bars letting random dudes take body shots off of her on top of the bar
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Originally Posted by BackinBlackTL
plus when she turns 21, she's gonna be running around shitfaced at the bars letting random dudes take body shots off of her on top of the bar
I've thought of the bar thing, and I try not to get too far ahead of myself because I haven't met her yet, but she does already drink fairly often, so it's not like it's a whole new world to her. Plus, if she does act like that, then I least I know the truth about her.
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Originally Posted by RaviNJCLs
^^^^

Makes no sence to me.
didn't make sense to me either...
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When I met my first wife I was 20 and she was just about 30. Needless to say, the age difference was a problem in the long run.

Just be aware she IS 20. She is probably not ready (and shouldn't be ready) for a long term relationship.
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Originally Posted by Ashburner
When I met my first wife I was 20 and she was just about 30. Needless to say, the age difference was a problem in the long run.

Just be aware she IS 20. She is probably not ready (and shouldn't be ready) for a long term relationship.
Well, I met me last GF at 20 and she was 19. we lasted over 4 years. But i get your point.
Old 04-23-2008, 03:40 PM
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Originally Posted by fuzzy02CLS
Nothing wrong with that difference. However you may run into issues of where to go because she isn't 21 yet.

if she's got the goods for the most part 21 is just a suggestion.

i started dating my girl when she was 15 and i was 16... im now 19 and shes 18. I was def. way more mature than the girls my age back then (still am in terms of career goals and attitude) so that being said id have no problem dating 3 or 4 yrs older than me if for some reason this didnt work out.

however, the most important thing is maturity ... if she is still at college and you dont want a head case who's getting wasted and being a slob haha then that isnt for you... however if she has her priorities straight and knows how to have fun without being a wreck i say do as the heart pleases.
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my first gf was 2 yrs younger than me, second gf was 4 yrs younger, third gf was 5 yrs younger, and current gf is just 9 month younger than me.

i've only dated 1 girl who is older than me like 2 yrs older and i didn't like it. she was too mature and felt like she was controlling and like a older sister or something.
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I've been seeing a 22 year old and i'm 31. I just got back from vegas with a couple 27 year old girls (friends) that are immature, dramatic and all out bitches compared to the 22 year old. . It all has to do with what you are looking for and what level the other person is at.

I have partied with the 22 year olds several times and they are way more fun (as in no drama, bitching, ect., they-don't NEED to be drunk to have a good time). The 27 y/o's I was with in vegas were all about the bitching, judging, drame and heaven forbid you are sober for 15 minutes in Vegas. Hell, my buddy and I met a couple 20 year girls olds at the Seether concert that were way cooler than the 27 year olds. Age isn't everything, it's just a number.
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Let me tell you...(btw im not givin numbers) age is NOTHING. Its all about the person thats it. They could be 5 years younger than you andyou could be 23 but you never know...everyone is different and she could be on the same level as you. Trust me I know.

If theres grass in the infield....you know.
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thanks everyone, you all said what I'm feeling
Old 04-23-2008, 10:18 PM
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Other than the issues that would come up from her being too young (smoking/drinking), I don't see a problem with that. You are in the same maturity range. If she is a knucklehead, makes no difference if she is 40 or 20! But if she is a nice chick, with a good head on her shoulders, then give it a whirl. Once you reach 25, five years back is no problem!

See...I didn't even mention sex! Dammit! I just did!
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Old 04-24-2008, 09:13 AM
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You've never met the girl and it sounds like it's only going to be a date, then go ahead and go. It's only a date. You'll know more after you meet and talk.
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Originally Posted by 1killercls
Been happily married 11 years to a woman almost 12 years my junior.

If I did that I'd be going out with a 7th grader.
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My brother is 20 and while I'd love to bang out just about all of his female friends I can barely stand being around them for more than a few hours at a time.

When I was 20 I dated a 31 year old off and on for about a year. She was kinda nuts because her sisters were married with kids and it's all she thought about. Meanwhile, all I thought about was how to sneak my cock up her ass. Didn't work out.
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I'm the younger one.. 10 years difference.
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Meanwhile, all I thought about was how to sneak my cock up her ass. Didn't work out.
The easiest insertion route for anal, is on their side or missionary. The doggy-style just creates a panic attic for them! Hahahahaha!

Lay them on their side and whisper softly in their ear while you work the whole ass, not just the ass-hole!
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Originally Posted by darksom1
The easiest insertion route for anal, is on their side or missionary. The doggy-style just creates a panic attic for them! Hahahahaha!

Lay them on their side and whisper softly in their ear while you work the whole ass, not just the ass-hole!

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Old 04-24-2008, 11:15 AM
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I think it all depends on the person. If just going by age, I wouldn't go more than a few years above or below my age. As you get older the age gap doesn't mean much. However, once you've peaked over 50, I think the whole age gap starts to come into play again...it's kind-of like a parabola. But, again, it all depends on the person.
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Nice. No wonder I'm gay.
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Nice. No wonder I'm gay.
I hear ya gypsy. But the funny thing about ya'll being lesbian, is why run away from the "real thing", for the 'strap on thing"?? I've never quite understood that one...perhaps control freak?

Meh...at 42, you can still learn new tricks...age ain't nothing but a number once you are over the legal limit...while attitude, that is everything my dear.
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I've gone as old as 36 so it's all good. There really isn't much I can relate to with an 18 year old they are just in a different state of mind.

Why is it so hard to find someone who is easy on the eyes, ambitious, can hold a conversation and is sane? I'll be on the prowl before winter for a serious one, right now I just want to hump and hone in on skills.
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Originally Posted by CarbonGray Earl
25 and 20 does meet this formula:

(your age/2) + 7= minimum age of the person you are dating.

(25/2) + 7 = 19.5
Yep.. that's what I go by
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I'm 25, my girlfriend is 20 and not very mature at all. It all depends on what you are looking for.
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I've known men like you. Even "had" a few, and I was definitely in control.

Who's to say that I don't visit the other side every few years just to see if I still prefer my way?

As for age, I've tried from ten years younger to ten years older. The best matches seem to be right about my own age. That way we have common history.


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