So, my gf just texted me...
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#43
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<p>freaking :ladiboi:</p><p> </p><p><img src="http://api.ning.com/files/GlhbBvgh3mjLUKdBJzg8oisDL9mMyZi-mMfkk47VTIZ8kFOz95vRd4danNnCj458pbBNCsMklo3tQ0HisB pOOneyIviCAU-i/DABTC.jpg?width=246" /></p>
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<p>She's a redheaded jennifer.. and she's a stripper.. no fly zone.. no fly zone.</p>
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Go Giants
abort!!
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#47
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She's been BLACKED.
#48
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#50
now what would make her doctor/parents think you do heroin?
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#52
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Two teeth ain't wide enough brah.
Just because we're on a Japanese automaker forum doesn't mean we are #asianbelowthewaist.
Just because we're on a Japanese automaker forum doesn't mean we are #asianbelowthewaist.
#53
Chapter Leader (Southern Region)
<p>I've seen most of your peens.. two teeth is generous. </p>
#54
Team Owner
They don't call me Captain Tripod for nothing, you know.
#55
Team Owner
Repost!
Cause it's that big
Cause it's that big
#56
GEEZER
Meh.
#57
Old Man Yelling at Clouds
OP,
It's hard to know what to say without knowing what your objective is for dating her. If this is just for fun until you figure out what you want and where you are going, and you've resolved that this will be a throw-away relationship at some point, then this is simple function of whether you are getting enough out of it to put up with the drama.
If what you are looking for is a real relationship with future potential, this isn't it based on what you said. After six years you know who she is and who you are. If it's not working by now it isn't going to without some radical intervention.
People are inherently selfish. It's just some people have learned to over-ride their selfish instinct better than others. It's a skill you learn. Selfishness is also cancer to relationships. It's why all relationship ends (that doesn't have to do with an accident or medical issues, etc.). Being in a real relationship requires that you have the skills to over-ride your selfish nature and put her needs ahead of yours, and she does the same for you. If the relationship is healthy, it flows both ways equally.
Nothing in your description indicates any of that is present. And that's OK, that's why we date and it's a learning process. I only point all that out in order to give you some perspective on your current situation. Many people trick themselves into thinking what they have is "real" by just ignoring the warning signs. Or they just don't know its supposed to be different.
Be her friend. Support her. But don't fool yourself into thinking this is happy ever after unless the two of you are really willing to put some work into this. It's not beyond saving, but you have to see it for what it is and work it out together.
Last comment - these issues you mentioned, they don't go away (most of the time). In many ways, the person you see now is the person she'll be 20 years from now. I think a lot of people hang on to relationships on the hope that something will change in the future. That rarely comes true. Sure, some things can be worked on with the right treatment or counseling. But the underlying issue never really goes away. So either you settle in and decide that's what you want to live with the rest of your life, or you decide to move on.
It's hard to know what to say without knowing what your objective is for dating her. If this is just for fun until you figure out what you want and where you are going, and you've resolved that this will be a throw-away relationship at some point, then this is simple function of whether you are getting enough out of it to put up with the drama.
If what you are looking for is a real relationship with future potential, this isn't it based on what you said. After six years you know who she is and who you are. If it's not working by now it isn't going to without some radical intervention.
People are inherently selfish. It's just some people have learned to over-ride their selfish instinct better than others. It's a skill you learn. Selfishness is also cancer to relationships. It's why all relationship ends (that doesn't have to do with an accident or medical issues, etc.). Being in a real relationship requires that you have the skills to over-ride your selfish nature and put her needs ahead of yours, and she does the same for you. If the relationship is healthy, it flows both ways equally.
Nothing in your description indicates any of that is present. And that's OK, that's why we date and it's a learning process. I only point all that out in order to give you some perspective on your current situation. Many people trick themselves into thinking what they have is "real" by just ignoring the warning signs. Or they just don't know its supposed to be different.
Be her friend. Support her. But don't fool yourself into thinking this is happy ever after unless the two of you are really willing to put some work into this. It's not beyond saving, but you have to see it for what it is and work it out together.
Last comment - these issues you mentioned, they don't go away (most of the time). In many ways, the person you see now is the person she'll be 20 years from now. I think a lot of people hang on to relationships on the hope that something will change in the future. That rarely comes true. Sure, some things can be worked on with the right treatment or counseling. But the underlying issue never really goes away. So either you settle in and decide that's what you want to live with the rest of your life, or you decide to move on.
Last edited by 1Louder; 08-26-2015 at 11:08 AM.
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Go Giants
thanks.
#65
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</p><p>brohams.. I think my analysis is on point. OP's twitter and facebook are legit. <img alt="Pimp Grin" src="https://acurazine.com/forums/images/smilies/pimpgrin.gif" style="height:24px; width:23px" title="Pimp Grin" /></p>
</p><p>$5 footlong says OP is m'lady reddit bruh who is in a long distance internet relationship with a female beta he met on MLP reddit board.. Everybody knows pegasisters can't resist the H. It's the only way bronys get their Ds wet.. by trading hits of H for oratio copulatio. </p><p>
#66
Chapter Leader (Southern Region)
<p>I don't think we're being trolled. Poor OP. </p><p>Somebody owes me $5 footlong. </p>
#69
Needs more Lemon Pledge
He got back together with her and is too embarrassed to come here and say it since we all told him to cut bait and he fished.
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97BlackAckCL (09-08-2015)
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I D&R
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Ohio couple calls out heroin in teen daughter's obituary
shiett.. H is back. WTF.. who is pushing this shit. I thought it died north of teh border.
shiett.. H is back. WTF.. who is pushing this shit. I thought it died north of teh border.
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