Does Love Even Exist Anymore?
08-10-2018, 07:03 PM
#81
Evil Mazda Driver
Thread Starter
32 1/2
Wow...I bet you're fun at parties. I'm aware of the risks but my job is not an office, 40 hours a week type job. As a bus driver you spend very little time in the office and it's a great job to have if there are certain coworkers you want to avoid. There are people I see so infrequently that when we do run into each other it's more of a "Wow...you're still here?"
I've been told numerous times "Don't eat where you $hit."
Mixing relationships with work is a dangerous proposition. Ask me how I know... a mistake I made when I was about 23 or 24. And no matter how much you agree to be professional if stuff doesn't work out, etc., there are moments where limits get seriously tested...
I sincerely wish you the best and hope it does work out for you, but if it doesn't... oh man... I hope one of you is planning on finding a new place to work. My case was relatively mild as compared to some others I've heard of... and they all happened more or less the same. Everyone is high on the feels, everything is great and gravy, etc... until it wasn't. And then it got sloppy. Mine stayed fairly okay because our employer was against people dating/hooking up if they were on the same project, so we kept ours under wraps... though everyone suspected something was up but they had no proof.
But hey, at the end of the day you'll either find yourself with a life partner, or another lesson well learned. Both can be positives, if you look at them from the right perspective.
Mixing relationships with work is a dangerous proposition. Ask me how I know... a mistake I made when I was about 23 or 24. And no matter how much you agree to be professional if stuff doesn't work out, etc., there are moments where limits get seriously tested...
I sincerely wish you the best and hope it does work out for you, but if it doesn't... oh man... I hope one of you is planning on finding a new place to work. My case was relatively mild as compared to some others I've heard of... and they all happened more or less the same. Everyone is high on the feels, everything is great and gravy, etc... until it wasn't. And then it got sloppy. Mine stayed fairly okay because our employer was against people dating/hooking up if they were on the same project, so we kept ours under wraps... though everyone suspected something was up but they had no proof.
But hey, at the end of the day you'll either find yourself with a life partner, or another lesson well learned. Both can be positives, if you look at them from the right perspective.
08-10-2018, 07:48 PM
#82
Chapter Leader (Southern Region)
Andrew a real1
He's going to be just fine gents!
Guide his cock, don't block it!
He's going to be just fine gents!
Guide his cock, don't block it!
08-10-2018, 08:33 PM
#83
Team Owner
you could look at it as I'm trying to rain on your parade, or you can look at it as something to be cautiously aware of. Learn from other people's mistakes, not your own... if you don't have to.
BUT... yes, your job has a factor in it all... I didn't know what you did for a living, but seeing as you're a bus driver and out on the road most of the day, then yeah, not exactly the same shit burning scenario. Most times it was due to being too close to one another that made shit go sour... seeing someone at work everyday and then trying to have a normal relationship afterwards can prove to be a challenge. But you're not in that boat, so fuck it!!!
BUT... yes, your job has a factor in it all... I didn't know what you did for a living, but seeing as you're a bus driver and out on the road most of the day, then yeah, not exactly the same shit burning scenario. Most times it was due to being too close to one another that made shit go sour... seeing someone at work everyday and then trying to have a normal relationship afterwards can prove to be a challenge. But you're not in that boat, so fuck it!!!
08-11-2018, 05:14 PM
#84
Evil Mazda Driver
Thread Starter
you could look at it as I'm trying to rain on your parade, or you can look at it as something to be cautiously aware of. Learn from other people's mistakes, not your own... if you don't have to.
BUT... yes, your job has a factor in it all... I didn't know what you did for a living, but seeing as you're a bus driver and out on the road most of the day, then yeah, not exactly the same shit burning scenario. Most times it was due to being too close to one another that made shit go sour... seeing someone at work everyday and then trying to have a normal relationship afterwards can prove to be a challenge. But you're not in that boat, so fuck it!!!
BUT... yes, your job has a factor in it all... I didn't know what you did for a living, but seeing as you're a bus driver and out on the road most of the day, then yeah, not exactly the same shit burning scenario. Most times it was due to being too close to one another that made shit go sour... seeing someone at work everyday and then trying to have a normal relationship afterwards can prove to be a challenge. But you're not in that boat, so fuck it!!!
08-12-2018, 01:52 PM
#85
That's great to hear, man.
You have to admit, just reading the original post of yours sounded very negative. Most of us don't personally know you, of course. I've seen so many dudes bitter at their lack of dating success, and I'm nowhere close to Brad Pitt myself. But even Brad Pitt didn't come out of the womb like that, he clearly works on himself a lot and it shows.
Still, looks can only get you so far. If you're looking for a long-term relationship, personality is the thing that withstands the test of time for both sexes and it's even more important to women than it is for us guys. Personality can be worked upon just as much as appearance can, though yes, genetics plays a part in it too.
You have to admit, just reading the original post of yours sounded very negative. Most of us don't personally know you, of course. I've seen so many dudes bitter at their lack of dating success, and I'm nowhere close to Brad Pitt myself. But even Brad Pitt didn't come out of the womb like that, he clearly works on himself a lot and it shows.
Still, looks can only get you so far. If you're looking for a long-term relationship, personality is the thing that withstands the test of time for both sexes and it's even more important to women than it is for us guys. Personality can be worked upon just as much as appearance can, though yes, genetics plays a part in it too.
08-12-2018, 06:10 PM
#86
Chapter Leader (Southern Region)
wtf Costco.. kick a man while he's down.. shit
Why don't you say having a huge penis is important too while you're at it..
Why don't you say having a huge penis is important too while you're at it..
08-12-2018, 10:18 PM
#87
Old Man Yelling at Clouds
I used to live in Beaverton back in the early 90's and it was awful then.....But sounds like a perfect opportunity to meet and date someone from the work place. Then again if it goes bad and you see her at the next stop on your route.....
:wink: Hope it works out!
08-13-2018, 07:19 AM
#89
I've dated numerous women at my job over the last 20 years and it always works out just fine, but mainly because I'm not a piece of shit and leave a good impression in the bedroom 
I never set out to date a co-worker, but I certainly never let it stop me. The hard (pron: heart) wants what the hard wants.
Good luck, my friend...
I think what you're experiencing was not really anxiety...just your own defense mechanisms.
Risk vs Reward...if you protect your feelings, you can't get hurt. But you also can't feel anything.
You'll end up telling people to get off your lawn before you know it. Probably not the existence you want, especially at your age.
and don't listen to anyone...go out and be a cool motherfucker and really believe you are one and you'll see the level of other people you end up attracting.
I was married to someone I never would have thought would cheat on me, and she did. I took it as a reflection on her poor judgment and not a reflection on my worth. It also
made me realize that even a safe bet isn't safe and that NOTHING is forever. Happiness, Love and to be loved is not a destination...it's a constantly morphing journey. One
that you have with yourself while someone rides by your side for a while. If you find something nice, take it day by day...and enjoy it for whatever time
it lasts.
That's my advice.
I never set out to date a co-worker, but I certainly never let it stop me. The hard (pron: heart) wants what the hard wants.
Good luck, my friend...
I think what you're experiencing was not really anxiety...just your own defense mechanisms.
Risk vs Reward...if you protect your feelings, you can't get hurt. But you also can't feel anything.
You'll end up telling people to get off your lawn before you know it. Probably not the existence you want, especially at your age.
and don't listen to anyone...go out and be a cool motherfucker and really believe you are one and you'll see the level of other people you end up attracting.
I was married to someone I never would have thought would cheat on me, and she did. I took it as a reflection on her poor judgment and not a reflection on my worth. It also
made me realize that even a safe bet isn't safe and that NOTHING is forever. Happiness, Love and to be loved is not a destination...it's a constantly morphing journey. One
that you have with yourself while someone rides by your side for a while. If you find something nice, take it day by day...and enjoy it for whatever time
it lasts.
That's my advice.
08-13-2018, 07:41 AM
#90
sort of unrelated, but any time a hoe tells you she wouldn't normally do something, it means she does it all the time.
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08-13-2018, 08:44 AM
#91
Chapter Leader (Southern Region)
Happiness, Love and to be loved is not a destination...it's a constantly morphing journey. One that you have with yourself while someone rides by your side for a while. You find something nice, take it day by day...and enjoy it for whatever time it lasts.
That's my advice.
That's my advice.
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08-13-2018, 07:48 PM
#92
Point is to constantly work on yourself and good things will come. Good women will come. Don't become a cranky homebody like me.
The only thing huge on me is my ego, thanks to the last girls I dated. I
08-13-2018, 08:31 PM
#93
Chapter Leader (Southern Region)
Not my intention at all, but I guess in my senile old age I start doing that geriatric rambling
Point is to constantly work on yourself and good things will come. Good women will come. Don't become a cranky homebody like me.
The only thing huge on me is my ego, thanks to the last girls I dated. Ihave had the personality of a wet sock because I wasn't improving myself, but when I did things got better. Just don't get complacent.
Point is to constantly work on yourself and good things will come. Good women will come. Don't become a cranky homebody like me.
The only thing huge on me is my ego, thanks to the last girls I dated. I
:planeoverhead:
Just giving you a hard time homie
08-14-2018, 09:33 AM
#95
Team Owner
I generally sit on my hand for a week first...
08-14-2018, 09:35 AM
#96
Team Owner
08-14-2018, 09:42 AM
#97
Chapter Leader (Southern Region)
08-14-2018, 09:45 AM
#98
Team Owner
Well deserved, what can I say? 
08-14-2018, 09:48 AM
#99
Chapter Leader (Southern Region)
At least you don't drive a TLX
08-24-2018, 12:15 PM
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