In a rut
10-18-2011, 12:00 PM
#81
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Props for getting the number and actually calling her, leaving a voicemail at least shows that you're making an effort. Especially more than a text message. Keep us posted on how things go
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10-18-2011, 01:56 PM
#84
Old Man Yelling at Clouds
OP - I've read all the posts, and there is a lot of good advice here, but I don't sense that it's resonating with you quite yet.
So let me offer you the perspective of someone who's teenage years involved phones attached to walls and no internet, who has two teenagers who can't remember not having the internet. Here is what I observe.
You live in a world defined by massive acquaintences and contacts that are not really "friends". Everyone is on Facebook. Everyone texts. Your generation is defined by having regular access to a very superficial means of "knowing" people, that is also full of people pretending to be someone they are not. Also, because someone lets you into the "acquaintence" circle, does not mean they are into you. It's just more polite to let you in and ignore you than say no to your face. This is just standard behavior for the women of your generation.
If the women you are meeting are anything like my daughter, they deal with hundreds of guys on the "acquaintence" layer. Say hi, smile, nice to meet you, add you to their other 900 Facebook friends. Also, I've noticed that this generation of women can detect men trying to hard a mile away, because they deal with it every day on line. My daugher can meet a guy, and one 60 second conversation know if he's a douche bag. And trying too hard = not being authentic = douche bag.
I would strongly advise slowing down and take the advice given here, otherwise you're just another guy coming at them that they'll add to their Facebook friends list and ignore. The weapon you have to break through this "acquaintence" layer is being authentic and sincere. And to do that, you need to spend some time in order to feel better about yourself and maybe restore some confidence. I don't think you'll have much success "going at" women. Be yourself, be confident in who you are, and the right woman will be drawn to you without even trying.
So let me offer you the perspective of someone who's teenage years involved phones attached to walls and no internet, who has two teenagers who can't remember not having the internet. Here is what I observe.
You live in a world defined by massive acquaintences and contacts that are not really "friends". Everyone is on Facebook. Everyone texts. Your generation is defined by having regular access to a very superficial means of "knowing" people, that is also full of people pretending to be someone they are not. Also, because someone lets you into the "acquaintence" circle, does not mean they are into you. It's just more polite to let you in and ignore you than say no to your face. This is just standard behavior for the women of your generation.
If the women you are meeting are anything like my daughter, they deal with hundreds of guys on the "acquaintence" layer. Say hi, smile, nice to meet you, add you to their other 900 Facebook friends. Also, I've noticed that this generation of women can detect men trying to hard a mile away, because they deal with it every day on line. My daugher can meet a guy, and one 60 second conversation know if he's a douche bag. And trying too hard = not being authentic = douche bag.
I would strongly advise slowing down and take the advice given here, otherwise you're just another guy coming at them that they'll add to their Facebook friends list and ignore. The weapon you have to break through this "acquaintence" layer is being authentic and sincere. And to do that, you need to spend some time in order to feel better about yourself and maybe restore some confidence. I don't think you'll have much success "going at" women. Be yourself, be confident in who you are, and the right woman will be drawn to you without even trying.
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10-18-2011, 02:37 PM
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10-18-2011, 03:09 PM
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Does anyone else think it may be weird (inappropriate?) for the OP to give frequent updates on this lead? Heaven forbid she ever see this thread. I say good job on getting a lead; now keep it to yourself until y'all breakup and want to get her back by pm'ing noodz.
10-18-2011, 03:18 PM
#89
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I have never been one to kiss and tell. That's just me.
10-19-2011, 01:42 PM
#91
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I have no idea what the fuck you guys are talking about.
10-19-2011, 02:13 PM
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:soniamdisapoint: :shakehead
10-19-2011, 07:45 PM
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10-19-2011, 11:25 PM
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Who paid?
10-20-2011, 01:13 AM
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So much for the rut...
10-20-2011, 10:43 AM
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so, did you get in her rut? 
10-20-2011, 10:44 AM
#102
an asshole from florida
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obviously she did, sheeeet I aint paying for no stinkin' dinner.
I wish she did but Im a gentleman. But yes, I am declaring the rut officially over. We can rename this to the invisible escapades with women
And no I havent jumped into her rut...yet
I wish she did but Im a gentleman. But yes, I am declaring the rut officially over. We can rename this to the invisible escapades with women
And no I havent jumped into her rut...yet
10-20-2011, 01:11 PM
#105
an asshole from florida
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I see what your saying. I dont mind getting the first meal, I asked her and all. But I know when Im being used as a meal ticket, she honestly doesnt seem like the type.
10-20-2011, 06:11 PM
#108
Needs more Lemon Pledge
10-20-2011, 07:54 PM
#109
an asshole from florida
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Well we skipped the night away teeheehee
Ok but heres how it went (omg Im sooooo excited omgomgomg)
First i pick her up at her job, then she decides to drop her car off at home (like omg woooh I know where she lives). So then We go to dinner, I get a cuban sandwich, she only liking mexican food (because shes mexican and I didnt know what food she likes) gets nachos. We talk a bit and a bit more. Nothing really exciting. She doesnt speak the greatest english in the world but still better than 90% of the women I dated back home.
The only thing that makes me feel a bit weird is that she dropped out of high school and still doesnt have her GED. She doesnt sound or act dumb in any way, she said that when she did that she just started working and hasnt had time to go back and get it. Still makes me feel a bit weird though
Ok but heres how it went (omg Im sooooo excited omgomgomg)
First i pick her up at her job, then she decides to drop her car off at home (like omg woooh I know where she lives). So then We go to dinner, I get a cuban sandwich, she only liking mexican food (because shes mexican and I didnt know what food she likes) gets nachos. We talk a bit and a bit more. Nothing really exciting. She doesnt speak the greatest english in the world but still better than 90% of the women I dated back home.
The only thing that makes me feel a bit weird is that she dropped out of high school and still doesnt have her GED. She doesnt sound or act dumb in any way, she said that when she did that she just started working and hasnt had time to go back and get it. Still makes me feel a bit weird though
10-20-2011, 09:54 PM
#110
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Nice!
You live in Florida, does ANYONE speak good English?
You live in Florida, does ANYONE speak good English?
10-21-2011, 08:49 AM
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Does she have a green card?
10-21-2011, 10:51 AM
#112
an asshole from florida
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Actually I live in Georgia now. And no noone south of I10 in florida speaks english. And Im wondering the same about the green card
10-21-2011, 11:29 AM
#113
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By the was....don't see yourself short. Maybe she went out with you because she likes you.
10-21-2011, 03:28 PM
#116
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And so are their tempers. 
10-21-2011, 03:56 PM
#118
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10-21-2011, 05:54 PM
#119
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10-25-2011, 01:24 PM
#120
oh man.. the mexican women in georgia are sooooooooooooo boring.. (from my experience) get your feet (dick) wet but don't try to make too much out of it.
glad you found a girl (seriously check for the green card)
i also know a-lot of good restaurants around town, you can pm me if you need
glad you found a girl (seriously check for the green card)
i also know a-lot of good restaurants around town, you can pm me if you need