Andrea25

What do you think of women picking out their engagement rings?

BEETROOT

I sure as shit would rather her pick it out than me. What the hell do I know about rings...

WdnUlik2no

I think she should be happy with whatever the hell ring I decide to get her.

Andrea25

that's what i think...i think it's terrible when they pick it it out..

eve

I picked out mine. Actually both of us went ring-shopping but the final decision was mine. It didn't last very long and at the end I was asked to return it.

That was long time ago... If I was to get engaged now, I would rather have the guy pick it out and surprise me. If someone is about to propose to me, he probably already knows what kind of jewelry I like.

fdl

Well, what I did was just go into jewlery stores with the future fiance and got some idea of what she liked. I didnt specifically go in there to look at engagement rings, and I didnt ask for her opinion, but I knew once we were in there it would come up and it did. I also did this long before I preposed.

Shoofin

my wife didn't care what I got her...needless to say she was happy with my selection.
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Crazy Bimmer

werd. Shes the one who has to wear it all the time. Can you picture dropping that much coin just to have your girl not loving the ring. eek.

scottiew

It should be the sentiment that matters. However, it doesn't hurt to take her to a jewelry store and get a feel for what she wants. Covertly of course.

CLpower

Adrienne gave me ideas before I went in, so I knew what to look for.




An interesting thing, I got her ring in platinum, and after going to another jeweler I don't think I'll ever buy her platinum stuff again. He gave us a white gold and platinum ring to hold and while the P was a little heavier you couldn't tell the difference. Platinum will be harder to maintain as well. He said he's been in the industry for 30 years and his wife doesn't own ANYTHING platinum, that it's just a waste of cash unless you get some superficial chick that must have platinum.

Xenogen

:whocares:...I know it will all pay off in the end

CLpower

yea, but hopefully she'll never tell you she hates it

Whiskers

<-----Head is shaking in agreeance.

fdl

ya, I think its better to get white gold , and if you want you can use the money you saved to get a slightly nicer rock.

moeronn

I'm kind of going through this now. My GF wants to go ring shopping with me, but I want it to be somewhat of a surprise. Now she has told me what kind of ring she likes and we looked at a few online, but I rather get it on my own. Obviously, I'll have to find out her ring size, but that shouldn't be too difficult.

Cliff notes: I think the guy needs input from the girl, but should get it himself.

teg_to_bike

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Average Jose

i hate the idea of people oign ring shopping. You should have some clue of what your wife likes before you want to propose to her.

Plus it takes out the suprise.

phipark

we would just have to discuss the price.

Whiskers

Wait, are you asking Beetroot to marry you?

moeronn

CJams

I think they pick the expensive ones!

CLPowersWife

Yeah, I gave Scott some vague pointers in the years leading up to our engagement (i.e. I prefer simple styles, either solitaire or 3-stone but none of that pave' stuff or accent diamonds or anything like that). He did a great job! I couldn't have picked a prettier one myself.

I guess by the time you're ready to get married you should be aware of her taste to some degree.

NoRemorse

I agree 100%. I just got engaged 2 weeks ago. If you know your significant other, and you should, you should have a pretty good idea of what she'll like. If you bring her ring shopping, then where is the surprise!?

Besides if you go to a reputable jewlery store, then most will give you a 30 day exchange period anyways, so you at least get credit for the surprise, and then if she actually doesn't like it, you are safe as well...

I was happy when we went to get the ring sized and she looked over everything else and said I had picked out the best one Sure, she may just be saying that, but hey... now she cannot say anything else... although she also knows how much it cost... probably a good thing I didn't cheap out. Actually, I think I got yelled at for wasting money.

CLpower

yea, i was gonna say, by now if you aren't confident in her taste you shouldn't be marrying her. I enjoyed going out and picking the ring out on my own, it was real rewarding for her to like it as well. WHen I really think about it, there is no way i'd want them to pick it out w/ me. I'd definately wanna do it on my own w/ a few inputs you pick up from her along the way.

Nicky Pass

My ex used to show me pictures of what she liked...I paid attention....but shes like a slinky to me now...she serves no purpose, but it would put a smile on my face to push her down a flight of stairs!

Crazy Bimmer

How much does that pay?

SDCGTSX

Personally, I would just buy a "nice" ring so I can surprise her with the proposal. I think it ruins the surprise if you go shopping together before you ask her. It's too materialistic. After the proposal, you can go together to the store to get the actual ring that she would wear.

But actually, actually, my sister's fiancee's dad is a jeweler so I would probably just borrow a ring for the proposal and THEN have her pick out the diamond that she wants and get it set in something.

Secret Agent

What a clever idea!

bmoreTLS

yeah, that's what you do. And have a half decent memory.

hypertech

We looked around together and talked a bit about what style she wanted. Her plan was a solitaire with a wrap for a wedding band.

I picked out the diamond by myself and had it set in platinum. Later on we couldn'tfinda wrap she liked to she wound up picking a new setting for it and we had it remounted. Then we had a band custon made to fit next to the setting she picked since it wasn't smooth.

Side note: both her rings and mine are platinum and I definately think it is worth the money. Platinum is a slightly pliablemetal so when you bash your ring into something (and you will) instead of screwing up the plating orgouging your ring, you can take it ot the jeweler to be buffed bak into shape. Most small scratches will just "fill" themselves back in.

txathlete

Since she's the one wearing it. She better fucking like it. So I let her pick some out and choose one.

supermegaglossy

what you could do is go into jewelry stores looking at watches. she'll most likely go off and look at rings, and then you go over and join her. that way you get the idea of what she likes and she's still clueless.

CLpower

you women are never clueless, and even if you thought you were, you know the minute he walked over there w/ you, you'd think he was interested giving yourself a false hope if he is completely uninterested and just looking at rings w/ you

goeers2001

Both of us picked out our engagement rings.Before we got married we traded mine in one bigger and she kept hers and got one bigger.

michimonster

I wouldnt want to know. Its a suprise.

ATLcl98

I got engaged a couple of weeks ago myself. I definitely took her around a few months before just to get an idea of what she'd like. Thank God she's low maintenance, I just ended up getting a tiffany style solitaire, even though I knew she liked other things as well. I figure I'll have to buy a wedding band as well, no point in going overboard now, knowing there are so many things to prepare for in the future...

Slimey

My wife picked out and designed her own ring. I suppose that she had to design one that I thought looked good too, but that was a very minor point.

It was fine with me. For something that she's going to be wearing almost every day of her life, she should have a design that she's most happy with.

In the end, it actually saved me money too. I probably would have gotten her a colored diamond (she finds the common diamond too cold). She picked out a yellow sapphire for the center stone.

TBone2004

i just asked the shape - I knew the setting from being observant and knowing her tastes - but wanted to make sure the shape was what she wanted....then I just bought the best I could in that shape.

gary_william

I had a girlfriend tell ME the minimum acceptable size of the diamond that I could give to her for it to count as an engagement ring. Anything smaller, she said, would not be "socially acceptable". So I and got me a new girl.

ric

My wife would not have accepted a diamond, as neither she nor I approve of the politics of diamond mining. Moreover, the production of artificial diamonds will, eventually, erode the artificially maintained value of diamonds. And, to boot - she inherited a diamond far larger than any that I might have afforded.... I bought her a strand of pearls. They were similar to a strand that had been stolen years before I met her, and she was very touched by my remembering the story......