Just an update, forget the baggage, made it official last night (edit: in a relationship now). Thanks for the advice and input everyone. Except for you moog

 

Glad to hear you finally decided. Either way, it sounds like you tried and it wasn't for you.

 

Last night huh? Now that you banged her, you should run. j/k. but not really...unless she's hot. we need pics before deciding if you should run or stay.

 

Sorry, I meant the baggage doesn't bother me and made it official as in bf/gf.

 

I was confused also


How's it going with the kid?

 

As long as he can be trained and you can give him a generic nickname I imagine well.

 

congrats, I think.

 

Creampie!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

haha, everything is fine with the kid, we'll sometimes play video games etc together but for the most part I'll see her at her place after he goes to sleep (~8:30) I'm usually busy doing school work until then anyways.

 

Because A LOT OF US have witnessed what happens when the 2 people hook up and the parent pulls out the "this isn't your kid" card when they cannot come to a mutual agreement on how to handle [insert something here that the kid does]. Witnessed it first hand with my friend and her boyfriend and her 2 sons that get away with some crazy crap.... Won't even get into the kid resenting the step in parent issue that usually shows up...

 

^
Absolutely! How the Mom chooses to raise her children may not blend with your own views. My thoughts are that those types of situations are often apparent right from the get-go because often times, parenting styles relate closely to the Mom's own personality and values. If she shows herself as irresponsible, a full-time party girl, or someone with a very loose compass, chances are that she is not the one who monitors her children's behaviour as closely as another might.

The step-parent and/or casual (or live-in) boyfriend shouldn't be making decisions or discipling the other person's child, IMO. That's an automatic for the child to resent the non-parent. IMO, unless you became a long-term partner/spouse when the child was an infant or very young child to the point where the child does view you as his biological parent, you do not step on those boundaries.

 

^^ And I definitely don't plan to.

 

Well that didn't last long, oh well. This time I can faithfully say that it WASN'T me.

 

OK....who had November 15th on the pool?

There are other fish in the sea my friend. Time to move on.

 

sorry to hear that bro.

 

Sorry to hear that - at least you gave it a shot.

 

i understand, thank you

me too..

i gave it my best. I was perfect, unfortunately she has no idea of self worth

 

^ That's the worst, been there done that. Like this case, didn't last long.

Sad part is, some guy will come along and take advantage of that.

 

i hate to be the one to say this but, pics?

 

ha, got rid of them all already

 

When I die I'm leaving all my VHS pornos to you.

 

Found out that she slept with one of my best friends 2 days after breaking up with me. Bad situation! Kicked them both out of my life. Sad.

 

Sorry to hear about the drama in your life - good decision BTW

 

That fucking sucks dude. What the hell kind of friends do you have? IMO, you're better off.

 

Sorry to hear bro, sounds like you're better off with both of them gone

 

Yea, kinda caught me by surprise too. It definitely sucks, but I'm happier knowing that she is completely out of my life now and so is he. I'll be a lot more careful in the future in who I let close to me.

 

Hoe fa sho! Sorry to hear that man.. clearly things ending was for the best!

Soo....... pics? :P

 

I would've put some up if I didn't delete all of them lol

 

OK, I'll be the voice of dissent here.

Sorry to hear about your breakup.

However, after the breakup, you don't owe each other anything, nor did your best friend owe it to you to stay away from her. The fact that they got together after the breakup does not mean either was disloyal to you.

Hope you feel better soon, though.

 

I disagree, especially when I told him how I felt right after the breakup. I was brought up different and have values, I personally would never do that to a friend. Apparently there was stuff going on before we broke up but they didn't have sex until 2 days after.

Sorry but we'll have to agree to disagree.

 

I disagree, I think it's an unwritten rule that you never go after your friend's ex. Sounds to me like he was just waiting in the wings waiting for them to break up, especially if it was so quick after the breakup.

 

Thanks, I agree. If it was just an acquaintance or something I wouldn't be as bothered but this guy was like one of my closest friends. He knew exactly how I felt about her, etc. Guess all the "baggage" is his problem now, not mine.

 

At least give it some time!

 

This right here, is just f'd up

 

Just be glad that it happened sooner rather than later. At least it'll be easier for you to let it go now rather than if you were together for many months/years.

 

I'm very thankful for that.

 

Sorry bro. Silver lining is you found out she's a slut before things got cereal, don't have to waste money on an Xmas gift and your not a father anymore.


On to the next

 

What Will is saying is correct.

BUT to have that kind of mindset you have to be willing to lose a friendship at the drop of a dime.

Because what Fifty, BlackAck, and the others are also saying is correct, imo.

 

Actually, I'm willing to bet he facilitated (caused in some way) the breakup. The ONLY silver lining is that she didnt try to dick around with fifty and cheat with his friend while still in a relationship with him. Next time Fifty sees his 'friend' he should ask him "So how do I taste?"

 

Yea, I'm looking at the positives, there are definitely a couple.

I tend to be too nice of a person, and people have walked over me in the past. This time I'm going to stand up for myself and do what I think is right. The guy is not my friend anymore, we had a conversation after I found out and he took the news that I couldn't remain his friend for now pretty hard and apologized profusely. He said he will work on gaining my trust back cause the friendship meant a lot to him. I found out later that he was with her that same night after I spoke with him, so I'm completely checked out of that friendship, for good.

It is very possible, apparently they were talking back and forth while we were still together, he is definitely the reason we broke up. Probably a blessing in disguise though. I still can't let a close friend do that to me, especially one that was THAT close.

Lol, I might've said that but I don't want to have anything to do with either of them. She emailed me a couple times saying it's her fault and to not lose him as a friend, I told her literally to leave me the fuck alone. The guy is still texting me here and there but I ignore all of his texts and am getting close to saying the same thing to him.