GF calling her ex
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GF calling her ex
Hey all I have been dating this girl since the end of July and found out a month into it that she had dated another guy for about a year and they were on a break when she met me. She slept with the other guy in august and I didnt find out until Oct. when she told me but we weren't really serious at the time I suppose so I let it slide.
Now, everytime my gf gets drunk she feels the need to hide in the bathroom or something and text the ex or even call him. One time at an engagement party she disappeared for a bit and when i went to find her she was in a bedroom on the phone with the guy. She says its nothing but should I really put up with this? I just ignored it for a bit hoping it would go away and gave her the benefit of the doubt but its become a big issue and I am finding myself being jealous about him and it's really not like me. I honestly feel she wouldnt get back with him but after picking her drunk ass up tonight from her friends party. I asked if she had called him and she said she had talked with him but was just wondering how he was doing. Mother fucker!!! her phone is ringing right now and guess who it is? I knew it was shady when she could barely stand but was looking for her phone. GRRR this is killing me
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Now, everytime my gf gets drunk she feels the need to hide in the bathroom or something and text the ex or even call him. One time at an engagement party she disappeared for a bit and when i went to find her she was in a bedroom on the phone with the guy. She says its nothing but should I really put up with this? I just ignored it for a bit hoping it would go away and gave her the benefit of the doubt but its become a big issue and I am finding myself being jealous about him and it's really not like me. I honestly feel she wouldnt get back with him but after picking her drunk ass up tonight from her friends party. I asked if she had called him and she said she had talked with him but was just wondering how he was doing. Mother fucker!!! her phone is ringing right now and guess who it is? I knew it was shady when she could barely stand but was looking for her phone. GRRR this is killing me
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If things happen again and again I wouldnt let it slide. It is bothering you and you should let her know. Beside you havent dated her that long. Ask your FL member to hook it up, he's tearing it up in the pretty girl thread.
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Originally Posted by 1StGenCL
Hey all I have been dating this girl since the end of July and found out a month into it that she had dated another guy for about a year and they were on a break when she met me. She slept with the other guy in august and I didnt find out until Oct. when she told me but we weren't really serious at the time I suppose so I let it slide.
Now, everytime my gf gets drunk she feels the need to hide in the bathroom or something and text the ex or even call him. One time at an engagement party she disappeared for a bit and when i went to find her she was in a bedroom on the phone with the guy. She says its nothing but should I really put up with this? Its become a big issue and I am finding myself being jealous about him and it's really not like me. I honestly feel she wouldnt get back with him but after picking her drunk ass up tonight from her friends party. I asked if she had called him and she said she had talked with him but was just wondering how he was doing. Mother fucker!!! her phone is ringing right now and guess who it is? I knew it was shady when she could barely stand but was looking for her phone. GRRR this is killing me
Help
Now, everytime my gf gets drunk she feels the need to hide in the bathroom or something and text the ex or even call him. One time at an engagement party she disappeared for a bit and when i went to find her she was in a bedroom on the phone with the guy. She says its nothing but should I really put up with this? Its become a big issue and I am finding myself being jealous about him and it's really not like me. I honestly feel she wouldnt get back with him but after picking her drunk ass up tonight from her friends party. I asked if she had called him and she said she had talked with him but was just wondering how he was doing. Mother fucker!!! her phone is ringing right now and guess who it is? I knew it was shady when she could barely stand but was looking for her phone. GRRR this is killing me
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Dude, your self-esteem is going to keep taking a major hit the longer you stay with this girl. She is only wth you for when it benefits her, and the same goes for her ex. I sure as hell hope you are not asking yourself if she "really loves you"! Because the answer is NO! But if YOU love you, kick her sucking-his-dick-thru-the-phone-in-the-bathroom-while-you-look-at-the-game ass to the motherfucking curb with the quickness!
If you share her place with her, move the hell out as soon as possible. If she lives with you, kick her ass out tomorrow! If she asks you where do you expect her to go - tell her "Your ride should be calling any minute BIATTCCHHH!!"
Remember...you can't turn a hoe into a housewife dawg! Love yourself first, that way you recognize when someone else doesn't!
Peace2fingaz!
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#7
Earth-bound misfit
I have to agree that it's time to let go. Why would you even want to be with someone who is so obviously hung up on someone else? You deserve better.
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Kick her to the curb now. She's banging that guy more than you know.
And he's got himself nice situation. You wine and dine her and she goes to his house for the cawk.
And he's got himself nice situation. You wine and dine her and she goes to his house for the cawk.
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~Da Nocturnal Cheetah~
I can see it now:
Her: stumbling in the door, pissy drunk, and spewing all over the floor
You: WTF?? Look at your ass! Why you always gotta get so fucking drunk?
Her: Fuck you! Then, seemingly passing out on the couch, semi-conscious
You: go off looking for something to clean that shit up - yet again
Her: phone starts ringing
You: come back with mop and bucket, only to find her gone off the couch
Her: trail of vomit leading to the bathroom
You: going to see if she is ok
Her: whispering and making sucking noises
You: open the door - WTF??? BEEYYOOTTCCHHH!!!! Get yo stankin' ass outta there and hang up that goddamn phone! Fucking slut!
Her: stumbling in the door, pissy drunk, and spewing all over the floor
You: WTF?? Look at your ass! Why you always gotta get so fucking drunk?
Her: Fuck you! Then, seemingly passing out on the couch, semi-conscious
You: go off looking for something to clean that shit up - yet again
Her: phone starts ringing
You: come back with mop and bucket, only to find her gone off the couch
Her: trail of vomit leading to the bathroom
You: going to see if she is ok
Her: whispering and making sucking noises
You: open the door - WTF??? BEEYYOOTTCCHHH!!!! Get yo stankin' ass outta there and hang up that goddamn phone! Fucking slut!
#13
dɐɹɔ ǝɥʇ ʇɐɥʍ
I do that with one my ex's and when the timing is right it's more then just phone calls, for me it's just too convenient/easy and her new bf is such a fucking idiot I feel its my duty. Not saying your a fucking idiot, but I certainly wouldn't stick around while it was happening to me.
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#18
A little hijack here...but since a few people have mentioned something about it....
I don't understand why so many people justify stuff or even care (!!) who your ex moves on to date/is dating and what he's like.
".....I've been telling her she should break up with that a-hole...he treats her like crap...I don't know why she's going out with him....he's a jerk....I treated her better" etc, etc. It's not your business. Move on.
I don't understand why so many people justify stuff or even care (!!) who your ex moves on to date/is dating and what he's like.
".....I've been telling her she should break up with that a-hole...he treats her like crap...I don't know why she's going out with him....he's a jerk....I treated her better" etc, etc. It's not your business. Move on.
#19
~Da Nocturnal Cheetah~
Originally Posted by Street Spirit
A little hijack here...but since a few people have mentioned something about it....
I don't understand why so many people justify stuff or even care (!!) who your ex moves on to date/is dating and what he's like.
".....I've been telling her she should break up with that a-hole...he treats her like crap...I don't know why she's going out with him....he's a jerk....I treated her better" etc, etc. It's not your business. Move on.
I don't understand why so many people justify stuff or even care (!!) who your ex moves on to date/is dating and what he's like.
".....I've been telling her she should break up with that a-hole...he treats her like crap...I don't know why she's going out with him....he's a jerk....I treated her better" etc, etc. It's not your business. Move on.
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dude just fuck it, about 99% of them are shady and skanks. Found out last night the girl i was dating for about two months "made out" with a guy (so she said... don't really believe her, it was probably more) when she was drunk. Its not worth the hastle, you two arent even serius.
#23
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Originally Posted by Street Spirit
A little hijack here...but since a few people have mentioned something about it....
I don't understand why so many people justify stuff or even care (!!) who your ex moves on to date/is dating and what he's like.
".....I've been telling her she should break up with that a-hole...he treats her like crap...I don't know why she's going out with him....he's a jerk....I treated her better" etc, etc. It's not your business. Move on.
I don't understand why so many people justify stuff or even care (!!) who your ex moves on to date/is dating and what he's like.
".....I've been telling her she should break up with that a-hole...he treats her like crap...I don't know why she's going out with him....he's a jerk....I treated her better" etc, etc. It's not your business. Move on.
#24
Originally Posted by iTimmy
I have a feeling that was aimed at me, and I don't care who she gets involved with I have no intention of being in a relationship with her again. However, if he was a decent guy I wouldn't screw around with her on the side - since I know he does it to her every chance he gets I don't feel bad about doing the same with her. Two wrongs don't make a right and I should stop, but its not like I tell her she should leave him, I like our arrangement now
Unless someone is a true friend of their ex (eg: no hard feelings, mutual respect, both people understand you care about each other as a friend only), and is looking out for the ex's feelings and welfare, I really don't understand why people would even keep tabs on their ex and who they date. To me, keeping tabs on who the ex dates and even worrying so much about it as to have an opinion of the new guy shows that you probably haven't moved on from the relationship 100%.
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~Da Nocturnal Cheetah~
Originally Posted by iTimmy
I have a feeling that was aimed at me, and I don't care who she gets involved with I have no intention of being in a relationship with her again. However, if he was a decent guy I wouldn't screw around with her on the side - since I know he does it to her every chance he gets I don't feel bad about doing the same with her. Two wrongs don't make a right and I should stop, but its not like I tell her she should leave him, I like our arrangement now
I only think not being shit is a problem if you don't know you ain't shit. But if you know you ain't shit, then the shit is ok! Then the shit makes sense!
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#27
Suzuka Master
If your gf is truly over her ex, she would not have made those calls. I think you should let her know how you feel about her behavior and if she really cares about you, she would stop calling her ex. If she can't, move on.
To drunk dial an ex once is forgiveable, but to do so repeatedly?... Nah... that's a freaking red flag!
To drunk dial an ex once is forgiveable, but to do so repeatedly?... Nah... that's a freaking red flag!
#29
all work and no play
you guys are missing one very important step here, he needs to do some wild ass freaky shit to her before he dumps her ......something she will never forget, and maybe if done right ruin sex for her from now on LOL
#30
~Da Nocturnal Cheetah~
Originally Posted by sasha
If your gf is truly over her ex, she would not have made those calls. I think you should let her know how you feel about her behavior and if she really cares about you, she would stop calling her ex. If she can't, move on.
To drunk dial an ex once is forgiveable, but to do so repeatedly?... Nah... that's a freaking red flag!
To drunk dial an ex once is forgiveable, but to do so repeatedly?... Nah... that's a freaking red flag!
#31
Engineer
throw down an ultimatum... if she talks to him again, it's over... don't let her play with your head...
#32
Safety Car
to all the replies saying to leave her.
leave that ho NOW!!
She still wants to be with him, and is probably going to end up fuckin him again if she already hasn't. You really can't trust girls these days; most are lying sluts and this is no exception. They say its nothing, but that is a flat out LIE!
leave that ho NOW!!
She still wants to be with him, and is probably going to end up fuckin him again if she already hasn't. You really can't trust girls these days; most are lying sluts and this is no exception. They say its nothing, but that is a flat out LIE!
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Originally Posted by savage
throw down an ultimatum... if she talks to him again, it's over... don't let her play with your head...
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Why do people post this stuff on here? Its simple...she still likes her ex...she is not worth it. Leave her and find someone else. You're freakin' 25. Hate to be so mean about it, but sometimes you just need it.
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How the hell did we get to page 2 before someone asked for
I must ask....did they end their relationship on a good note? If they did and she is just speaking to him from time to time then I don't really see this as the worse thing in the world. Now, if they had a huge fight followed by a week of none stop sex (animals and midgets optional) and then broke up and she is now calling him constantly, I would be a bit pissed.
I must ask....did they end their relationship on a good note? If they did and she is just speaking to him from time to time then I don't really see this as the worse thing in the world. Now, if they had a huge fight followed by a week of none stop sex (animals and midgets optional) and then broke up and she is now calling him constantly, I would be a bit pissed.
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Originally Posted by RaviNJCLs
How the hell did we get to page 2 before someone asked for
I must ask....did they end their relationship on a good note? If they did and she is just speaking to him from time to time then I don't really see this as the worse thing in the world. Now, if they had a huge fight followed by a week of none stop sex (animals and midgets optional) and then broke up and she is now calling him constantly, I would be a bit pissed.
I must ask....did they end their relationship on a good note? If they did and she is just speaking to him from time to time then I don't really see this as the worse thing in the world. Now, if they had a huge fight followed by a week of none stop sex (animals and midgets optional) and then broke up and she is now calling him constantly, I would be a bit pissed.
And what if you decided to type us a "Dear Abby" and ask us, your brothers in arms, what we thought about this bullshit, after she brought her ass home pissy drunk yet again, and his number was the last one on her phone, and as you were finishing up the rant to AZ's finest - that mofo called again???
Like on that movie "Speed" - Whaddaya do...Whaddaya do?????
Just asking...
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^^^^
I have found that a lot of times when someone says "EVERYTIME" it usually mean "More often than they are comfortable with." But that's just me. I think unless he actually asks her "WHAT THE FUCK IS UP?" then he will never get a straight answer.
To answer your question, NO I would not be OK with my wife doing that. However, her keeping in touch with someone she dated would not bother me.
I have found that a lot of times when someone says "EVERYTIME" it usually mean "More often than they are comfortable with." But that's just me. I think unless he actually asks her "WHAT THE FUCK IS UP?" then he will never get a straight answer.
To answer your question, NO I would not be OK with my wife doing that. However, her keeping in touch with someone she dated would not bother me.
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Originally Posted by RaviNJCLs
^^^^
I have found that a lot of times when someone says "EVERYTIME" it usually mean "More often than they are comfortable with." But that's just me. I think unless he actually asks her "WHAT THE FUCK IS UP?" then he will never get a straight answer.
To answer your question, NO I would not be OK with my wife doing that. However, her keeping in touch with someone she dated would not bother me.
I have found that a lot of times when someone says "EVERYTIME" it usually mean "More often than they are comfortable with." But that's just me. I think unless he actually asks her "WHAT THE FUCK IS UP?" then he will never get a straight answer.
To answer your question, NO I would not be OK with my wife doing that. However, her keeping in touch with someone she dated would not bother me.
She still calls me all the time..