nokiaman

I don't post here often but this time I'm at a loss for words.

I have two very good close friends to me that I met a few years ago. When I met them, they had been best friends for at least 6 or 7 years. We shared the same passion for cars, women and just about everything else young adults liked at that time. We were really the three musketeers as people often called us.

Fast forward to today, Friend A and Friend B who were best friends before cannot really stand each other anymore. For some reason (One claims the other is too stuck up for his taste and the other claims one is too much party-boy). It was very gradual and slow and I could see it coming.

So as you've guessed it, I am stuck in the middle. It'll be nights were both want to hang out and it'll be an awkward decision for me. I shouldn't have to choose?!

I feel like I should ditch before as these are childish games and unnecessary drama in my opinion; just as an example tonight both one after the other called me asking me what I was doing whilst complaining about each other. I know these things happen to other people as well so what am I suppose to do or say? Reconcile them or what?

Cheers.

tinad2004

i think you should first talk to each one of them about the other... not in judging and taking sides type of a way but just have them open up about how they both feel, then try to get them together to try to fix and sort it out... if they aren't able to you need to let them know that them not being able to communicate anymore puts you in a bad position where you have to choose and have them put themselves in your shoes, and see how unfair they are both being ...

Whiskers

If you are not a homo, get a girlfriend...

sasha

There's really nothing you can do to make them like one another again. I also don't think you should choose between the two of them. Maybe you should just hang out with Friend A one night, and then go out with the Friend B next time?

nokiaman

Thanks for the advice Tina, I have done that tonight and I'll give it a bit of time. Maybe next week I'll be able to sit them both down and make them realize how silly they're acting.

I have a wife Warren, so no worries there.:wink:

Thanks Sasha, that's the same conclusion I have come to.

All of this might seem a bit silly of a situation to even create a thread about it but I guess I was pretty amazed in the moment how two married fully grown men can behave like 15 year old teenagers.

CUNextTuesday

Far too much estrogen in this bromance.

CL-Slick

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I have been in the same situation before and I just gradually removed myself from both parties and found new friends. Yes, it sucks, but there will be no drama later on.

Costco

Sorry to hear Mark. I hate being in that position. Or when you're friends with a couple for a long time and then they break up. I'd try to just stay away from the drama.

It's weird when things like this happen. I don't know if you should distance yourself from each other, but instead maybe remind the two of the great times you guys had together, and hopefully they'll come to the realization that its not worth it, and have a few drinks and forget the differences they now hold.

1Louder

My advice would be to tell both friends somehting like - hey, sorry you don't like Friend A/B any more, but Friend A/B and I are still friends. I'd rather we all be able to hang out, but if we can't then it will just have to be seperately.

If one or the other can't handle that, then you know who to hang out with.

I always preferred the company of my wife anyway. Lady parts > dudes. Good luck!

is300eater

I've been in that situation before, and basically just handled it like what "1Louder" suggested

Majofo

What both of them should do is kick the shit out of each other, then drink some beer and stop wearing panties. I'm guessing they must have gotten drunk one night and made out. If they're your true friends they'll continue to be your friends even if you hang out with one on Friday night and the other on Saturday. It's not worth reconciling if both guys hate each other.

97BlackAckCL

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Dr. Colorado

Damn Mark that's some ghey shit you have to put up with from your boys. They are being selfish and acting like little byooitches making you pick sides and all. I say have them glove up, get in the ring, and settle it like men. Winner takes all and gets your undying friendship and loyalty.

J/K

OTW, stay with the party guy. He'll be more fun on the weekends

1killercls

you are gay!

nokiaman

Honestly, was that necessary?

Anyways if anyone cares, we all met up tonight to talk about it all. They both agreed to disagree and part ways.

is300eater

oh that sucks... it doesn't make it any easier for you, huh? still kinda weird because you're still the mutual one

RaviNJCLs

iTrader: (4)

Tell your friends to grow the fuck up.

1killercls

Comic value only..lighten up.

coffeefingers

1) Get new "mature" / drama free friends.

2) Spend more time modding your car.

indoMFP

That sucks... but I hope you still are friends with both...
I am guessing the bonds that made you guys so close (initially) starting falling apart... Being young, you guys did the same things and had the same interests, but as you get older, some of you guys did not care that much for the cars, some of your guys discovered that pussy is a better feeling than leather wrapped shifter, etc.

Hope everything works out for you...

evilone

My advice is to just be straight up with them. Just say something to this effect. " Look I know you're not friends with _____, but I still am. I understand you guys don't get along anymore. However I still remain good friend with both you guys. It's not cool with me for either one of you guys to bash the other one in front of me, seeing as how I'm still friends with the both of you. Please respect that and don't do it in front of me."


Something like that. Good luck mang !

S14 n Tsx

just let them deal with it...

CLtotheTL32

iTrader: (3)

Mark try not to take sides here. Hang out with friend 1 sometime and then hang out with friend 2 another time and don't bring each other up. Don't try to make one believe that you are on their side of the story when in reality you are stuck in the middle.

03bl AC k CL

what night does your wife get to hang out with you? lol.

you have no obligation to be peacemaker and they have no right to use you to vent about their problems they are both men they should solve their issues directly with each other