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Old 10-30-2013, 12:37 PM
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Talk some sense into me?

Ok, so I've been with my wife off and on for a total of 12 yrs now (married 1.5yrs). Anyways my wife is pregnant now and like the last time she was preggo she dosent want anything to do with anything that is sexual. I literally try to shove myself in her mouth while she is on her kindle and try to do sneak attacks but that was not working out to well I tried being romantic and that didn't work either since it's "her hormones". I know in my head I'm being weak but Jesus H Christ I went from 2 a days to zero the second 2 lines popped up on the piss stick.

So my sil and I have been hanging out more lately. She's a cancer so she seems like a total bitch but is really sweet once you figure her out. She's very attractive but I got the better of the 2. She would pop up in my head every once in awhile which I feel is normal human behavior but lately I can not get her off my mind. She comes over and we make dinner, smoke, drink and enjoy each other's company. She hasn't had a partner in about a year and has expressed that she has love to give but just can't find anyone. My fucked up asshole brain has translated that to, well we can fuck for a few months then back to business as usual. I know I know, terrible. To try and get that idea out of my head I started going to the bar a few times a week with some friends (after work but home before the fam) to flirt with random chicks and play some pool. I'm not out trying to get laid or anything but I keep finding myself doing things like this. My wife is cool with it but I feel like I need to do something else besides seeking out womanly affection, does any of this make sense? There are only so many golfballs I can hit before I'm back to square one. Plus jacking off gets old

I would never cheat on my wife but damn my mind has been wandering ever since she got preggo. So I don't know if this was a vent or what but any advice and criticism is welcome. Or maybe I can get some shaming to get me back on course. I don't know
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i dont know, but i'm coming up this weekend and you better introduce the sister in law to me.

p.s. I still have a gift for your wife still in my car.
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It's natural to have those thoughts, just don't act on those thoughts. You knocked her up, so you have to deal with what she wants. Like it or not, just don't F up and sleep with her sister or some other chick.
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Old 10-30-2013, 01:13 PM
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Have you been direct, blunt, and honest with you wife about your need/requirement for sex?

If not, you better.

Some women don't feel "sexy" when pregnant, they have body issues.
You might want to nip that in the bud, if you know what I mean.
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^ He clearly wants to go the sneak attack route
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Oh man where do I start...

First off define "My wife is cool with it". Cool with what exactly?

Her sister? Are you retarded? Never, EVER, swim in a familiar pool. The hell do men learn these days?

And I 100% agree with Moog. Sit down and spill the beans entirely. Talk, talk, talk. Communication is of the utmost importance here.
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We usually have such thoughts in our head and never ever share it with anyone, especially with a public forum. I hope your wify is computer-retarded or you won't have sex ever again.

Start watching porn in front of her, tell her you can barely drag your balls, they are too heavy now.

Show her this picture. Tell her this could be us!

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She's cool with me going out and flirting. Getting numbers, making out, making plans and everything else involved with picking up chicks is off the table.

The SIL, I know....

I've sat down and talked with her a few times now and have express my needs as clear as I could but she tells me "once I hit 14 weeks I should be back to normal, that's what all the books say". That came and passed a few weeks ago.

I tell her I have needs and what they are and what I feel my life is lacking but I don't dare mention her sister.
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It's your first pregnancy; huh? I can tell. I was weirded out with our first, and when I wasn't, she never felt comfortable. Moog is absolutely right about the insecurities that come with pregnancy.

The absolute worst thing you could do is give into your impulses. Cheating rates go up significantly when the woman is pregnant, and you don't want to be that asshole. Talk to your wife. Tell her that you think she is even sexier now than before. Ease those insecurities and and work softly.

If that doesn't work, stick with porn, Rosie Palm, and her five sisters. You helped create this situation, don't make it a regrettable one.
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It's their second go around...

Beez: Sit down and have that discussion again.
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Does the sneak attack ever work?

Find out her love language. Women have the ability to overcome their hormones. Once you find her love language, hone in on that, and you should have better luck. Talk to her and be honest that you love her very much, you're extremely attracted to her, that she's beautiful, and you want her. Cook dinner for her and draw her a bath. Give her a massage. Make her feel relaxed instead of pressured (like you're doing now with the sneak attack bullshit).

Yes, a lot of women might not want to have sex when they're pregnant, especially in the first couple of months.
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You are going to be in trouble when she decides that she doesn't want anymore kids. Sex will really drop off.
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It's our second, I did get all weird the first time but u felt like I was in such a daze I didn't recognize the things I was doing and why. This time around its pretty clear but equally frustrating thinking I'm not going to get laid for the next several months.


I compliment her constantly. She knows that I think the world of her but I feel like she isn't putting in any effort but she talks about putting in effort plenty. I feel selfish since she's pregnant but it's all confusing. Looking forward to that snip snip after this one.
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Beez: Don't smoke so much while she is not able too. In my experience, in situations like that, it's usually an annoyance and a turn off. Lol
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Damn. The second time is a world different over here.
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I'm not sneak attacking her that much. I did it for like a week after all the romance failed.
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I agree with Chad a little too. Smelling like alcohol or smoke isn't going to help your cause, but it will make Rosie a little better.
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My wife never accepts my advances if I am high and she is not.

If it were me I'd just tell her the best thing to do is to slip her sister the d. It helps the sister, helps you, and you won't be pestering her for sex she doesn't want to give.

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your wife is cool with you going out and flirting and making out with random women at bars?

i dunno man...seems kinda weird to me. while she is home pregnant, you're out swilling and fooling around?

i know we all lead different lives and have different understandings with our partners but i would never dream of doing something like that. just appreciate what you have and sit down with her and express your concerns and try and work through them. communication is key.
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I think you read his sentence incorrectly. Although your words are still partially true.
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^oh yeah i just reread that.

it was worded funny on his part

my mistake, beez.

but still...talk more in depth with her and express your concern in a heart-to-heart way so that she takes you seriously.
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Old 10-30-2013, 04:26 PM
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Repeat after Majofo, "just the tip"
butt, you give her the whole shaft..

alternatively, "I just want to be inside you and cuddle"
butt, you do the diddle and jizzle, then proceed to pass out and snore like a Majofo..
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Also, don't be a dbag. You have a hot wife who lets you get away with shenanigans and debaucherous bullshit. Don't fuck it up, in fact, you should stop said behavior, that might be the problem.

Be a man (do the right thing) and treat her like the great wife that she is. Btw.. wagging your dick in her face is not very romantic, nor is being preggo. You need to up your foreplay game. Gain points, don't lose them.

Also, you SIL is a cock tease. Tell her to fuck off... in the direction of Justn. Justn, I expect PM. Areolas.
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Originally Posted by SharksBreath
your wife is cool with you going out and flirting and making out with random women at bars?
I read it the EXACT same way

As others have said, WTF are you thinking, her sister!? Save that shit for pornos


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Oh man.

Really, forget the sister.

Are you willing to tear two families apart, yours and your wife's relationship with her sister, for a moment of your own satisfaction?
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Live vicariously, through Justn.
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Originally Posted by BeezleTL85
She's very attractive...



We'll then help you by telling you how bad your eyesight is and how unattractive your SIL is, so that it makes no sense to risk your marriage for someone so repulsive.
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What part of any of this is a good idea?

Be honest, state your needs.

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in order not to push and sound needy....


Hey, just give the SIL to justn.
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Thanks for the advice errybody. We had the same talk we've had before but she admitted that she's been selfish because she feels like she won't have any her time (not sexual ) once the new baby gets here I got laid afterwards so win column? We'll see how long it lasts. Anywho, like I said I'm not going to cheat on my wife, especially with my SIL, it was just a thought.
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idle hands are the devils playground.

so...keep busy. keep your hands on your wife and stay strong, soldier.

gratz on having sex with your wife last night tho.
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Originally Posted by Majofo
Also, don't be a dbag. You have a hot wife who lets you get away with shenanigans and debaucherous bullshit. Don't fuck it up, in fact, you should stop said behavior, that might be the problem.

Be a man (do the right thing) and treat her like the great wife that she is. Btw.. wagging your dick in her face is not very romantic, nor is being preggo. You need to up your foreplay game. Gain points, don't lose them.

Also, you SIL is a cock tease. Tell her to fuck off... in the direction of Justn. Justn, I expect PM. Areolas.
With all of this, except passing her on to crab boy
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what!? why not?

i'm only three hours away from SIL.
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Beezle, you've received a lot of great advice already and everyone has the same overall answer. Good deal.

Now if you need to stay busy, I say start cookin a bunch of shit and takin pictures like you usually do and post in the "What's for Dinner?" thread. Plus you got laid last night, so for dinner I expect a bomb ass dish and and a post.

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