Girlfriend/Boyfriend and dancing with others
10-18-2005, 11:06 PM
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Girlfriend/Boyfriend and dancing with others
Do you think its right if you have a girlfriend for her to go to different clubs and stuff without you some nights and dance with other guys?
10-18-2005, 11:07 PM
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Originally Posted by Amoeba
Do you think its right if you have a girlfriend for her to go to different clubs and stuff without you some nights and dance with other guys?
I go to great lengths to avoid situations that could lead to something.
She should do the same if you two are serious.
10-18-2005, 11:12 PM
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I don't dance... but if my girlfriend dances with other guys I don't have a problem with it. I mean if it was full ass slapping grinding dancing I would, but just casual stuff, I don't care at all.
10-18-2005, 11:57 PM
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I would usually say it's no big deal. Unless of course the way your girlfriend dances with other dudes, runs the risk of her getting pregnant or contracting disease. THEN. there's a problem.
10-19-2005, 12:30 AM
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When I had a boyfriend I trusted him. Usually I was there anyway.
I would be less worried for you if your girlfriend goes with her friends. That way, they tend to dance in a big circle with some guys mixed in, and it's all fun. Watch out for one-on-one. That could mean it's sexual.
I would be less worried for you if your girlfriend goes with her friends. That way, they tend to dance in a big circle with some guys mixed in, and it's all fun. Watch out for one-on-one. That could mean it's sexual.
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10-19-2005, 01:23 AM
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Originally Posted by fdl
I'm really interested in why you are asking the question. 
You and your ex working out a new "arrangement"?
You and your ex working out a new "arrangement"?
10-19-2005, 06:28 AM
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Originally Posted by Amoeba
no its just something ive always been against and was wondering if thats too possesive
you are. if you trust her it shouldn't be an issue. If you don't trust her you have no business being in a relationship with her.
10-19-2005, 07:15 AM
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It's not a trust issue if you are there with her and she goes off and dances provocatively with other men.
If she cares about you, then she will not do that.
But casual danceing with other men that I know is fine by me. To clarify, she will not go dance with a stranger.
If she cares about you, then she will not do that.
But casual danceing with other men that I know is fine by me. To clarify, she will not go dance with a stranger.
10-19-2005, 07:57 AM
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Originally Posted by 1killercls
you are. if you trust her it shouldn't be an issue. If you don't trust her you have no business being in a relationship with her.
10-19-2005, 08:22 AM
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Anyone else getting a sense of deja vu here?
Anyhoo, just if you're out together, yeah it's kind of disrespectful unless it's just a big group thing. If she's out on a girl's night, hopefully the rest of her crew knows she has a bf so she's less likely to get nasty. Even if the crew is full of ho-bags that have the "i need some dick" look on their face, you should still be able to trust her enough to not worry. If you can't, you shouldn't be together.
Anyhoo, just if you're out together, yeah it's kind of disrespectful unless it's just a big group thing. If she's out on a girl's night, hopefully the rest of her crew knows she has a bf so she's less likely to get nasty. Even if the crew is full of ho-bags that have the "i need some dick" look on their face, you should still be able to trust her enough to not worry. If you can't, you shouldn't be together.
10-19-2005, 09:20 AM
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Originally Posted by 1killercls
you are. if you trust her it shouldn't be an issue. If you don't trust her you have no business being in a relationship with her.
I'm a boyfriend, not a babysitter. And as that boyfriend i would give her the trust to stay respectable. If I have to watch her and be with her to make sure than happens, then 1. I'm an insecure psyco and 2. I'm a fool for being with a girl who cant get along on her own without crossing our trust barriers. I've always hated the psycho bf type.
10-19-2005, 12:48 PM
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BS. This is not about trust. I 100% trust my wife (weird saying wife!) and am 100% secure in the relationship, but dancing with random guys is not cool.. she know's I'm not cool with it and she won't do it. However, if she has guy friends and I'm not there..I have absolutely no problems with her dancing with them. I say it's not a trust issue because I know she is just "dancing" BUT... 9/10 times the random guy has different intentions, I dont want him copping a feel or whatever... there is no way that can be prevented when you are dancing with some random dude. Sure, she can tell him to back off at that point, but the deed already has been done...
Anyays, it's VERY RARE that a guy just wants to dance with a girl.. "just to dance" UNLESS HE'S GAY. So its not the girl I'm worried about, it's the random guy who she doesn't know. All you single guys have to agree with me on this one...I do, because I was that random guy before, and I went to a club trying to hook up!!!
Anyays, it's VERY RARE that a guy just wants to dance with a girl.. "just to dance" UNLESS HE'S GAY. So its not the girl I'm worried about, it's the random guy who she doesn't know. All you single guys have to agree with me on this one...I do, because I was that random guy before, and I went to a club trying to hook up!!!
Originally Posted by Crazy Sellout
If you trust her then it shouldnt matter.
IMO
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10-19-2005, 12:58 PM
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10-19-2005, 12:59 PM
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Girls are stupid...they grind and dry fuck guys (drunk guys at that!)....then wonder why the scumbag is horny and all over them. My ex and I were at a club and she was dancing with her girlfriends and some scumbag wouldn't leave her alone after that...I nicely told him to leave it alone...he got mouthy...then it was time to not be nice. My hand hurt for a week!
Dancing = cool, whatever....dry fucking = not cool and bloody shirt, hurt hand, getting kicked out of a club!
Dancing = cool, whatever....dry fucking = not cool and bloody shirt, hurt hand, getting kicked out of a club!
10-19-2005, 01:04 PM
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Girls are stupid...they grind and dry fuck guys (drunk guys at that!)....then wonder why the scumbag is horny and all over them.
10-19-2005, 02:51 PM
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Originally Posted by synth19
BS. This is not about trust. I 100% trust my wife (weird saying wife!) and am 100% secure in the relationship, but dancing with random guys is not cool.. she know's I'm not cool with it and she won't do it. However, if she has guy friends and I'm not there..I have absolutely no problems with her dancing with them. I say it's not a trust issue because I know she is just "dancing" BUT... 9/10 times the random guy has different intentions, I dont want him copping a feel or whatever... there is no way that can be prevented when you are dancing with some random dude. Sure, she can tell him to back off at that point, but the deed already has been done...
Anyays, it's VERY RARE that a guy just wants to dance with a girl.. "just to dance" UNLESS HE'S GAY. So its not the girl I'm worried about, it's the random guy who she doesn't know. All you single guys have to agree with me on this one...I do, because I was that random guy before, and I went to a club trying to hook up!!!
Anyays, it's VERY RARE that a guy just wants to dance with a girl.. "just to dance" UNLESS HE'S GAY. So its not the girl I'm worried about, it's the random guy who she doesn't know. All you single guys have to agree with me on this one...I do, because I was that random guy before, and I went to a club trying to hook up!!!
Exactly! Im not talking about her dancing with my friends im not there, i mean her going and some random guy coming up and trying to dance sleazy with her, thats what i dont like, so is there something wrong with that?
10-19-2005, 02:57 PM
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I don't mind if my gf goes out with her girls to play "wingwoman" for them. I'm hoping that one can trust their gf enough to let her go out on her own. Shit, I'd dance with girls if I went out with my guy friends and I'd hope my gf wouldn't get pissed about that. All I need to know is that she wouldn't cross the line and I'd do the same. And its pretty obvious what crossing the line would be.
10-19-2005, 02:59 PM
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Originally Posted by Amoeba
Exactly! Im not talking about her dancing with my friends im not there, i mean her going and some random guy coming up and trying to dance sleazy with her, thats what i dont like, so is there something wrong with that?
10-19-2005, 03:27 PM
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i would not dance with a strange guy in front of my bf..that's disrespectful....
i would not like my guy going to a bar or club with me and dancing with someone else ( a stranger) right in front of me..
if it was a friend, i wouldn't care as long as they weren't dry humping...(slow songs? questionable...but not totally out of the question either)
i hope i could trust a guy enough to let him go out with his friends and not cheat on me...i'm sure most suys would dance with other girls...just hope it's not in a provacative way...and if it was...
he better hope i don't see it or hear about it..
i would not like my guy going to a bar or club with me and dancing with someone else ( a stranger) right in front of me..
if it was a friend, i wouldn't care as long as they weren't dry humping...(slow songs? questionable...but not totally out of the question either)
i hope i could trust a guy enough to let him go out with his friends and not cheat on me...i'm sure most suys would dance with other girls...just hope it's not in a provacative way...and if it was...
he better hope i don't see it or hear about it..
10-19-2005, 03:28 PM
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Originally Posted by Amoeba
Exactly! Im not talking about her dancing with my friends im not there, i mean her going and some random guy coming up and trying to dance sleazy with her, thats what i dont like, so is there something wrong with that?
in front of you?
that's kinda rude..
10-19-2005, 03:56 PM
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Originally Posted by Amoeba
Exactly! Im not talking about her dancing with my friends im not there, i mean her going and some random guy coming up and trying to dance sleazy with her, thats what i dont like, so is there something wrong with that?
10-19-2005, 03:59 PM
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So I suppose a contract would be needed before dancing with the guy.. haha... All I'm saying is that guys will do whatever it takes to hook up... what fag would dance with some girl at a club without trying something or thinking he would have no chance with the girl? That's ridiculous. It's NOT the girl's trust we should worry about, it's the random guy. 9/10 guys go to clubs to hook up with girls. You're saying some guy would go to a club so he could dance a few feet away from the girl and then go home to wack off? lol
Originally Posted by virtualbong
She can dance with other guys but no fockin' bumpin' grind kinda shit. She must be facing the dude and no body contact.
10-19-2005, 04:24 PM
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meh who cares as long as they arent kissing or giving handjobs on the dance floor. I dont know too many girls who dance with the same guy longer than two songs anyways. Only time i ever see that is if they are into them and want to take them home.
At the end of the night shes coming home to you... so what does it matter.
For the record, if she danced with other guys in front of me... then there would be problems.
At the end of the night shes coming home to you... so what does it matter.
For the record, if she danced with other guys in front of me... then there would be problems.
10-19-2005, 05:19 PM
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But why would that be a problem? It's just dancing...not like she's giving him a handjob on the dance floor.... 
Originally Posted by Crazy Sellout
For the record, if she danced with other guys in front of me... then there would be problems.
10-19-2005, 05:30 PM
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Originally Posted by Crazy Sellout
Thats because im an attention whore and if im around.. then i want the handjob!
10-19-2005, 05:44 PM
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Originally Posted by Yumchah
Even from a guy?
10-20-2005, 02:48 AM
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Originally Posted by Crazy Sellout
If you trust her then it shouldnt matter.
IMO
IMO
I don't dance, I drink, so why should she be held back.
10-21-2005, 09:04 AM
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if you trust her, it shouldn't matter.
my bf can't dance, so he doesn't care if i go dance with his friends or whatnot. i'm only doing it to have fun, not to hit on his friends.
my bf can't dance, so he doesn't care if i go dance with his friends or whatnot. i'm only doing it to have fun, not to hit on his friends.
10-21-2005, 09:31 AM
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Originally Posted by synth19
But why would that be a problem? It's just dancing...not like she's giving him a handjob on the dance floor....
10-21-2005, 11:03 AM
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my girl sometimes goes to the club with her friends and shit. she claims shes a bitch to all the sleazy guys that try to grind on her. of course im not feeling it but i have yet to be in a situation where i cant trust her
as long as theirs no grinding or freaking im cool
as long as theirs no grinding or freaking im cool
10-21-2005, 12:26 PM
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what are you talking about.... did you read all my posts. u are missing the entire point.
Originally Posted by virtualbong
So I'm assuming guys have danced with your gf right in front of you? Why do I have a feeling you'd probably get a little jealous...and it would be pretty disrespectful unless she was on a dance team or something and it was her partner
10-21-2005, 12:27 PM
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you're also missing the point. we're not talking about friends or whatever....random sleazeballs is the subject matter.
Originally Posted by NEVERaDuLLmoment
if you trust her, it shouldn't matter.
my bf can't dance, so he doesn't care if i go dance with his friends or whatnot. i'm only doing it to have fun, not to hit on his friends.
my bf can't dance, so he doesn't care if i go dance with his friends or whatnot. i'm only doing it to have fun, not to hit on his friends.
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Originally Posted by synth19
BS. This is not about trust. I 100% trust my wife (weird saying wife!) and am 100% secure in the relationship, but dancing with random guys is not cool.. she know's I'm not cool with it and she won't do it. However, if she has guy friends and I'm not there..I have absolutely no problems with her dancing with them. I say it's not a trust issue because I know she is just "dancing" BUT... 9/10 times the random guy has different intentions, I dont want him copping a feel or whatever... there is no way that can be prevented when you are dancing with some random dude. Sure, she can tell him to back off at that point, but the deed already has been done...
Anyays, it's VERY RARE that a guy just wants to dance with a girl.. "just to dance" UNLESS HE'S GAY. So its not the girl I'm worried about, it's the random guy who she doesn't know. All you single guys have to agree with me on this one...I do, because I was that random guy before, and I went to a club trying to hook up!!!
Anyays, it's VERY RARE that a guy just wants to dance with a girl.. "just to dance" UNLESS HE'S GAY. So its not the girl I'm worried about, it's the random guy who she doesn't know. All you single guys have to agree with me on this one...I do, because I was that random guy before, and I went to a club trying to hook up!!!
