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Old 04-14-2016, 12:51 AM
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Update: Divorced, moved to better neighborhood. New g/f. She said Yes.

Well, the cat is out of the bag. My wife and I are heading to splitsville.

Sad and unfortunate. It's not entirely mutual, it's mostly on her end but we haven't really lived as a couple these past few years. The 'magic' is gone. You can't make someone love you.

So yeah, I haven't been on here much. I've had a lot of shit to deal with the past six months. Fortunately, it's not a hostile situation. We still talk, we care for each other. We even went to a wedding recently as a 'couple'. Weird but I guess that's what mature people do.

We've been dragging our feet on the paperwork and finances, though it's pretty cut and dry and we're not contesting money and no kids makes it fairly easy I suppose.

We have a lot of mutual friends, none of them like this or think it's a good idea but.. the support has definitely been there for us both.
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Damn sorry to hear.....
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Very sorry to hear Ken. Feel free to hit me up if you need.
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Just went through all that myself. Very similar situation though, it was all on her end. We have three kids, which definitely complicates things. Trust me when I say that it is a good thing when you can remain amicable. It gets brutal, and expensive, when you argue and disagree about everything.


It is said that you never truly know a person until you sit across from them in court, but I wish you good luck.


Any marriage takes work. My parents said that for years. They have lasted over 46 years, and I have no idea how. I just think they didn't give up. Its too easy today to just give up. I know I didn't want to, but it is what it is. If both aren't committed and into it, no sense in wasting your life being unhappy.
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Damn, Ken. I'm sorry to hear too, man.
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So....You are single now?????
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I'm sorry to hear this Ken. Have you tried counseling? Best of luck to both of you.
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I have wondered a couple of times over the past few months why you weren't around. Sucks this is the reason.
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hey mate... i'm saddened to hear that you are going thru this rough time... please let me know if there is anything i can do for you...
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I have wondered a couple of times over the past few months why you weren't around. Sucks this is the reason.
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hey mate... i'm saddened to hear that you are going thru this rough time... please let me know if there is anything i can do for you...
Ditto, sorry to hear, but hopefully you both find more happiness in life. Let me know if there's anything I can do.
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Wow, sucks and sorry to hear. I hope both of you find peace and calm, at least you all can remain friends. Tough, but you will definitely bounce back.
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Thank you all. It's tough for sure. She was my best friend which frankly makes it even worse. You end up with a serious void and few others to confide in. On the plus side, it's really opened up my days. I'm free to do whatever I want.
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Thank you all. It's tough for sure. She was my best friend which frankly makes it even worse. You end up with a serious void and few others to confide in. On the plus side, it's really opened up my days. I'm free to do whatever I want.
Take a shower.
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Does this mean you don't not look at porn anymore?
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Take this experience and learn from it. Enjoy the good things that come from this like freedom, reconnecting with old friends that you didn't have time for, and obviously female variety Good luck!
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Turn that frown upside down, brother.

The only difference between a good situation and a bad situation is perspective. And understandably, I know it's a shitty place to be right now, but rather than looking and seeing all the bad right now, look at it from the other side. There is good in this.

You have the opportunity to find that magic again. You have free time to do whatever the hell you want. Im a firm believer that there isn't just one person out there for us. And even if there is, maybe the one you found, as good as she was in the past, wasn't the one ultimately for you. And now you have about a billion different possibilities, all over the world.

At a time like this, I'd say it's more important to focus on yourself and only yourself. Don't feel sorry for yourself, but rather, seize the opportunity to learn something new about yourself and better yourself in any way possible, whether physically or mentally. Or both.

Everything happens for a reason and although it's not clear right now, I guarantee you that in due time, it will make sense.
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Old 04-16-2016, 06:43 AM
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Sorry to hear, hope both of you move forward in life toward happiness and of course remain friends. Although not the idea situation, at least both of you are handling the situation as mature adults. Good luck.
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No, he's gonna be looking at a LOT more porn now.
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Ken, sorry to hear. Not much to say other than if you need me, I'm here for you.

Or, if you'd like to get on a plane, come to Jacksonville, I'll take you out and get you rip-roarin' drunk.
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Old 04-19-2016, 12:51 PM
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Ken sorry to hear, I think it's definitely worse if its not mutual. Hang in there buddy.
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Does this mean you don't not look at porn anymore?



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You guys are brutal!
He's probably kidding. They're probably make up loving right now.
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Sorry to hear this. Time to hit the gym and make yourself look good again. Has she moved out?

/edit. Did you *just* buy her a car too?? wtf
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Sorry Ken. Hope all works out for the best.
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Welcome to the single life again! Been there twice before.
If you are bored take a drive down here to Corvallis. We'll go down to the campus and look at pussy that we're to old to get, drink to excess and talk about which classic rock songs are worthy of keeping a CD copy of.
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Sorry to hear Ken but sounds like the best solution for the both of you.
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So sorry to hear about that Ken - there's no easy way to get through it but good to hear things at least sound civil. Hope that in time you are able to find that "magic" again.
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I'm sorry you're going through this, Ken. You've said things are amicable, but I know from experience that amicable doesn't equal easy. And when the person you're used to talking about all the hard shit with is the hard shit, you're left looking for someone else lean on.

I'm glad your friends have remained supportive. Hang in there - you'll get through it.
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Old 04-29-2016, 04:42 AM
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Sorry to hear about the end of your marriage....
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Thank you all. It's tough for sure. She was my best friend which frankly makes it even worse. You end up with a serious void and few others to confide in. On the plus side, it's really opened up my days. I'm free to do whatever I want.
I haven't announced this on Azine but I'm in the same boat. Wife and I separated a year ago this month. I have 2 little girls so it has been super hard. It has gotten better but the beginning was so rough. It sucks sitting alone with thoughts running through your head. Please message me if you need advice or just want to talk. I know what you're going through.
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^Been there Maker. I got 2 little girls too. PM me if you want to discuss.
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^Been there Maker. I got 2 little girls too. PM me if you want to discuss.
Thanks Doom

Still have thoughts wondering if I made the right decision to leave. I don't think that'll ever change. But we are good now. I have my girls equal or if not more than her. Communication is good. I've been dating and seeing other people. It is fucking weird after being with someone for 13 years. Sorry to thread jack Ken. You have people here if you need advice.
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Thanks Doom

Still have thoughts wondering if I made the right decision to leave. I don't think that'll ever change. But we are good now. I have my girls equal or if not more than her. Communication is good. I've been dating and seeing other people. It is fucking weird after being with someone for 13 years. Sorry to thread jack Ken. You have people here if you need advice.
thread jack...you made the decision???
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Yes.
Sorry it got to that point.
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