problems with my new girlfriend? (long)
01-09-2006, 12:55 PM
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problems with my new girlfriend? (long)
ok, heres the deal. my girl moved to philly from florida about 8 months ago. ive known her about 2 months and we've been dating for a little bit over a month. when she first got here, she messed with a guy from work for a moment in time. they still hold somewhat of a friendship but she swears nothing more. so last week me and a bunch of people hit the bar, she came along. i took her home at about 230am and told her goodnight, yada yada. the next day she was complainin how tired she was. i asked her how late she was up till, she said about 4-430. i was like why didnt u just crash out when i took u home. apparently the guy she messed with awhile back came over and 
with her and her cousin. so this threw me off a bit. so last night we are at the bar again. we are on her way back to her house and her cousin called and said that the brother of the guy she used to mess with was there. i was like wtf is he doin at your house? she works with these 2 guys and lives like a block from work. so apparently he went to her house cause he had no way home and no where to go. so this turns into a huge fight.... im already having trust issues. i tell her to just reverse the roles for a second. she says if a girl were to sleep at my house or if i was hangin with a chick i used to mess with she wouldnt care. now i know this is complete BS. she sas things with us are great, why would she want to ruin it, this and that. tellin me i treat her like no one has treated her before. doing this she is ballin her eyes out. she tells me she cares for me, doesnt wanna lose me. she also said she is tired of the accusations. im not really accusing her, i just dont understand the things she does. i can accept the fact that she has guy friends, but for some reason, this just bothers me. now im just torn. im tired of fighting about this, but if it continues i know it might cause problems down the road. i just really like this girl.... dunno what to do.....
with her and her cousin. so this threw me off a bit. so last night we are at the bar again. we are on her way back to her house and her cousin called and said that the brother of the guy she used to mess with was there. i was like wtf is he doin at your house? she works with these 2 guys and lives like a block from work. so apparently he went to her house cause he had no way home and no where to go. so this turns into a huge fight.... im already having trust issues. i tell her to just reverse the roles for a second. she says if a girl were to sleep at my house or if i was hangin with a chick i used to mess with she wouldnt care. now i know this is complete BS. she sas things with us are great, why would she want to ruin it, this and that. tellin me i treat her like no one has treated her before. doing this she is ballin her eyes out. she tells me she cares for me, doesnt wanna lose me. she also said she is tired of the accusations. im not really accusing her, i just dont understand the things she does. i can accept the fact that she has guy friends, but for some reason, this just bothers me. now im just torn. im tired of fighting about this, but if it continues i know it might cause problems down the road. i just really like this girl.... dunno what to do.....
01-09-2006, 01:38 PM
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I think your "Shift" button is broken.
01-09-2006, 02:02 PM
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You are just being paranoid probably because you don't feel secure in your new relationship yet. It's hard to trust her especially the friend is someone she hooked up with, but that's the only thing you can do right now. Let her know how this situation upsets you and maybe you guys can reach some sort of compromise.
01-09-2006, 02:15 PM
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I have $10 that says she's still bangin him.
Maybe you are insecure
But I would still let her know how strongly you feel about this.
Afterall, it been ONLY 8 months (or less) since she messed with the other guy.
Maybe you are insecure
But I would still let her know how strongly you feel about this. Afterall, it been ONLY 8 months (or less) since she messed with the other guy.
01-09-2006, 02:16 PM
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Originally Posted by 1killercls
I think your "Shift" button is broken.
You need to be clear that you don't have a problem with her being friends with this guy, but him coming over so late bothers you.
When you say they messed around before, do you know to what extent? If you are already intimate with her, why not suggest she stay at your place or you stay at her place after going out?
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01-09-2006, 06:20 PM
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It sounds like complete crap. She doesn't HAVE to let him come over.
If she really cared about your feelings she wouldn't let him stick around like that. You want someone who respects your feelings right? Not to say that everyone's feelings are always reasonable, but this definitely doesn't sound unreasonable to me. Give her an ultimatum or just treat her the way she's been treating you. Bring a girl over and smoke out with her then see what she thinks.
If she really cared about your feelings she wouldn't let him stick around like that. You want someone who respects your feelings right? Not to say that everyone's feelings are always reasonable, but this definitely doesn't sound unreasonable to me. Give her an ultimatum or just treat her the way she's been treating you. Bring a girl over and smoke out with her then see what she thinks.
01-09-2006, 06:47 PM
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^^word much too early for you to be dealing with that kind of nonsense... either she changes her behavior because you really mean that much to her or you shitcan her and move on
01-09-2006, 10:28 PM
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Originally Posted by Marc S
ok, heres the deal. my girl moved to philly from florida about 8 months ago. ive known her about 2 months and we've been dating for a little bit over a month. when she first got here, she messed with a guy from work for a moment in time. they still hold somewhat of a friendship but she swears nothing more. so last week me and a bunch of people hit the bar, she came along. i took her home at about 230am and told her goodnight, yada yada. the next day she was complainin how tired she was. i asked her how late she was up till, she said about 4-430. i was like why didnt u just crash out when i took u home. apparently the guy she messed with awhile back came over and with her and her cousin. so this threw me off a bit. so last night we are at the bar again. we are on her way back to her house and her cousin called and said that the brother of the guy she used to mess with was there. i was like wtf is he doin at your house? she works with these 2 guys and lives like a block from work. so apparently he went to her house cause he had no way home and no where to go. so this turns into a huge fight.... im already having trust issues. i tell her to just reverse the roles for a second. she says if a girl were to sleep at my house or if i was hangin with a chick i used to mess with she wouldnt care. now i know this is complete BS. she sas things with us are great, why would she want to ruin it, this and that. tellin me i treat her like no one has treated her before. doing this she is ballin her eyes out. she tells me she cares for me, doesnt wanna lose me. she also said she is tired of the accusations. im not really accusing her, i just dont understand the things she does. i can accept the fact that she has guy friends, but for some reason, this just bothers me. now im just torn. im tired of fighting about this, but if it continues i know it might cause problems down the road. i just really like this girl.... dunno what to do.....
with her and her cousin. so this threw me off a bit. so last night we are at the bar again. we are on her way back to her house and her cousin called and said that the brother of the guy she used to mess with was there. i was like wtf is he doin at your house? she works with these 2 guys and lives like a block from work. so apparently he went to her house cause he had no way home and no where to go. so this turns into a huge fight.... im already having trust issues. i tell her to just reverse the roles for a second. she says if a girl were to sleep at my house or if i was hangin with a chick i used to mess with she wouldnt care. now i know this is complete BS. she sas things with us are great, why would she want to ruin it, this and that. tellin me i treat her like no one has treated her before. doing this she is ballin her eyes out. she tells me she cares for me, doesnt wanna lose me. she also said she is tired of the accusations. im not really accusing her, i just dont understand the things she does. i can accept the fact that she has guy friends, but for some reason, this just bothers me. now im just torn. im tired of fighting about this, but if it continues i know it might cause problems down the road. i just really like this girl.... dunno what to do.....just went through the same exact shit man. stop looking for excuses for her. I know you WANT to believe her VERY BADLY but the fact of the matter is young gals just want to fuck. she sat there at 3 AM getting HIGH with a guy she "used" to fuck. COME ON. DROP HER NOW OR U'LL BE SORRY!!!!!! My girl said that same horse shit "why would i mess things up with us ... " blah blah blah bullshit.
Fuck bitches. Yes I am bitter! My pops told me "girls have a pussy and wont hesitate to use it when they want to." Leave her alone. Your situation sounds TOO much like mine. Shit doesnt add up so
while you dont have serious feelings involved.
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Seriously though.....odds are this girl is doing something or will do something with this guy or she'd had the sense to blow him off by now, especially if she "cares for you" like she says.
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01-10-2006, 01:21 PM
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thanks for the comments gentlemen.... 
i dunno, i guess u guys are right.... i mean i like her but it wouldnt mean shit gettin rid of her ass at this point. maybe ill wait till after tonight... im house sitting for my brother.... she is supposed to come over and we are just gonna relax and get bent. axe her tomorrow
i dunno, i guess u guys are right.... i mean i like her but it wouldnt mean shit gettin rid of her ass at this point. maybe ill wait till after tonight... im house sitting for my brother.... she is supposed to come over and we are just gonna relax and get bent. axe her tomorrow
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Originally Posted by sasha
You are just being paranoid probably because you don't feel secure in your new relationship yet. It's hard to trust her especially the friend is someone she hooked up with, but that's the only thing you can do right now. Let her know how this situation upsets you and maybe you guys can reach some sort of compromise.
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01-10-2006, 01:53 PM
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Originally Posted by Marc S
thanks for the comments gentlemen.... i dunno, i guess u guys are right.... i mean i like her but it wouldnt mean shit gettin rid of her ass at this point. maybe ill wait till after tonight... im house sitting for my brother.... she is supposed to come over and we are just gonna relax and get bent. axe her tomorrow
i dunno, i guess u guys are right.... i mean i like her but it wouldnt mean shit gettin rid of her ass at this point. maybe ill wait till after tonight... im house sitting for my brother.... she is supposed to come over and we are just gonna relax and get bent. axe her tomorrowI would tell her that you didnt get much sleep last night cuz an ex of yours came over and you two got a little drunk. See what she says.
01-10-2006, 04:07 PM
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Originally Posted by SwervinCL
I would tell her that you didnt get much sleep last night cuz an ex of yours came over and you two got a little drunk. See what she says.
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