My Wife Is An Idiot!!!
05-17-2006, 11:19 AM
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I am not as upset now as I was earlier. When I first posted, it was 1/2 hour after it happened and I was still steamed about it.
I am calm now and will just get the tire replaced, the rim if needed and the suspension/alignment checked.
I know it is just a car and I should not be so crazy about damage that happens to it. It is just that I am still in the 'honeymoon' phase with the car since it is so new still. If this happened a year from now I probably would not have blinked twice about it.
The reason I lashed out about my wife is because she is so nonchalant about what happened. I know accidents happen but at least be sorry about it.
I guess daughters do become their mothers. Her mother hits something at least once a year. My wife has been a good driver the whole time I have known her but I wonder if she is slowly becoming her mother (in driving) as she gets older.
I am calm now and will just get the tire replaced, the rim if needed and the suspension/alignment checked.
I know it is just a car and I should not be so crazy about damage that happens to it. It is just that I am still in the 'honeymoon' phase with the car since it is so new still. If this happened a year from now I probably would not have blinked twice about it.
The reason I lashed out about my wife is because she is so nonchalant about what happened. I know accidents happen but at least be sorry about it.
I guess daughters do become their mothers. Her mother hits something at least once a year. My wife has been a good driver the whole time I have known her but I wonder if she is slowly becoming her mother (in driving) as she gets older.
05-17-2006, 11:47 AM
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It's your car. You should get as upset about it as you want (within reason). Honestly our wives are interchangeable. Wanna trade? She has absolutely no respect for any property at all. I think men are naturally more into "things" than women.
I could fill up entire servers writing about the stupid crap my wife does. Yeah, the wheels are all scuffed. Part of the problem is that the sidewall of the tire doesn't extend past the rim. Stupid design. But careful driving would have helped. The broken bottle of dish soap in the trunk - which leaked all over and ate through the bag of kitty litter, causing the bag to break - made a handsome mess in the trunk when the car was 2 weeks old. Have any idea what it's like to get a mixture like that out of the carpets? She's lucky it didn't get into the nav. A trunk tray was ordered the next day. The solid masses of milk on the rug and seats from the baby's bottle - that's nice, too.
Then there are the mysterious scratches on the upper front seats and head rests. A stray cat apparently jumped into the car when she openned the door. WTF?!?!?! This is actually what she says happened.
The car is always filthy. I think she walks through the dirtiest areas she can before gettng in the car. She doesn't even know what a shop-vac is. Or the one for the house, for that matter.
Her habbits extend to other areas as well, not just car care.
I could go on forever but I would just get upset again and you all know the stories.
I told her I'd like to go on that show "Wife Swap". I even said they don't have to send anyone in return. It'll be like a donation.
I could fill up entire servers writing about the stupid crap my wife does. Yeah, the wheels are all scuffed. Part of the problem is that the sidewall of the tire doesn't extend past the rim. Stupid design. But careful driving would have helped. The broken bottle of dish soap in the trunk - which leaked all over and ate through the bag of kitty litter, causing the bag to break - made a handsome mess in the trunk when the car was 2 weeks old. Have any idea what it's like to get a mixture like that out of the carpets? She's lucky it didn't get into the nav. A trunk tray was ordered the next day. The solid masses of milk on the rug and seats from the baby's bottle - that's nice, too.
Then there are the mysterious scratches on the upper front seats and head rests. A stray cat apparently jumped into the car when she openned the door. WTF?!?!?! This is actually what she says happened.
The car is always filthy. I think she walks through the dirtiest areas she can before gettng in the car. She doesn't even know what a shop-vac is. Or the one for the house, for that matter.
Her habbits extend to other areas as well, not just car care.
I could go on forever but I would just get upset again and you all know the stories.
I told her I'd like to go on that show "Wife Swap". I even said they don't have to send anyone in return. It'll be like a donation.
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05-17-2006, 01:30 PM
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Ya know, it's usually women who complain that their husbands are slobs, leaving dirty cloths lying around, never doing any housework, etc. But for all you guys, it's the opposite.
And you got a TL when you have children under 4? What's up with that? I thought everybody knew that you get a minivan or station wagon so when the kidlettes barf all over the seats you just hose it out when you get home. I remember talking to my folks about this. Before my brother and I were born, my Dad had a red 2-door sports coupe. After that, they had an old Ford wagon and a cheap Chevy. After we got a lot older, Mom got a veerrry nice Chrysler (we weren't allowed behind the wheel) with leather and a 383 Hemi. Now it's a MB SLK. I get to gaze fondly at it, but that's about it.
Bet you don't even fart in that car...
And you got a TL when you have children under 4? What's up with that? I thought everybody knew that you get a minivan or station wagon so when the kidlettes barf all over the seats you just hose it out when you get home. I remember talking to my folks about this. Before my brother and I were born, my Dad had a red 2-door sports coupe. After that, they had an old Ford wagon and a cheap Chevy. After we got a lot older, Mom got a veerrry nice Chrysler (we weren't allowed behind the wheel) with leather and a 383 Hemi. Now it's a MB SLK. I get to gaze fondly at it, but that's about it.
I refuse to go through the fast-food drive-thru in the TL, though, even with the windows and sunroof open. When I want to go to the drive-thru, I stop at home and get my other car (an '88 RX-7 convertible with 155,000 miles). The positive side effect of this rule has been to reduce my consumption of fast-food by a substantial amount.
05-17-2006, 02:27 PM
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Originally Posted by mr.motoring
I'd like to see your wife's reaction if she ever catches you on the comp blogging away at this thread with her name on it. 
Based on how you so lovingly describe your significant other, she sure is an expensive insurance premium.
From your point of view though, I can understand, because you are just as materialistic as everyone else on this forum. That's why we're here. So let it all out, big guy. Your wife definitely isn't like us.
Now the only way your TL will survive to see it's first birthday is to play keep away with the keys. Hate to say it, but try as you might, it's too late for her. You can't teach an old dog new tricks.
Based on how you so lovingly describe your significant other, she sure is an expensive insurance premium.From your point of view though, I can understand, because you are just as materialistic as everyone else on this forum. That's why we're here. So let it all out, big guy. Your wife definitely isn't like us.
Now the only way your TL will survive to see it's first birthday is to play keep away with the keys. Hate to say it, but try as you might, it's too late for her. You can't teach an old dog new tricks.
You hit it right in a head!My wife grew up in the family which didn't care for things - their place looked trashed all the time. Her sister is the same way. So she gets to drive my old cars and I respect her for that - she says she would be afraid to drive a new car even though I offered her new cars every time she was due for it.
On the bright side for her - my 5-6year old cars look and run better than some ppl's 1yo cars - I am a materialist and like cars
Cheers!
05-17-2006, 03:11 PM
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Bet you don't even fart in that car...
Bet you don't even fart in that car...
05-17-2006, 06:12 PM
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I'm now beginning to appreciate my wife...
Originally Posted by weedeater
Ya know, it's usually women who complain that their husbands are slobs...
Otherwise, my wife prefers neat, clean stuff and she generally takes care of things. She even pulls the vacuum cleaner out more for the cars than I do. Reading this series of posts makes me appreciate my wife more!
Unfortunately, I'm responsible for the curb rash on the TL and a small nick to wifey's Odyssey bumper.
She has promised to buy me a Hyundai as a result.
05-17-2006, 06:43 PM
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I scratched one of my 06 TL's alloy wheels the first week I bought the car. I was going into a Carl's Jr. drive through that was pretty narrow. It was only 1 inch long and barley noticable but just knowing that it was there buged me so I went to 4 different tire shops and the cheapest repair quote I got was $80 so I went ahead and had it fixed.
05-18-2006, 05:21 AM
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After reading some the posts in this thread, I sit back and smile at the games people play on each other. I mean honestly, both you and your wife know each other's "hot buttons" to push.
I just wonder if in some of these posts I read, the wife is getting back at the husband by doing little things that drives him nuts in a bad way.
It is about respecting each other's stuff. The guys have stuff they consider "theirs" and take care of those items. Women have stuff they consider "theirs" and take care of those items.
It is one thing to have the wife curb the rims and sincerely apologize for ruining the rims on "his" car. It is disrespectful to have the wife pass it off as just part of life when she knows how much you take care of the car. Your wife would not like if you deliberately or not ruin something that she takes care and pride in without you apologizing.
I just wonder if in some of these posts I read, the wife is getting back at the husband by doing little things that drives him nuts in a bad way.
It is about respecting each other's stuff. The guys have stuff they consider "theirs" and take care of those items. Women have stuff they consider "theirs" and take care of those items.
It is one thing to have the wife curb the rims and sincerely apologize for ruining the rims on "his" car. It is disrespectful to have the wife pass it off as just part of life when she knows how much you take care of the car. Your wife would not like if you deliberately or not ruin something that she takes care and pride in without you apologizing.
05-18-2006, 05:27 AM
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My wife had her shot. Found a coke stain in the middle console and she got banned quickly from driving the TL on a regular basis. I didn't spend over $30 grand to have her screw MY car up. So she now she only drives it once in a blue moon.......and even then I get nervous and give the car a once over when she gets home. No second or third chances here.
05-18-2006, 07:41 AM
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yesterday my wife took first drive of our TL, it's supposed to be her car but I have been driving it for the break-in period. she was mad that I didn't let her drive, so just took the car and said she knew how to drive. she later called me complaining that she had to push the gas pedal hard to keep the car moving and the engine was noisy. I thought she might forget releasing parking brake, but later realized that she put gear to M... likely she used 2nd gear for all the 25 miles drive, including some freeway.
the car now has 515 miles, and she's saying she doesn't like it and wants to change to a civic.
the car now has 515 miles, and she's saying she doesn't like it and wants to change to a civic.
05-18-2006, 10:29 AM
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Wow. I guess I am not the only one with problems related to the wife being careless with the car.
I wonder if she would be mad if I took one of her Louie Vuitton purses and 'curbed' it against the concrete causing scrapes and gouges across the leather? Ha ha. Nice thought but I would never do it because I respect her stuff and that would be on purpose and not an 'accident'. But it brought a smile to my face.
Funny thing is that she would go ballistic... Hmmm. Double standard. She curbs my car and says 'what's done is done' but if I mess her prized stuff up she would flip out...... I guess it is just a lack of respect for me and my stuff......
I wonder if she would be mad if I took one of her Louie Vuitton purses and 'curbed' it against the concrete causing scrapes and gouges across the leather? Ha ha. Nice thought but I would never do it because I respect her stuff and that would be on purpose and not an 'accident'. But it brought a smile to my face.
Funny thing is that she would go ballistic... Hmmm. Double standard. She curbs my car and says 'what's done is done' but if I mess her prized stuff up she would flip out...... I guess it is just a lack of respect for me and my stuff......
08-08-2006, 05:54 PM
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http://www.acuraautomotiveparts.org/...prddisplay.jsp
The other rim posting from thepartsbin.com is for a "reproduction" wheel... not factory original. This one appears to be original. You need only item 15, and can have the TPMS sensor moved from the damaged wheel during the switch.
Go to an ALIGNMENT shop for a new alignment. They should charge you no more than about $70. I'm guessing that the TL has the typical "front only" adjustments for most settings, and requires less than an hour to align properly.
And, $200-$225 (more, with shipping?) is what it will likely cost you for the new sneaker.
The other rim posting from thepartsbin.com is for a "reproduction" wheel... not factory original. This one appears to be original. You need only item 15, and can have the TPMS sensor moved from the damaged wheel during the switch.
Go to an ALIGNMENT shop for a new alignment. They should charge you no more than about $70. I'm guessing that the TL has the typical "front only" adjustments for most settings, and requires less than an hour to align properly.
And, $200-$225 (more, with shipping?) is what it will likely cost you for the new sneaker.
08-08-2006, 06:10 PM
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HA! I went through this with my wife during my Integra days:
Integra w NEW 17 inch TSW Hockeheims + Wifey+pothole= two bent rims!!!!
This took place over 8 years ago, wifey hasnt driven my A Ride since!!!
Replace whats effed up and move on!
Integra w NEW 17 inch TSW Hockeheims + Wifey+pothole= two bent rims!!!!
This took place over 8 years ago, wifey hasnt driven my A Ride since!!!
Replace whats effed up and move on!
08-08-2006, 10:04 PM
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Originally Posted by davenlei
Wow. I guess I am not the only one with problems related to the wife being careless with the car.
I wonder if she would be mad if I took one of her Louie Vuitton purses and 'curbed' it against the concrete causing scrapes and gouges across the leather? Ha ha. Nice thought but I would never do it because I respect her stuff and that would be on purpose and not an 'accident'. But it brought a smile to my face.
Funny thing is that she would go ballistic... Hmmm. Double standard. She curbs my car and says 'what's done is done' but if I mess her prized stuff up she would flip out...... I guess it is just a lack of respect for me and my stuff......
I wonder if she would be mad if I took one of her Louie Vuitton purses and 'curbed' it against the concrete causing scrapes and gouges across the leather? Ha ha. Nice thought but I would never do it because I respect her stuff and that would be on purpose and not an 'accident'. But it brought a smile to my face.
Funny thing is that she would go ballistic... Hmmm. Double standard. She curbs my car and says 'what's done is done' but if I mess her prized stuff up she would flip out...... I guess it is just a lack of respect for me and my stuff......
I keep this bad visual of when cars used to have curb feelers!!!! Mount a twist tie (as a curb feeler) on her Louie Vuitton purse if it ever gets scrapes and gouges! hahahahaha
08-09-2006, 06:33 AM
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Originally Posted by davenlei
Well, here we go.
One week after I bought my new TL, the wife spilt milk on the seat and hardened the leather....
One month after I bought the car, my wife was rear ended (not her fault).
Five months after I bought the car (today with 3000 miles), my wife hit the curb and scraped/gouged/dented the rim and popped the tire.
She was going 15-20 mph and turned a corner and sideswiped/glance hit the curb. She scraped 40% of the lip of the rim and put a nice gouge in the lip and put a nice hole in the side wall of the tire. By the way, this is the rear passenger rim/tire.
So what is this going to cost me?
Rim repair/replacement cost?
Michelin oem tire replacement cost?
rear alignment cost?
Do you think there was any suspension damage?
One week after I bought my new TL, the wife spilt milk on the seat and hardened the leather....
One month after I bought the car, my wife was rear ended (not her fault).
Five months after I bought the car (today with 3000 miles), my wife hit the curb and scraped/gouged/dented the rim and popped the tire.
She was going 15-20 mph and turned a corner and sideswiped/glance hit the curb. She scraped 40% of the lip of the rim and put a nice gouge in the lip and put a nice hole in the side wall of the tire. By the way, this is the rear passenger rim/tire.
So what is this going to cost me?
Rim repair/replacement cost?
Michelin oem tire replacement cost?
rear alignment cost?
Do you think there was any suspension damage?
Send her this link !
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08-09-2006, 11:30 AM
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I was shocked when I saw this thread get resurrected.
Everything has been fixed and the car is as good as new. Also everything is good with the wifey. She is much more careful now after this incident...
Everything is now good except for one rattle I am looking for now.
Shhhhh. Be verwy verwy quiet... I'm hunting rwattles...
Everything has been fixed and the car is as good as new. Also everything is good with the wifey. She is much more careful now after this incident...
Everything is now good except for one rattle I am looking for now.
Shhhhh. Be verwy verwy quiet... I'm hunting rwattles...
08-09-2006, 07:22 PM
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Originally Posted by davenlei
Yea, I would love to tell her that she is banned from the car but she will bitch and whine about it and start the 'I want to trade my car in so I can have a new car' whine.
If she wants a new car she can take good care of the car she has. If the one she has is beyond any hope for her to really take pride, no new cars until the old one is 8+ years old (not hard to do if you actually take care of it and enforce some rules with the kids). And when the new one comes....again no new cars until the old one is 8+ years old. If the car doesn't last 8+ years (becomes too costly/unsafe), replace with a thrasher.
I had my 96 Integra GS-R for 10 years and still kinda miss it (got my TL in March). It was in great condition with 150k miles. When our 2nd child was born my wife got an Odysee, which she will live with for 8+ years, regardless of how much food she lets the kids spill in it. She has the choice of driving a garbage can, or a really nice minivan.
The kids now remind HER that there is no eating allowed in the TL. I'm so proud!!
08-09-2006, 08:42 PM
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Originally Posted by davenlei
It looks like she hit the curb (nice dent/gouge in the rim about 1 inch across and a 1/8" deep) and then kept going which scraped 40% of the lip of the rim.
I know it is just a car but I waited a long time to get it and she knows I have been wanting this car for years. I am more pissed off that she has no respect for the stuff we own. She treats everything like it is disposable. Almost every dent/ding in her car was caused by her because she does not pay attention to stuff she does. She is not stupid, she is actually very smart but she either just does not care or has no ability to take care of anything.
She is always so amazed at how I keep my stuff in such great condition. My thinking is if I bought it, I should have the responsibility to take care of it. Her thinking is, whenit looks worn out, buy another.
An example is our ipods. We both have our own. I looked at them 3 months after we bought them and mine still looks brand new and has no scratches. Hers looks like it is 3 years old. It is scratched, gouged, dented and has makeup crap caked on it.
I really do not want to ban her from driving the TL because I truly feel like it is 'our' car and we should both enjoy it but how can I enjoy it if she is trashing it when she drives it. She has no respect for how I feel about the need to take care of what we have. For example. There is a no messy food rule (which she agreed to) for the TL but I see a lot of crumbs on the seat at least once a week.
Sorry for the rant but this latest incident just happened and I am still pissed off because the turn in that she hit is very tight and no normal person would go more than 10mph throught it.
I know it is just a car but I waited a long time to get it and she knows I have been wanting this car for years. I am more pissed off that she has no respect for the stuff we own. She treats everything like it is disposable. Almost every dent/ding in her car was caused by her because she does not pay attention to stuff she does. She is not stupid, she is actually very smart but she either just does not care or has no ability to take care of anything.
She is always so amazed at how I keep my stuff in such great condition. My thinking is if I bought it, I should have the responsibility to take care of it. Her thinking is, whenit looks worn out, buy another.
An example is our ipods. We both have our own. I looked at them 3 months after we bought them and mine still looks brand new and has no scratches. Hers looks like it is 3 years old. It is scratched, gouged, dented and has makeup crap caked on it.
I really do not want to ban her from driving the TL because I truly feel like it is 'our' car and we should both enjoy it but how can I enjoy it if she is trashing it when she drives it. She has no respect for how I feel about the need to take care of what we have. For example. There is a no messy food rule (which she agreed to) for the TL but I see a lot of crumbs on the seat at least once a week.
Sorry for the rant but this latest incident just happened and I am still pissed off because the turn in that she hit is very tight and no normal person would go more than 10mph throught it.
She still denied it!! haahaa, still love her though if she's listening
My wife was upset.
01-20-2007, 12:08 PM
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I dont know what is wrong with chicks..... Take care of everything that belongs to them (or replaces it) but cars dont make it on the list for taking care of.... WOW
01-20-2007, 01:28 PM
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At least my wife only curbed one rim, and it was minor... My coworker on the other hand... He managed to curb all 4 rims on his TL. And his curb rashes... Go the entire circumference of the rim, on all 4 wheels.....
(Remind me to never let him borrow any of my cars)
(Remind me to never let him borrow any of my cars)
01-20-2007, 02:57 PM
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Originally Posted by avs007
At least my wife only curbed one rim, and it was minor... My coworker on the other hand... He managed to curb all 4 rims on his TL. And his curb rashes... Go the entire circumference of the rim, on all 4 wheels.....
(Remind me to never let him borrow any of my cars)
(Remind me to never let him borrow any of my cars)
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I make my wife take off her (engagement) ring so she doesn't scratch up anything while driving it. The thing kind of sticks out a bit and she's always making scratches in things with it...so the ring is off while she drives! She only drives it when I'm out of town on business, so I don't really have to worry about it too much.
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i am a very young TLS owner, i busted my butt to purchase this vehicle and am horrified at the very thought of this happening to me...that being said i think this post changed my mind about getting married
as for your wife changing, i think your
as for your wife changing, i think your
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