Update: Divorced, moved to better neighborhood. New g/f. She said Yes.
04-14-2016, 12:51 AM
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Update: Divorced, moved to better neighborhood. New g/f. She said Yes.
Well, the cat is out of the bag. My wife and I are heading to splitsville.
Sad and unfortunate. It's not entirely mutual, it's mostly on her end but we haven't really lived as a couple these past few years. The 'magic' is gone. You can't make someone love you.
So yeah, I haven't been on here much. I've had a lot of shit to deal with the past six months. Fortunately, it's not a hostile situation. We still talk, we care for each other. We even went to a wedding recently as a 'couple'. Weird but I guess that's what mature people do.
We've been dragging our feet on the paperwork and finances, though it's pretty cut and dry and we're not contesting money and no kids makes it fairly easy I suppose.
We have a lot of mutual friends, none of them like this or think it's a good idea but.. the support has definitely been there for us both.
Sad and unfortunate. It's not entirely mutual, it's mostly on her end but we haven't really lived as a couple these past few years. The 'magic' is gone. You can't make someone love you.
So yeah, I haven't been on here much. I've had a lot of shit to deal with the past six months. Fortunately, it's not a hostile situation. We still talk, we care for each other. We even went to a wedding recently as a 'couple'. Weird but I guess that's what mature people do.
We've been dragging our feet on the paperwork and finances, though it's pretty cut and dry and we're not contesting money and no kids makes it fairly easy I suppose.
We have a lot of mutual friends, none of them like this or think it's a good idea but.. the support has definitely been there for us both.
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05-15-2017, 09:35 AM
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the guys that get the most butthurt about this type of subject are the pussy beggars and the manginas and cuck traditionalists that can't stand the fact that the world is changing around them. 60% of marriages end in Divorce. 80% are initiated by women. It's even worse in some states. California has an 80% divorce rate, and again 80% initiated by women. California has lifetime alimony after 10 years of marriage. If you get married at 20, and divorced at 30, legally you will have to pay until she remarries or you die. Now why would a women who mow hates you choose to relieve you of thos burden..? And all she has to do is wait until you miss one payment, call the cops on you, and your ass is going to jail. Fuck all of that. Not worth it. You wouldn't cross a certain street if half the time you would get your ass run over. These are FACTS. If you don't like them FUCK YOUR FEELINGS. Facts over feelings.
if all you can provide are bullshit ass personal attacks, then that just proves you have no logical reasoning against what I'm saying. Only your pussy ass fee fee's that are getting hurt over the subject matter.
if all you can provide are bullshit ass personal attacks, then that just proves you have no logical reasoning against what I'm saying. Only your pussy ass fee fee's that are getting hurt over the subject matter.
04-14-2016, 01:41 AM
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Very sorry to hear Ken. Feel free to hit me up if you need.
04-14-2016, 06:30 AM
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Just went through all that myself. Very similar situation though, it was all on her end. We have three kids, which definitely complicates things. Trust me when I say that it is a good thing when you can remain amicable. It gets brutal, and expensive, when you argue and disagree about everything.
It is said that you never truly know a person until you sit across from them in court, but I wish you good luck.
Any marriage takes work. My parents said that for years. They have lasted over 46 years, and I have no idea how. I just think they didn't give up. Its too easy today to just give up. I know I didn't want to, but it is what it is. If both aren't committed and into it, no sense in wasting your life being unhappy.
It is said that you never truly know a person until you sit across from them in court, but I wish you good luck.
Any marriage takes work. My parents said that for years. They have lasted over 46 years, and I have no idea how. I just think they didn't give up. Its too easy today to just give up. I know I didn't want to, but it is what it is. If both aren't committed and into it, no sense in wasting your life being unhappy.
04-14-2016, 06:47 AM
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sorry to hear.......
04-14-2016, 06:59 AM
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So....You are single now????? 
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04-14-2016, 07:04 AM
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I'm sorry to hear this Ken. Have you tried counseling? Best of luck to both of you.
04-14-2016, 09:04 AM
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I have wondered a couple of times over the past few months why you weren't around. Sucks this is the reason.
04-14-2016, 11:29 AM
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04-14-2016, 03:10 PM
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Dang sorry to hear Ken.
04-14-2016, 07:52 PM
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Thank you all. It's tough for sure. She was my best friend which frankly makes it even worse. You end up with a serious void and few others to confide in. On the plus side, it's really opened up my days. I'm free to do whatever I want.
04-14-2016, 08:04 PM
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Originally Posted by Ken1997TL
Thank you all. It's tough for sure. She was my best friend which frankly makes it even worse. You end up with a serious void and few others to confide in. On the plus side, it's really opened up my days. I'm free to do whatever I want.
04-15-2016, 10:31 AM
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Does this mean you don't not look at porn anymore?
04-15-2016, 02:55 PM
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Take this experience and learn from it. Enjoy the good things that come from this like freedom, reconnecting with old friends that you didn't have time for, and obviously female variety 
Good luck!
Good luck!
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04-15-2016, 03:35 PM
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Turn that frown upside down, brother.
The only difference between a good situation and a bad situation is perspective. And understandably, I know it's a shitty place to be right now, but rather than looking and seeing all the bad right now, look at it from the other side. There is good in this.
You have the opportunity to find that magic again. You have free time to do whatever the hell you want. Im a firm believer that there isn't just one person out there for us. And even if there is, maybe the one you found, as good as she was in the past, wasn't the one ultimately for you. And now you have about a billion different possibilities, all over the world.
At a time like this, I'd say it's more important to focus on yourself and only yourself. Don't feel sorry for yourself, but rather, seize the opportunity to learn something new about yourself and better yourself in any way possible, whether physically or mentally. Or both.
Everything happens for a reason and although it's not clear right now, I guarantee you that in due time, it will make sense.
The only difference between a good situation and a bad situation is perspective. And understandably, I know it's a shitty place to be right now, but rather than looking and seeing all the bad right now, look at it from the other side. There is good in this.
You have the opportunity to find that magic again. You have free time to do whatever the hell you want. Im a firm believer that there isn't just one person out there for us. And even if there is, maybe the one you found, as good as she was in the past, wasn't the one ultimately for you. And now you have about a billion different possibilities, all over the world.
At a time like this, I'd say it's more important to focus on yourself and only yourself. Don't feel sorry for yourself, but rather, seize the opportunity to learn something new about yourself and better yourself in any way possible, whether physically or mentally. Or both.
Everything happens for a reason and although it's not clear right now, I guarantee you that in due time, it will make sense.
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04-16-2016, 06:43 AM
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Sorry to hear, hope both of you move forward in life toward happiness and of course remain friends. Although not the idea situation, at least both of you are handling the situation as mature adults. Good luck.
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04-19-2016, 02:02 PM
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In for the nudes of the ex. 
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04-23-2016, 12:16 PM
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Welcome to the single life again! Been there twice before.
If you are bored take a drive down here to Corvallis. We'll go down to the campus and look at pussy that we're to old to get, drink to excess and talk about which classic rock songs are worthy of keeping a CD copy of.
If you are bored take a drive down here to Corvallis. We'll go down to the campus and look at pussy that we're to old to get, drink to excess and talk about which classic rock songs are worthy of keeping a CD copy of.
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04-27-2016, 11:01 AM
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So sorry to hear about that Ken - there's no easy way to get through it but good to hear things at least sound civil. Hope that in time you are able to find that "magic" again.
04-28-2016, 11:49 AM
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I'm sorry you're going through this, Ken. You've said things are amicable, but I know from experience that amicable doesn't equal easy. And when the person you're used to talking about all the hard shit with is the hard shit, you're left looking for someone else lean on.
I'm glad your friends have remained supportive. Hang in there - you'll get through it.
I'm glad your friends have remained supportive. Hang in there - you'll get through it.
04-29-2016, 04:42 AM
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Sorry to hear about the end of your marriage....
05-06-2016, 10:33 AM
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I haven't announced this on Azine but I'm in the same boat. Wife and I separated a year ago this month. I have 2 little girls so it has been super hard. It has gotten better but the beginning was so rough. It sucks sitting alone with thoughts running through your head. Please message me if you need advice or just want to talk. I know what you're going through.
05-09-2016, 02:03 PM
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Still have thoughts wondering if I made the right decision to leave. I don't think that'll ever change. But we are good now. I have my girls equal or if not more than her. Communication is good. I've been dating and seeing other people. It is fucking weird after being with someone for 13 years. Sorry to thread jack Ken. You have people here if you need advice.
05-09-2016, 02:49 PM
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Thanks Doom
Still have thoughts wondering if I made the right decision to leave. I don't think that'll ever change. But we are good now. I have my girls equal or if not more than her. Communication is good. I've been dating and seeing other people. It is fucking weird after being with someone for 13 years. Sorry to thread jack Ken. You have people here if you need advice.
Still have thoughts wondering if I made the right decision to leave. I don't think that'll ever change. But we are good now. I have my girls equal or if not more than her. Communication is good. I've been dating and seeing other people. It is fucking weird after being with someone for 13 years. Sorry to thread jack Ken. You have people here if you need advice.
05-09-2016, 02:52 PM
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Yes.
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