Trusting a girl
07-06-2004, 11:12 PM
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Trusting a girl
How do you trust a girl?
And more specifically, how do you trust a girl when she's going on a trip, let's say to Mexico for a solid week, with a friend of hers?
And more specifically, how do you trust a girl when she's going on a trip, let's say to Mexico for a solid week, with a friend of hers?
07-06-2004, 11:19 PM
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male or female friend? if male, is he gay, if female, is she straight? how long have they known each other?
i won't feel comfortable about it at all. not that i don't trust her, it's that i don't trust other people
i won't feel comfortable about it at all. not that i don't trust her, it's that i don't trust other people
07-06-2004, 11:29 PM
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It depends on the relationship.
Is it long term? Are you committed to each other? Do you pass up going out with friends to be with her? Can you go along on the trip? What kind of person is this friend? What is the purpose of this trip?
Its way more than a trust issue. If this is a committed relationship, then why is she going on a fun trip to a party place? Why should she want to go away at all without you (that's not work related)?
Is it long term? Are you committed to each other? Do you pass up going out with friends to be with her? Can you go along on the trip? What kind of person is this friend? What is the purpose of this trip?
Its way more than a trust issue. If this is a committed relationship, then why is she going on a fun trip to a party place? Why should she want to go away at all without you (that's not work related)?
07-06-2004, 11:37 PM
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i'm not sure... but if it were me, i wouldn't be going w/ my friend, i'd be going w/ my boyfriend... :-/
but i'll ask you this: how long have you been going out? has trust been an issue before? if you have been dating for a while and have a solid secure relationship, then i think you can just rest and know that she is just having a fun vacation with one of her (best?) friends.
it's a tough one, b/c if you bring it up she could throw a hissy fit "you don't trust me blah blah" and it could just be a mess.
but i'll ask you this: how long have you been going out? has trust been an issue before? if you have been dating for a while and have a solid secure relationship, then i think you can just rest and know that she is just having a fun vacation with one of her (best?) friends.
it's a tough one, b/c if you bring it up she could throw a hissy fit "you don't trust me blah blah" and it could just be a mess.
07-07-2004, 08:03 AM
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Trust until they give you a reason not too. If you start dating someone, are you gonna follow them everywhere, or need to go everywhere with them? Hell no, that is too much work!! Let her do what she wants, and you are entitled to to the same and go on vacation with your friends.
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07-07-2004, 09:02 AM
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i find it hard to trust any girl i am with 100%.
from my first date ever, to now, i learned to never trust girls completely.
i have been cheated on once, and that one time ruined it for all the girls here on out.
from my first date ever, to now, i learned to never trust girls completely.
i have been cheated on once, and that one time ruined it for all the girls here on out.
07-07-2004, 09:08 AM
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Originally Posted by amisconception
How do you trust a girl?
And more specifically, how do you trust a girl when she's going on a trip, let's say to Mexico for a solid week, with a friend of hers?
And more specifically, how do you trust a girl when she's going on a trip, let's say to Mexico for a solid week, with a friend of hers?
Just remember than when she comes back from her trip and you missed her and all that... think about that mexican beefsteak she had in her mouth all week while you were not around....and savor the flavor of creamy sazon~!!
07-07-2004, 09:10 AM
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Did you guys ever stop and think that the reason you don't trust girls is cause you'd do the same shit to them that you think they'd do to you?
Come on, admit it. I've read way too many posts on this thread about "hooking up with my my girlfriend's sister, best friend, border collie...."
Come on, admit it. I've read way too many posts on this thread about "hooking up with my my girlfriend's sister, best friend, border collie...."
07-07-2004, 09:40 AM
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Originally Posted by Red-CL
You don't trust her.
I never trust a female.
It makes things a lot easier.
I never trust a female.
It makes things a lot easier.
judging by some of your comments, i'd say that some of you guys have never been in love. in order to love completely, you have to trust completely. what's the point of all this relationship stuff if we're not going to fall in love sometimes?
07-07-2004, 11:22 AM
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Originally Posted by supermegaglossy
while yes, we are all questioning the situation b/c we don't know the girl or his relationship with her, but all this "i never trust a female" and "just learn not to care" makes me sick. i can only speak for myself and not other girls, but i have never and will never cheat on a guy or do anything with him if i know he is involved with someone else.
judging by some of your comments, i'd say that some of you guys have never been in love. in order to love completely, you have to trust completely. what's the point of all this relationship stuff if we're not going to fall in love sometimes?
judging by some of your comments, i'd say that some of you guys have never been in love. in order to love completely, you have to trust completely. what's the point of all this relationship stuff if we're not going to fall in love sometimes?
07-07-2004, 11:27 AM
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Originally Posted by supermegaglossy
while yes, we are all questioning the situation b/c we don't know the girl or his relationship with her, but all this "i never trust a female" and "just learn not to care" makes me sick. i can only speak for myself and not other girls, but i have never and will never cheat on a guy or do anything with him if i know he is involved with someone else.
judging by some of your comments, i'd say that some of you guys have never been in love. in order to love completely, you have to trust completely. what's the point of all this relationship stuff if we're not going to fall in love sometimes?
judging by some of your comments, i'd say that some of you guys have never been in love. in order to love completely, you have to trust completely. what's the point of all this relationship stuff if we're not going to fall in love sometimes?
I'm just saying stay on your toes.
07-07-2004, 11:29 AM
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Don't Trust Anybody.
I would hope for the best prepare for the worst. Hope she goes and has good clean fun riding jetskis and getting a sun tan, prepare for the possibility that she could get gangbanged by a group of frat-boys from Michigan............and like it.
Don't Trust Anybody.
I would hope for the best prepare for the worst. Hope she goes and has good clean fun riding jetskis and getting a sun tan, prepare for the possibility that she could get gangbanged by a group of frat-boys from Michigan............and like it.
07-07-2004, 11:33 AM
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Originally Posted by Waddy
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Don't Trust Anybody.
I would hope for the best prepare for the worst. Hope she goes and has good clean fun riding jetskis and getting a sun tan, prepare for the possibility that she could get gangbanged by a group of frat-boys from Michigan............and like it.
Don't Trust Anybody.
I would hope for the best prepare for the worst. Hope she goes and has good clean fun riding jetskis and getting a sun tan, prepare for the possibility that she could get gangbanged by a group of frat-boys from Michigan............and like it.
That or a daisy train of
's 
ing her all week!!
07-07-2004, 11:37 AM
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Originally Posted by Waddy
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Don't Trust Anybody.
I would hope for the best prepare for the worst. Hope she goes and has good clean fun riding jetskis and getting a sun tan, prepare for the possibility that she could get gangbanged by a group of frat-boys from Michigan............and like it.
Don't Trust Anybody.
I would hope for the best prepare for the worst. Hope she goes and has good clean fun riding jetskis and getting a sun tan, prepare for the possibility that she could get gangbanged by a group of frat-boys from Michigan............and like it.
that happened to you? 
07-07-2004, 11:47 AM
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If a girl wants to do that, she will. You can't be with her all the time. Better to let them do it and be gone with them. Besides, you don't want to give them a big head by being over protective all the time.
07-07-2004, 11:49 AM
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Originally Posted by Rock2534
If a girl wants to do that, she will. You can't be with her all the time. Better to let them do it and be gone with them. Besides, you don't want to give them a big head by being over protective all the time.
07-07-2004, 11:50 AM
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Originally Posted by Rock2534
If a girl wants to do that, she will. You can't be with her all the time. Better to let them do it and be gone with them. Besides, you don't want to give them a big head by being over protective all the time.
then come back to you?
07-07-2004, 12:04 PM
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Originally Posted by phil2
So you are saying that it is ok for a girl to go and get
then come back to you?
then come back to you?
Some guys are fine with it.
Love
usually helps them get through it. 
07-07-2004, 12:16 PM
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Originally Posted by phil2
So you are saying that it is ok for a girl to go and get
then come back to you?
then come back to you?
Just saying that if someone is gonna be my girlfriend or wife, i am not going to chaperone them everywhere they go. If they want to go on vacay with their friends thats fine, cuz i want to do the same. Basically if you feel the need to watch them and think they will do wrong if you don't, why have them around in the first place?
07-07-2004, 12:21 PM
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Originally Posted by NSXNEXT
Did you guys ever stop and think that the reason you don't trust girls is cause you'd do the same shit to them that you think they'd do to you?
07-07-2004, 12:47 PM
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well, this girl i've been close to for a while now, who gives me really no reason NOT to trust her went to mexico with her girlfriend, she just got back last night and I started this topic because I didn't even know how to begin to think... you know, you always hear stories about girls doing some wild shit behind their bfs backs or whatever, especially in mexico. i just [wrongfully, i admit] had almost no doubt she was going to do something
she called me from mexico twice and there was a msicommunication so i was already a little upset. so when i first talked to her i was pissed off and i said some things i shouldn't... assumed shit, and she basically said i was out of line... which i was
and yea i get a little jealous, i can't help that heh... i guess i have 'insecurity issues' or whatever some wannabe psychologist wants to call it
and about the gangbang thing, HELL no, i would rather her tell me that she was inclined to do that sort of thing, or any other freaky shit, so i could break it off with her rather then have her actually get gang banged while i was with her... pride steps in at that point
she called me from mexico twice and there was a msicommunication so i was already a little upset. so when i first talked to her i was pissed off and i said some things i shouldn't... assumed shit, and she basically said i was out of line... which i was
and yea i get a little jealous, i can't help that heh... i guess i have 'insecurity issues' or whatever some wannabe psychologist wants to call it
and about the gangbang thing, HELL no, i would rather her tell me that she was inclined to do that sort of thing, or any other freaky shit, so i could break it off with her rather then have her actually get gang banged while i was with her... pride steps in at that point
07-07-2004, 12:54 PM
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Originally Posted by BEETROOT
one of the stories was of a girl who was cheating on her husband with someone from her work... so you have to do things like show up on occasion to your girl's work... you DO have to stay on your toes... ESPECIALLY if you girl is hot
EDIT: But then again, I have no real reason NOT to trust her, other than my understanding of women in general and human nature...
07-07-2004, 01:19 PM
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All women will cheat. They are just as bad as us guys. If you think for a second that they are as faithful or more faithful than us (the good guys), then u minds well step out the game. 
07-07-2004, 01:32 PM
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Originally Posted by amisconception
reading this type of shit makes me feel OK about how i've been thinking and feeling... how can you really trust any girl 100%? you just can't
one of the stories was of a girl who was cheating on her husband with someone from her work... so you have to do things like show up on occasion to your girl's work... you DO have to stay on your toes... ESPECIALLY if you girl is hot
EDIT: But then again, I have no real reason NOT to trust her, other than my understanding of women in general and human nature...
one of the stories was of a girl who was cheating on her husband with someone from her work... so you have to do things like show up on occasion to your girl's work... you DO have to stay on your toes... ESPECIALLY if you girl is hot
EDIT: But then again, I have no real reason NOT to trust her, other than my understanding of women in general and human nature...
07-07-2004, 01:40 PM
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wtf? if she is going to cheat on you she is going to regardless if you are around her all the time or not. might as well let her cheat on you in beginning and drop that shit rather than wait around and get really hurt.
but i'll say it again, other than my very general understanding of women and human nature, she's given me no reason to not trust her... i was out of line for questioning her the way i did and i apologized
07-07-2004, 01:55 PM
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Originally Posted by amisconception
no, i'd rather know if she was inclined to cheat BEFORE that shit happened so i don't waste my time... kind of like not dating a girl who's already cheated in the past... that kind of thing - prevention my friend, prevention
but i'll say it again, other than my very general understanding of women and human nature, she's given me no reason to not trust her... i was out of line for questioning her the way i did and i apologized
but i'll say it again, other than my very general understanding of women and human nature, she's given me no reason to not trust her... i was out of line for questioning her the way i did and i apologized
07-07-2004, 03:45 PM
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Originally Posted by evilstorm
How can you possibly know before unless you have ahd a relationship with that girl well before you dated her?
if it's something she's concious of, and she tells me? i would imagine it isn't impossible
07-07-2004, 04:15 PM
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Originally Posted by TypeSKid
All women will cheat. They are just as bad as us guys. If you think for a second that they are as faithful or more faithful than us (the good guys), then u minds well step out the game.
oh please....
coming from the king of denial himself
07-07-2004, 07:57 PM
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Originally Posted by supermegaglossy
while yes, we are all questioning the situation b/c we don't know the girl or his relationship with her, but all this "i never trust a female" and "just learn not to care" makes me sick. i can only speak for myself and not other girls, but i have never and will never cheat on a guy or do anything with him if i know he is involved with someone else.
judging by some of your comments, i'd say that some of you guys have never been in love. in order to love completely, you have to trust completely. what's the point of all this relationship stuff if we're not going to fall in love sometimes?
judging by some of your comments, i'd say that some of you guys have never been in love. in order to love completely, you have to trust completely. what's the point of all this relationship stuff if we're not going to fall in love sometimes?
why does it make you sick? its the fucking truth, while there are girls out there like..wait a minute.. didnt you say in another post you wanted a relationship but still have the freedom to explore?
anywho.. the vast majority of women suck complete ass. lying, cheating, manipulating, attention whoring bitches. not to mention the majority of them are completely stupid as well.
Why bother sticking up for them? If youre not like that, then all the power to you, but please for the love of god dont come on here acting like all these men dont know what theyre talking about.
A lot of them on here have been cheated on and have had their hearts trampled on
07-07-2004, 08:21 PM
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Originally Posted by SilviaGTO
why does it make you sick? its the fucking truth, while there are girls out there like..wait a minute.. didnt you say in another post you wanted a relationship but still have the freedom to explore?
kthnx.