Work spouse?
11-17-2011, 04:10 PM
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Work spouse?
As per wiki... http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Work_spouse
"A work spouse is a co-worker, usually of the opposite sex,[1] with whom one shares a special relationship, having bonds similar to those of a marriage; such as, confidences, loyalties, shared experiences, and a degree of honesty or openness. The work spouse is a potentially key relationship when one's actual spouse or boy/girlfriend is not able to be there."
Anybody have one? In my office it's about a 60/40 split of men to women. Some of the girls I get along with just fine which in turns makes the women that don't along with those women don't get along with me either
Usually I'll have a few that walk into my office, close the door and begin to talk to me about others or their personal lives, etc. I've taken on the role of confidant here it appears. Probably because rumors never seem to start from my end as I just take in what they say and only tell my wife not anyone at work.
Anyway, I have a few that I trust. My wife knows most of my co-workers so she doesn't mind it. Shoot one of my office mates is a guy and he calls me as we get off of work to discuss work!
I just saw you for 10+ hours and we're talking about the same shit that pisses us off haha.
"A work spouse is a co-worker, usually of the opposite sex,[1] with whom one shares a special relationship, having bonds similar to those of a marriage; such as, confidences, loyalties, shared experiences, and a degree of honesty or openness. The work spouse is a potentially key relationship when one's actual spouse or boy/girlfriend is not able to be there."
Anybody have one? In my office it's about a 60/40 split of men to women. Some of the girls I get along with just fine which in turns makes the women that don't along with those women don't get along with me either
Usually I'll have a few that walk into my office, close the door and begin to talk to me about others or their personal lives, etc. I've taken on the role of confidant here it appears. Probably because rumors never seem to start from my end as I just take in what they say and only tell my wife not anyone at work.
Anyway, I have a few that I trust. My wife knows most of my co-workers so she doesn't mind it. Shoot one of my office mates is a guy and he calls me as we get off of work to discuss work!
I just saw you for 10+ hours and we're talking about the same shit that pisses us off haha.
11-17-2011, 06:51 PM
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Work spouse = Step 1 for an affair.
11-17-2011, 07:05 PM
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For some yes. Not all.
11-17-2011, 08:02 PM
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I think any married man having too close a relationship with a woman besides his wife is a risk. But at work, it's possible to keep some boundaries if there is a professional work environment. But if someone starts socializing outside work, or on business trips, the risk can become a real problem very quickly. Especially if the two are attracted to each other.
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11-17-2011, 08:05 PM
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Temptation.
11-18-2011, 08:23 AM
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I had one of those when I worked in NJ. She was about my age and we shared a lab. It was inevitable that we would develop a more than work type relationship.
During the 7 years were worked together we shared stuff about our families, our friends, our significant others....you name it. We had lunch together, went out together and even went on vacation together once.
Never once did we blur the line. I dated girls that were very jealous of her and vice versa, but we were never into each other in that way.
Keep this in mind....
DON'T SHIT WHERE YOU EAT!
During the 7 years were worked together we shared stuff about our families, our friends, our significant others....you name it. We had lunch together, went out together and even went on vacation together once.
Never once did we blur the line. I dated girls that were very jealous of her and vice versa, but we were never into each other in that way.
Keep this in mind....
DON'T SHIT WHERE YOU EAT!
11-18-2011, 09:04 AM
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Sausage fest where I work. 
I used to have them but changing jobs results in divorce.
I used to have them but changing jobs results in divorce.
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11-18-2011, 09:15 AM
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Never had one, but I was very close with a secretary at my last job. I've been dating her daughter for the last year 
11-18-2011, 10:42 AM
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The options for engineers are almost nil. The only females that work here that would even be an option are all in accounting, HR, or administration, and they are all on a different floor. There are 20 people and 20 dudes in my group.
11-18-2011, 11:55 AM
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In most law firms, there are lawyers of both sexes. I think there are more female law students than men by a small margin now.
Regardless, it's pretty normal to have a work spouse, or several-- of both sexes-- when working on litigation teams, transaction teams or complex/long-term litigation.
I'm having lunch with a big busted attractive blond former work spouse on Monday-- my wife isn't going, although I asked her.
On Dec. 1, I'll be meeting a pretty late-20s Asian former associate (female, never a work spouse, though) for dinner and beers.
or 
Oh, and the foregoing only applies to the attractive females I've worked with, and not any of my too-numerous male work spouses.
In other news, my wife and I had sex this morning and I'm still horny...
Regardless, it's pretty normal to have a work spouse, or several-- of both sexes-- when working on litigation teams, transaction teams or complex/long-term litigation.
On Dec. 1, I'll be meeting a pretty late-20s Asian former associate (female, never a work spouse, though) for dinner and beers.
or Oh, and the foregoing only applies to the attractive females I've worked with, and not any of my too-numerous male work spouses.
In other news, my wife and I had sex this morning and I'm still horny...
11-18-2011, 12:28 PM
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Im sure my wife has many.
11-18-2011, 01:01 PM
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11-18-2011, 03:41 PM
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11-20-2011, 10:34 PM
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all work and no play
my fiancee has called my coordinator my work wife. She's in an office 5 hours away, and Ive only actually met her maybe 5 times even though we are in contact all day long usually
11-21-2011, 02:36 PM
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Dont get your honey where you get your money.
11-21-2011, 05:00 PM
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There's a plethora of hot nurses running around but I agree with others about not dipping one's pen in the company ink. F-ck over one nurse and there will be hospital wide rumors about how small your d-ck is or how much you suck in bed. I like drama-free inpatient consultations.
11-22-2011, 08:37 AM
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I had one of those when I worked in NJ. She was about my age and we shared a lab. It was inevitable that we would develop a more than work type relationship.
During the 7 years were worked together we shared stuff about our families, our friends, our significant others....you name it. We had lunch together, went out together and even went on vacation together once.
Never once did we blur the line. I dated girls that were very jealous of her and vice versa, but we were never into each other in that way.
Keep this in mind....
DON'T SHIT WHERE YOU EAT!
During the 7 years were worked together we shared stuff about our families, our friends, our significant others....you name it. We had lunch together, went out together and even went on vacation together once.
Never once did we blur the line. I dated girls that were very jealous of her and vice versa, but we were never into each other in that way.
Keep this in mind....
DON'T SHIT WHERE YOU EAT!
I had one as well before we moved from NY. We were inseparable and hung out all of the time. Nothing inappropriate ever happened in the 9 or so years. At first my wife was jealous, but she got to know her and her husband and that went away quickly. Once I moved and she left that company we've pretty much become more like regular friends. We're rarely in touch except online.... but you know the old saying... out of sight, out of mind.
At my current job I do not have one. There are a lot of females here... most attractive... but they're so busy that they do not have time for it. If they do form a bond, it's typically with someone on their team. But it's different here then it was at my last corporate job... so not sure I'll have one here.
11-22-2011, 08:39 AM
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11-22-2011, 10:48 AM
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To me, it's a form of cheating. I think the emotional bond you share with your spouse is special and shouldn't be shared with anyone of the opposite sex who you aren't kin to.
Although I'm in an industry that is 90% male.. My whole team is women. With the exception of my boss, they are all younger than me as well (7 in their 20's). The way I handle it is to stay professional and don't cross the social barrier. I don't get coffee / lunch with them although I'm invited almost everyday and only keep it to small chit chat.
11-22-2011, 10:50 AM
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There's a plethora of hot nurses running around but I agree with others about not dipping one's pen in the company ink. F-ck over one nurse and there will be hospital wide rumors about how small your d-ck is or how much you suck in bed. I like drama-free inpatient consultations.
11-22-2011, 11:16 AM
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Both my wife and I def have work spouses. Lol
11-22-2011, 12:17 PM
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To me, it's a form of cheating. I think the emotional bond you share with your spouse is special and shouldn't be shared with anyone of the opposite sex who you aren't kin to.
Although I'm in an industry that is 90% male.. My whole team is women. With the exception of my boss, they are all younger than me as well (7 in their 20's). The way I handle it is to stay professional and don't cross the social barrier. I don't get coffee / lunch with them although I'm invited almost everyday and only keep it to small chit chat.
Oh some good ones for sure.
11-22-2011, 01:18 PM
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Well I will admit.. It's a lot easier when you almost have nothing in common.
It's annoying as fuck when some douche walks from the other side of the building to talk to them..
Pathetic. 
Good thing for my QC3's.At my last job, it was a bunch of guys.. half of the stuff they said would have probably put us all on some blacklist. I miss those guys..
11-22-2011, 01:41 PM
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I work in an office of 25. At one point, there were 7 completely smashable women working here. That number is now down to 4. 
11-22-2011, 01:49 PM
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cool story bro
11-22-2011, 02:29 PM
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11-22-2011, 02:38 PM
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11-22-2011, 05:30 PM
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Creepy guy in the mirror.
I have a work wife. The reason I call her a work wife is she drives me nuts, always tells me when I am wrong, and I aint getting any.
In all seriousness though I wouldn't call it harmless. There is lots of reason for caution.
In all seriousness though I wouldn't call it harmless. There is lots of reason for caution.
11-28-2011, 07:17 PM
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11-28-2011, 07:27 PM
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11-28-2011, 10:28 PM
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You still with the station Steven?
12-01-2011, 07:25 PM
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^^^ Yes, I'm still on the radio at 101 The Fox (KCFX). But I'm actually referring to my day job-the one that pays the bills !!!!
12-01-2011, 09:27 PM
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that's odd, I have never thought of any female that I have worked with as a work spouce... Being married means you are faithful to your spouce even when you are at work all day... Some people just don't know how to control themselves and that is what leads to problems in marital relationships.....