hey everyone i was wondering if anyone can answer this question... is it possible for someone to be friends with there x boyfriend/ x girlfriend again? like if your girlfriend or boyfriend dumped you is it possible to be friends with them again even in the future?? im just wondering so if use can please answer this cuz im pretty upset =( long story if someone has time to listen to it ill glady tell them,, but other then that i miss my x =( and we havent talked for 2months now =( the last thing she said to me was "she would contact me when shes ready",, so does that mean she will talk ta me again?? she said she would i took the break up pretty rough u know but i told her i atleast want her in my life as my friend if thats all i can have her as... u know id never want to lose contact with her,, and she said she would talk ta me again wen shes ready i guess it just takes time right especially since her and i were together for over 2 and a half years.... but that doesnt mean we cant be friends again one day right?? if someone can help me with this that would be greatly appreciated =) thanks for your time.

 

um coming from a girl. (me) I think she's trying to have u get over her first b4 she contacts you. She KNOWS the break up must have been hard for you, so there fore she's letting u chill out first. You need to go hang out with other girls to get over her instead of staying at home thinking bout her when she isn't even thinking bout you.

yes i am friends with all my x's n nothing more.

 

Yea im friends with most of my ex girlfriends but hardly talk to them, let alone hang out. So not sure if you would even call them friends.

So the answer is you cant be good/close friends. IMO

Plus do you really want to be friends with her and hear her stories about dating other guys? pssh.

 

The only reason guys stay friends with ex's is because they think there's still a possibility of banging them in the future. so no it's not a good idea to stay friends, unless of course you're confident you can pull off the FWB thing.

 

That being said, the lesson from 2005 for me personally was that ex's are ex's for a reason. Life is to short and has to much to offer to let one girl ruin it for you my

 

IMO there is no reason to remain friends, you can be friendly and cordial should you be out in a public place together, but that is not being friends. All that will show her is that you didn't want to be dumped and she still basically has power over you. Stick with your real friends.

 

Amen.

Plus, do you really want to be "friends" with her and get to know, firsthand, how she's out dating other guys and they are now doing what you used to do to her....except probably better? The obvious answer to that is no.

 

Go watch Swingers and move on.

 

I love that movie. Vince was a role model.

 

do not under any circumstances become a friend with an ex.... unless there is sex involved in the friendship of course...

 

you joined an acura forum just to ask this question???

and no, i don't think so, at least i've never seen it happen

 

I am friends with my first gf from HS. We didn't talk for 3 years after we broke up, then I decided to contact her see what was up because i know she was asking about me. We hang out occasionally now, no sex, she has too buck dirt on my past life to bury me. I do get lots of presents, clothes and dinners. Works out well. Best part is she thinks I feel differently about her than other girls. I told her she's just a piece of meat. Crazy bitch, probably why it ended back then. I would bounce if I didn't get this new jacket and ash catcher for my bong for xmas. Fucking gold digger I am.

 

My decisions are made after thorough and careful deliberations. So when I decide to break up with someone, it's irreversible. I stand by my decisions and I won't ever go back with an ex. Hence, I have no problem remaining cordial and friendly but I won't hang out with any of them.

 

ex is an ex for a reason and make sure she stays that way or your asking for problems in the long run. go out and find other girls, once you find someone else you will forget about your ex.

 

Stay far away from that junk, they are not worth it at all.

 

to quote Xenogen : they should be DEAD to you.

it is difficult at a young age to be friends with someone that you used to go out with but have since broken up with. I find that it is easier now, at 38, to be friends with girlfriends from the past (say 15 years ago) than it was when I was 18 and full of hormonal rage. But then again, I would prefer a home cooked meal to a blow job, so maybe I'm way out there. Still, it seems that as the testosterone levels decrease, the ability to remain friends with an ex increases.

 

We all learned oh so much from Xenogen.