Diamond ring or a car?
#1
Diamond ring or a car?
Hey all. I just want your opinion of wether I should get my GF a car or an engagement ring?
We have been dating for 1 year, but she is the one for me. We already have some joint banking accounts and we basically live together.
She has a beater car to go back and forth from Philly in while in Grad School. But I hate to be seen in it and I would rather see her in a nicer more reliable car.
On the flip side. Her parents are very strict, so we cant live together till we are married. Which is going to be after grad school (1 1/2 years)
So do I get ring for her now (and make her happy) or do I put the 4000 down on her new car? (and make me happy and her content)
We have been dating for 1 year, but she is the one for me. We already have some joint banking accounts and we basically live together.
She has a beater car to go back and forth from Philly in while in Grad School. But I hate to be seen in it and I would rather see her in a nicer more reliable car.
On the flip side. Her parents are very strict, so we cant live together till we are married. Which is going to be after grad school (1 1/2 years)
So do I get ring for her now (and make her happy) or do I put the 4000 down on her new car? (and make me happy and her content)
#3
you know you're posting on a car forum....
but seriously, its a tough call. I say get her a cheap ring and a moped. But if you have to choose from the two, and you're sure u wanna marry this girl, go for the ring. The car can come later, and you can both pitch in for it
but seriously, its a tough call. I say get her a cheap ring and a moped. But if you have to choose from the two, and you're sure u wanna marry this girl, go for the ring. The car can come later, and you can both pitch in for it
#4
If you're sure she's the one get the ring. If you buy her a car that could set a bad precedent for future expenditures. Besides, the car is her issue, the ring is yours. And a $4000 ring isn't going to cost thousands more in repairs...
#5
True that. I am just realy really tired of driving my CL every where we go. Just wish she had a car I could enjoy driving to. Camon my Ex drove a Bimmer. And my new GF drives a *gulp* Corsica...... Yeah. Ya see my point now... lol
Plus i would worry less if she had a more comfortable car drive on the turnpike.
Plus i would worry less if she had a more comfortable car drive on the turnpike.
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#9
Originally posted by CLean
Shit... She just wants a damn ring. I think one of those 100 dollar costume rings would make her happy at this point.
Shit... She just wants a damn ring. I think one of those 100 dollar costume rings would make her happy at this point.
#10
Don't get married. Wait awhile. I mean, sure you said she's the one for you and all, but damn dude, that's just fucking retarded to have bank accounts and shit.
Step back from it for awhile and think about it.
You guys get blinded too easily by the pussy!
Step back from it for awhile and think about it.
You guys get blinded too easily by the pussy!
#11
Originally posted by CLean
Shit... She just wants a damn ring. I think one of those 100 dollar costume rings would make her happy at this point.
Shit... She just wants a damn ring. I think one of those 100 dollar costume rings would make her happy at this point.
#12
Re: Diamond ring or a car?
Originally posted by CLean
Hey all. I just want your opinion of wether I should get my GF a car or an engagement ring?
We have been dating for 1 year, but she is the one for me. We already have some joint banking accounts and we basically live together.
She has a beater car to go back and forth from Philly in while in Grad School. But I hate to be seen in it and I would rather see her in a nicer more reliable car.
On the flip side. Her parents are very strict, so we cant live together till we are married. Which is going to be after grad school (1 1/2 years)
So do I get ring for her now (and make her happy) or do I put the 4000 down on her new car? (and make me happy and her content)
Hey all. I just want your opinion of wether I should get my GF a car or an engagement ring?
We have been dating for 1 year, but she is the one for me. We already have some joint banking accounts and we basically live together.
She has a beater car to go back and forth from Philly in while in Grad School. But I hate to be seen in it and I would rather see her in a nicer more reliable car.
On the flip side. Her parents are very strict, so we cant live together till we are married. Which is going to be after grad school (1 1/2 years)
So do I get ring for her now (and make her happy) or do I put the 4000 down on her new car? (and make me happy and her content)
#2. my car paid off so if my job went to hell or something happened really all i had to pay for is gas and insurance.
#3. here was the biggie INSURANCE. being young and unmarried. Insurance(i have no points knock on wood) for a Tacoma 4 door 4x4 V-6 or CL-S or TL-S would beat me silly.
#4. I was also concerned about cost of books at school because I have a lot "little courses" to take yet so the more "little courses" you take the more your books cost.
so i went and got my ex fiancee a 4 grand ring. then we broke up in September of 03. I got it now in my safety deposit box.(because it's a hell of a lot safer in there than in my house). so the next time i get engaged I'll just "recycle" the ring I know everyone says it's bad luck. but personally I think it's crap
#13
Re: Re: Diamond ring or a car?
Originally posted by ChrisKelly5
You done fell off your square...
:shakehd:
You done fell off your square...
:shakehd:
My advice to you:
1) Get those bank accounts un-jointed if possible. That is a BAD FUCKING IDEA, even if you're married. And you aren't - you've only been dating for a year.
2) Don't buy her anything until you're married.
3) Don't propose to her for another year or two. Dating for one year is not enough time, IMO.
Women these days are money grubbing whores, or at least most of them are. I'm not saying your girlfriend is - she could be awesome, i don't konw. But i suggest playing it safe.
#15
Re: Re: Re: Diamond ring or a car?
Originally posted by ABreece
My advice to you:
1) Get those bank accounts un-jointed if possible. That is a BAD FUCKING IDEA, even if you're married. And you aren't - you've only been dating for a year.
2) Don't buy her anything until you're married.
3) Don't propose to her for another year or two. Dating for one year is not enough time, IMO.
Women these days are money grubbing whores, or at least most of them are. I'm not saying your girlfriend is - she could be awesome, i don't konw. But i suggest playing it safe.
My advice to you:
1) Get those bank accounts un-jointed if possible. That is a BAD FUCKING IDEA, even if you're married. And you aren't - you've only been dating for a year.
2) Don't buy her anything until you're married.
3) Don't propose to her for another year or two. Dating for one year is not enough time, IMO.
Women these days are money grubbing whores, or at least most of them are. I'm not saying your girlfriend is - she could be awesome, i don't konw. But i suggest playing it safe.
but by the way on what he said only after a year. I agree about that too. I'd wait awhile longer. I know a year seems like forever when your young but now almost 22 and my g/f we've been talking about getting serious(because I graduate in about a year from college) I was asking her what do you want to do as far housing and stuff like that. she said to be honest I don't wanna get married for another 4.5 or 5 years. She said I'm not grown up yet and your not grown up enough.(she's 20 and I'll be 22 in a month) she said there's nothing wrong not being the way you are it's natural but I don't wanna be like my mom who got married young and never got to live out her "wild days" . she said I still love you to death but just I'm not ready yet. Which i respect and if she doesn't wanna get married yet that's fine because I hate being rushed on major issues like buying a car or something like that. I like to sit back look at the situation and evulate the scene then make my decision. so if she wants time i'll give it to her. Plus I can save up enough money to go into the dealership for my next car and flop down cash as where if i got married right away I would have taken out a loan. I always like to flop down cash because once you give them the check your "home free" yes you gotta save forever but as unstable as the job market is if the car paid off i feel better.
#17
My wife and I have had joint banking since our 6th month ogf dating when we started shacking up. Never ONCE a problem for me...and if it works and is convieniant for you, why change. We are coming up on 7 years married...and still never a problem.
Again, if she is a keeper and you love her..get her the ring.
Again, if she is a keeper and you love her..get her the ring.
#19
ring... i'd never buy a chick a car unless she was my wife.
i would, however, wait a while longer. no real reason, just wait. i mean, women turn into these obnoxious beings eventually, right?
big deal w the joint bank accounts... just dont make it ur only account.
i would, however, wait a while longer. no real reason, just wait. i mean, women turn into these obnoxious beings eventually, right?
big deal w the joint bank accounts... just dont make it ur only account.
#20
damn, 1 year and she already has you proposing? WTF was I doing wrong all those other times :'(...but seriously...I'd go for the engagement ring rather than the engagement car. My X's friend did that engagement car thing and then they ran into the problem of her not wanting to get rid of the car because it had sentimental value...and since you don't want to be seen/ride etc in a POS (seems that way from your other post), I wouldn't think you'd want to keep that new car you are getting for very long. You could put the $4000 down on a nice ring and make her happy I'm with always dirty, the car is her issue, the ring is yours.
#22
Re: Re: Re: Diamond ring or a car?
Originally posted by ABreece
My advice to you:
3) Don't propose to her for another year or two. Dating for one year is not enough time, IMO.
My advice to you:
3) Don't propose to her for another year or two. Dating for one year is not enough time, IMO.
maybe get her a small promisary ring 1/4 carat or smaller. something that will show her u r serious, but want to wait.
some women don't want to be engaged for more than 1 year.
if you get married b/f she graduated(if thats what u were thinking) financial aid would be less for her if she is taking out loans. i can't remember if there is financial aid for grad school
#24
Re: Re: Re: Diamond ring or a car?
Originally posted by Bulldog01
I'm still holding onto the square with my fingers, though.
I'm still holding onto the square with my fingers, though.
I feel ya' ...
PS - I gotta show you some pics of my dog, he just turned 4 months on the 28th...
#25
Re: Re: Re: Re: Diamond ring or a car?
Originally posted by ChrisKelly5
I feel ya' ...
PS - I gotta show you some pics of my dog, he just turned 4 months on the 28th...
I feel ya' ...
PS - I gotta show you some pics of my dog, he just turned 4 months on the 28th...
bulldogcl@comcast.net
#29
Originally posted by Batin Dean
4000 for a ring? And you expect her to marry you? You'd better keep saving up.
4000 for a ring? And you expect her to marry you? You'd better keep saving up.
oh and if you buy her the car now, youll still have to buy her the ring later if you want to marry her..
#33
Originally posted by SilviaGTO
(geisha i understand your family/culture, so dont think im aiming this at you)
oh and if you buy her the car now, youll still have to buy her the ring later if you want to marry her..
(geisha i understand your family/culture, so dont think im aiming this at you)
oh and if you buy her the car now, youll still have to buy her the ring later if you want to marry her..
hehe I know Rachael We've had this discussion Darn rings keep coming up on this forum and never one for me! hahaha:'(
And , I agree about the needing to buy the ring later anyway lol good point
#36
Originally posted by 1killercls
My wife and I have had joint banking since our 6th month ogf dating when we started shacking up. Never ONCE a problem for me...and if it works and is convieniant for you, why change. We are coming up on 7 years married...and still never a problem.
Again, if she is a keeper and you love her..get her the ring.
My wife and I have had joint banking since our 6th month ogf dating when we started shacking up. Never ONCE a problem for me...and if it works and is convieniant for you, why change. We are coming up on 7 years married...and still never a problem.
Again, if she is a keeper and you love her..get her the ring.
we ended up breaking up sometime after... she declared bankruptcy sometime after that.
you have no idea how much that joint account can fuck you till it does.
even after that account is `closed` it takes alot more to break the link....
ive had problems such as inaccuracys on my credit, money being with drawn from OTHER accounts... moneys withheld... etc....
all from that one joint checking account... and her declaring bankruptcy.
stupid choice by me. oh well i was young...
#40
Originally posted by ABreece
Why would you want a joint account anyways? Is there any benefit to it?
Why would you want a joint account anyways? Is there any benefit to it?
i eventually closed it. i didnt notice any gain/ no gain from having him on my account.