How long will it take my g\f to break up with me
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ok, well i didn't go through all 7 pages of this shit, so this might've been said.. but why don't YOU break up with HER? duh.
there's nothing worse than pussies who can't do what they want done. don't be one.
there's nothing worse than pussies who can't do what they want done. don't be one.
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Originally Posted by supermegaglossy
ok, well i didn't go through all 7 pages of this shit, so this might've been said.. but why don't YOU break up with HER? duh.
there's nothing worse than pussies who can't do what they want done. don't be one.
there's nothing worse than pussies who can't do what they want done. don't be one.
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I haven't been doing so hot in this thread, but here is what I would suggest:
Sit down with her, no alcohol, no distractions, no one else around, and tell her the truth.
Tell her you do care about her and you want to start over.
And give her a key to your apartment... show her you're serious.
and good luck.
Sit down with her, no alcohol, no distractions, no one else around, and tell her the truth.
Tell her you do care about her and you want to start over.
And give her a key to your apartment... show her you're serious.
and good luck.
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Originally Posted by teg_to_bike
I haven't been doing so hot in this thread, but here is what I would suggest:
Sit down with her, no alcohol, no distractions, no one else around, and tell her the truth.
Tell her you do care about her and you want to start over.
And give her a key to your apartment... show her you're serious.
and good luck.
Sit down with her, no alcohol, no distractions, no one else around, and tell her the truth.
Tell her you do care about her and you want to start over.
And give her a key to your apartment... show her you're serious.
and good luck.
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Originally Posted by teg_to_bike
what do you mean by attempted cover up?
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hmm... I see what you mean...
It shows that you didnt want to give her a key before because of all the cheating.
I think if things do turn out ok, and if she asks again... you probably will have to give her the key... but this is the least oof your problems right now.
It shows that you didnt want to give her a key before because of all the cheating.
I think if things do turn out ok, and if she asks again... you probably will have to give her the key... but this is the least oof your problems right now.
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Print this out
http://channels.netscape.com/ns/men/...hear/womenhear
And read it to her.
And then tell her that numbers 6 and 7 are lies.
http://channels.netscape.com/ns/men/...hear/womenhear
And read it to her.
And then tell her that numbers 6 and 7 are lies.
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Originally Posted by FastAcura
Print this out
http://channels.netscape.com/ns/men/...hear/womenhear
And read it to her.
And then tell her that numbers 6 and 7 are lies.
http://channels.netscape.com/ns/men/...hear/womenhear
And read it to her.
And then tell her that numbers 6 and 7 are lies.
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Originally Posted by teg_to_bike
Is asking for all pics, phone numbers, addresses, AIM screennames, etc. of the girls too much?
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Hopefully things go well. Its gonna be tough for awhile though. And I wouldn't be suprised if she may want to take "time off" to see what she wants. Its not easy to stay with someone after they cheat on you.
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Originally Posted by mclarenf3387
And I wouldn't be suprised if she may want to take "time off" to see what she wants.
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Originally Posted by Xenogen
Yah...so that was interesting reading that. But NO ONE has answered the HOW TO BREAK IT TO HER question.
1. Accept the fact that she's going to get angry -- this may seem obvious but here's what it does:
a. Let her get angry.
b. Don't try to convince her that she shouldn't be angry.
c. Let her understand that you know WHY she's angry. <--- Very important. How many of us have heard: "Well, if you don't know why I'm angry ... "
d. Don't make things worse by getting angry yourself.
2. Let her know you're telling her everything because you want to establish trust.
3. Tell her how you REALLY feel about her. <----- This is usually women's No. 1 complaint about men -- they don't about talk about their feelings.
4. Realize and accept that fact that she may not want to be with you anymore. In other words, if she wants to leave, let her. It doesn't mean that it's over, but you may have to make an effort to rebuild the relationship. This is where you have to make an effort to do so and show her that you're willing to make the effort.
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^^ Well said. Another thing that comes to mind is that she might lose a couple of her friends in all of this. How do you suggest I handle that situation ? Or do I have to tell her about her friends too?
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Originally Posted by Xenogen
^^ Well said. Another thing that comes to mind is that she might lose a couple of her friends in all of this. How do you suggest I handle that situation ? Or do I have to tell her about her friends too?
That seems a little risky if what I'm thinking is true.
But if it is, be honest. Hell, I'd kick my friend to the curb if he was doing my chick behind my back.
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Originally Posted by mclarenf3387
How so? You mean some of the friends = fuck buddies?
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Originally Posted by Xenogen
No...I had sex with two of her friends once. Not fuck buddies. So I was asking if I had to admit to that.
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Originally Posted by Xenogen
No...I had sex with two of her friends once. Not fuck buddies. So I was asking if I had to admit to that.
edit: I'm not so sure though. I wouldn't mention names right know mearly for the fact that you're already dropping a huge bombshell on her, but I would be pist if my friends were doing my girlfriend. Probably best just to leave it alone for now though.
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Originally Posted by teg_to_bike
I wonder how different things would've been had you asked you gf about the threesome with her friend.
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I'm not reading all this shit, cliffsnotes shnukums
Hes quitting manwhoring and telling his girlfriend whats been going on for the past year and a half on friday.
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Originally Posted by mclarenf3387
Really condensed version:
Hes quitting manwhoring and telling his girlfriend whats been going on for the past year and a half on friday.
Hes quitting manwhoring and telling his girlfriend whats been going on for the past year and a half on friday.
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Originally Posted by mclarenf3387
Really condensed version:
Hes quitting manwhoring and telling his girlfriend whats been going on for the past year and a half on friday.
Hes quitting manwhoring and telling his girlfriend whats been going on for the past year and a half on friday.
Xena, on biting the bullet. Give her a kiss for me.
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Originally Posted by Xenogen
Absolutely...Ill even print out what you look like and show it to her.
(time for my crazy pills)