So I just got this text msg from my gf...
10-28-2008, 08:14 AM
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^^ You show a lot of maturity for a 9 year old 
Yeah man the girl is ok, but not worth dealing with those problems. Obv it's going down the tubes since she's blowing you off for your roommate.
Yeah man the girl is ok, but not worth dealing with those problems. Obv it's going down the tubes since she's blowing you off for your roommate.
10-28-2008, 09:44 AM
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Eh I guess I just like being in a relationship... you know... knowing there is someone you can always call and hang around with and :sex:, and this is the longest one I've been in. But if it does fall thru the cracks, which is where it looks like it is going from here, I'm hoping I will get over it asap but I bet it will take at least a week or two to completely get over 
10-28-2008, 09:51 AM
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But yeah, that would piss me off too. She's deliberately letting you know that she's pissed at you.She wants to feel more loved and see more effort from you but couldn't tell you upfront before (maybe because she didn't want to appear needy) until the alcohol loosened her up during the party. In any case, she sounds like one of those girls who resort to a lot of drama to get your attention.
On the other hand, do you think she's doing her part in the relationship? Are you happy with how things are right now?
10-28-2008, 09:53 AM
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Why are you in so much emotional distress for a woman who obviously cares little about your feelings? Why? Because you aren't on the same page.
Guys, you have got to stop getting ahead of or falling behind the women in your relationships. If you pay attention to what is going on and who you are working with, then when it is time to go, most times it will be on mutual grounds, and not one person being caught unawares. I said MOST times, not all the time.
Guys, you have got to stop getting ahead of or falling behind the women in your relationships. If you pay attention to what is going on and who you are working with, then when it is time to go, most times it will be on mutual grounds, and not one person being caught unawares. I said MOST times, not all the time.
10-28-2008, 09:57 AM
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Eh I guess I just like being in a relationship... you know... knowing there is someone you can always call and hang around with and :sex:, and this is the longest one I've been in. But if it does fall thru the cracks, which is where it looks like it is going from here, I'm hoping I will get over it asap but I bet it will take at least a week or two to completely get over The reason why I'm asking is, if she's in her mid-20's, she might be at the stage where "the future" is on her mind. If you are not on that stage yet, let her know that you are not ready. Don't stay with someone just because you like the security and comfort a relationship brings.
10-28-2008, 10:49 AM
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Chad: Tyree, you stabbed my dad! And you had sex with Katie.
Tyree: Hey man, you got that all wrong. I ain't had sex with Katie. Lysol had sex with Katie. I just filmed it.
Katie: No, Tyree, you had sex with me too.
Tyree: Correction: I had sex with Katie.
10-28-2008, 11:06 AM
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she's cute and all....but damm she remind me of Katie from the Dave Chappelle's Show.
Chad: Tyree, you stabbed my dad! And you had sex with Katie.
Tyree: Hey man, you got that all wrong. I ain't had sex with Katie. Lysol had sex with Katie. I just filmed it.
Katie: No, Tyree, you had sex with me too.
Tyree: Correction: I had sex with Katie.
Chad: Tyree, you stabbed my dad! And you had sex with Katie.
Tyree: Hey man, you got that all wrong. I ain't had sex with Katie. Lysol had sex with Katie. I just filmed it.
Katie: No, Tyree, you had sex with me too.
Tyree: Correction: I had sex with Katie.
10-28-2008, 11:30 AM
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Perhaps she's asking for some advice from him... But yeah, that would piss me off too. She's deliberately letting you know that she's pissed at you.
She wants to feel more loved and see more effort from you but couldn't tell you upfront before (maybe because she didn't want to appear needy) until the alcohol loosened her up during the party. In any case, she sounds like one of those girls who resort to a lot of drama to get your attention.
On the other hand, do you think she's doing her part in the relationship? Are you happy with how things are right now?
But yeah, that would piss me off too. She's deliberately letting you know that she's pissed at you.She wants to feel more loved and see more effort from you but couldn't tell you upfront before (maybe because she didn't want to appear needy) until the alcohol loosened her up during the party. In any case, she sounds like one of those girls who resort to a lot of drama to get your attention.
On the other hand, do you think she's doing her part in the relationship? Are you happy with how things are right now?
Ya I'd say she is doing her part. When we talked she got into this thing about how I never call her to talk and ask to hang out with her. Well I would call her after work everday but she calls me before I even get a chance to call her cus she gets off earlier than me so
Also we do hang out once or twice during the week but not more cus we both have to wake up early for work, but we see each other for most of the weekend. And I WAS happy how things were but obviously after this past weekend, no.Why are you in so much emotional distress for a woman who obviously cares little about your feelings? Why? Because you aren't on the same page.
Guys, you have got to stop getting ahead of or falling behind the women in your relationships. If you pay attention to what is going on and who you are working with, then when it is time to go, most times it will be on mutual grounds, and not one person being caught unawares. I said MOST times, not all the time.
Guys, you have got to stop getting ahead of or falling behind the women in your relationships. If you pay attention to what is going on and who you are working with, then when it is time to go, most times it will be on mutual grounds, and not one person being caught unawares. I said MOST times, not all the time.
How long have you been together? And how old is she now?
The reason why I'm asking is, if she's in her mid-20's, she might be at the stage where "the future" is on her mind. If you are not on that stage yet, let her know that you are not ready. Don't stay with someone just because you like the security and comfort a relationship brings.
The reason why I'm asking is, if she's in her mid-20's, she might be at the stage where "the future" is on her mind. If you are not on that stage yet, let her know that you are not ready. Don't stay with someone just because you like the security and comfort a relationship brings.
So.... let me hear it
or 
before you do...or if you can.
10-28-2008, 02:24 PM
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2 months, thats not a long time to be worrying like this. I would just stop trying to contact her. She will probably start wondering why you stopped, plus if you keep trying to call and text she will know you are right there waiting for her so there is no real need on her part to get back to you anytime soon. Cut off contact and if she wants to talk she will let you know, if not, at least its over and you still have your dignity.
10-28-2008, 02:52 PM
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Actually it was 4 months, but anyways, ya funny thing is she said she would go with me to get some new pants (cus i hate/know nothing about shopping) today and said she wanted to go to a party with me friday and have an *alone* evening saturday, which was her idea in the first place. Well we know she didn't return my call yesterday and I don't want her to think I'm the desperate type so I don't want to keep calling her and then her not call me back. But I do want her to come to the party with me cus it's basically couples. So uh should I give it a day or two no contact then try again in a few days if she doesn't call?
(Wow I feel like a fucking dork)
darksom, hit me with it, i think i MIGHT be able to take it...
(Wow I feel like a fucking dork
)darksom, hit me with it, i think i MIGHT be able to take it...
10-28-2008, 03:51 PM
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Call tomorrow evening. Actually it's one of those things you just have to "feel," and not being in your shoes I can't really tell you what a good time to call is.
Or you could think of it this way: If she's still into you it doesn't really matter when you call.
Or you could think of it this way: If she's still into you it doesn't really matter when you call.
10-28-2008, 04:53 PM
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10-28-2008, 04:57 PM
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Did I mention that pretty much the only friends she has are basically my friends? So regardless if we are dating or not, if I go out with friends then there's a good chance she will be there too... 
10-28-2008, 05:04 PM
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10-29-2008, 08:53 AM
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10-29-2008, 09:15 AM
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10-29-2008, 09:33 AM
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[QUOTE=imj0257;10132509] So uh should I give it a day or two no contact then try again in a few days if she doesn't call?QUOTE]
Umm NO!!! You do not call again, you called once(probably more), that is enough. I'm not trying to be a dick, but don't be her bitch.
Umm NO!!! You do not call again, you called once(probably more), that is enough. I'm not trying to be a dick, but don't be her bitch.
10-29-2008, 10:58 AM
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[QUOTE=Rock2534;10135009]
Nope only called once monday after work. Funny thing is I talked to my roommate last night and he said she called him yesterday and they talke a bit about me and she said to him that we usually talk every day but I HAVEN'T CALLED HER in the past couple days!
women....
women....
10-29-2008, 11:55 AM
#108
Drifting
[QUOTE=imj0257;10135327]Well see, she can take the time to call him but not you(regardless of what HE says they are talking about)! Move on before it escalates and you start to resent your rommate when/if they start hooking up.
10-29-2008, 12:54 PM
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^ na trust me they would never hook up. he is like her big brother.
and jsut exchanged a few msgs with her. i told her i called her, she thought we worked things out and says she never got a call and now shes confused bla bla and that bullshit so we gonna talk later but ya i cant take much more of this
and jsut exchanged a few msgs with her. i told her i called her, she thought we worked things out and says she never got a call and now shes confused
bla bla and that bullshit so we gonna talk later but ya i cant take much more of this
10-29-2008, 02:05 PM
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10-29-2008, 05:44 PM
#119
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With so much drama and so little time invested, I would move on and start seeing other people. I sure as hell wouldn't put my life on hold waiting for her to decide whether to end the relationship or not. Sounds like she may already be out doing some comparison shopping. I would invite someone else to the party on Friday and end the calling and texting.
