could i have ur opinion as to what you pplz would do.
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could i have ur opinion as to what you pplz would do.
this is about who would give who a second chance....
not to go into detail but she broke up with me over the stupidest reasons..... 3 totaly different reason which 2 of them i had to find out through her friends.
the first time we saw each other was like a year after we broke up at my friends bday party. she gives me a call the next night saying if i would like to come over.... so which i did of course. about 45mins of doing nothing of just talking and flipping through my oh disney cd's she grabs me and full on kisses me. then we end up in the backseat, and started fulling around. after that she doesnt even call me or anything, so i got rid of all stuff pertaining to her cuz i had a very hard time of letting her go....
then i see her again after 4 months at a soccer game. shes the soccer player, i am the referee.... when she saw me she wouldnt take her eyes off of me for what seemed to be 1 minute. the eyes she gave me was the "i am interested" kinda eyes.... then while i am refereeing the game she would look at me here and there... with those eyes.
now the question.....should i ask her for a second chance or should she ask me for the second chance.... a part of me still never let her go even after 1 year and 4-5 months. what i alway think is.... since she broke up with me she should ask me for a second chance, but what i hear from some of my friends is that the person that got their heart broken is the one asking for a second chance...
what should i do........... its still killing me deep deep down inside of me
not to go into detail but she broke up with me over the stupidest reasons..... 3 totaly different reason which 2 of them i had to find out through her friends.
the first time we saw each other was like a year after we broke up at my friends bday party. she gives me a call the next night saying if i would like to come over.... so which i did of course. about 45mins of doing nothing of just talking and flipping through my oh disney cd's she grabs me and full on kisses me. then we end up in the backseat, and started fulling around. after that she doesnt even call me or anything, so i got rid of all stuff pertaining to her cuz i had a very hard time of letting her go....
then i see her again after 4 months at a soccer game. shes the soccer player, i am the referee.... when she saw me she wouldnt take her eyes off of me for what seemed to be 1 minute. the eyes she gave me was the "i am interested" kinda eyes.... then while i am refereeing the game she would look at me here and there... with those eyes.
now the question.....should i ask her for a second chance or should she ask me for the second chance.... a part of me still never let her go even after 1 year and 4-5 months. what i alway think is.... since she broke up with me she should ask me for a second chance, but what i hear from some of my friends is that the person that got their heart broken is the one asking for a second chance...
what should i do........... its still killing me deep deep down inside of me
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if you want something in life, don't be afraid to go after it.
so i say you should call her up.
tell her how you feel. ask if she feels the same way.
what's the worst that can happen? she tells you that she doesn't want to see you?
you don't see her now, so why not take a chance and talk to her?
:goodluck:
so i say you should call her up.
tell her how you feel. ask if she feels the same way.
what's the worst that can happen? she tells you that she doesn't want to see you?
you don't see her now, so why not take a chance and talk to her?
:goodluck:
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HORRIBLE ADVICE THUS FAR.
This is the worst story of p-whipped shit I've heard in a long time. Let her go, she's bad news and you are a vulnerable guy. Let me get this straight, she uses you like a womanizer uses a girl. She dumps you. She sees you later and uses you again and doesn't call you. She basically sees you as a knapsack and a wimp and she is right.
And I quote, "she gives me a call the next night saying if i would like to come over.... so which i did of course." That's what puppy dogs do and she's treating you like one.
After all this you are still pining away for her. Dude, you need a serious butt whopping from an older brother or a good friend who knows what's up. Call me cynical but people are who they are for the most part. She is a user and abuser. She acts for her benefit with little regard for your feelings or well-being. You are also only 18 and I'm guessing she's also young, which means she's a pretty ballsy girl with some cajones, for taking control like she is doing.
Here's my prediction. I have a feeling that you will choose to ignore my advice but remember this when it comes true and you'll know what I was talking about. Even if you "get back together" due to either her or you asking for the second chance. She will break your heart again. I give it all of 2 weeks maximum.
This is the worst story of p-whipped shit I've heard in a long time. Let her go, she's bad news and you are a vulnerable guy. Let me get this straight, she uses you like a womanizer uses a girl. She dumps you. She sees you later and uses you again and doesn't call you. She basically sees you as a knapsack and a wimp and she is right.
And I quote, "she gives me a call the next night saying if i would like to come over.... so which i did of course." That's what puppy dogs do and she's treating you like one.
After all this you are still pining away for her. Dude, you need a serious butt whopping from an older brother or a good friend who knows what's up. Call me cynical but people are who they are for the most part. She is a user and abuser. She acts for her benefit with little regard for your feelings or well-being. You are also only 18 and I'm guessing she's also young, which means she's a pretty ballsy girl with some cajones, for taking control like she is doing.
Here's my prediction. I have a feeling that you will choose to ignore my advice but remember this when it comes true and you'll know what I was talking about. Even if you "get back together" due to either her or you asking for the second chance. She will break your heart again. I give it all of 2 weeks maximum.
07-15-2005, 11:50 AM
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Originally Posted by SDCGTSX
HORRIBLE ADVICE THUS FAR.
This is the worst story of p-whipped shit I've heard in a long time. Let her go, she's bad news and you are a vulnerable guy. Let me get this straight, she uses you like a womanizer uses a girl. She dumps you. She sees you later and uses you again and doesn't call you. She basically sees you as a knapsack and a wimp and she is right.
And I quote, "she gives me a call the next night saying if i would like to come over.... so which i did of course." That's what puppy dogs do and she's treating you like one.
After all this you are still pining away for her. Dude, you need a serious butt whopping from an older brother or a good friend who knows what's up. Call me cynical but people are who they are for the most part. She is a user and abuser. She acts for her benefit with little regard for your feelings or well-being. You are also only 18 and I'm guessing she's also young, which means she's a pretty ballsy girl with some cajones, for taking control like she is doing.
Here's my prediction. I have a feeling that you will choose to ignore my advice but remember this when it comes true and you'll know what I was talking about. Even if you "get back together" due to either her or you asking for the second chance. She will break your heart again. I give it all of 2 weeks maximum.
This is the worst story of p-whipped shit I've heard in a long time. Let her go, she's bad news and you are a vulnerable guy. Let me get this straight, she uses you like a womanizer uses a girl. She dumps you. She sees you later and uses you again and doesn't call you. She basically sees you as a knapsack and a wimp and she is right.
And I quote, "she gives me a call the next night saying if i would like to come over.... so which i did of course." That's what puppy dogs do and she's treating you like one.
After all this you are still pining away for her. Dude, you need a serious butt whopping from an older brother or a good friend who knows what's up. Call me cynical but people are who they are for the most part. She is a user and abuser. She acts for her benefit with little regard for your feelings or well-being. You are also only 18 and I'm guessing she's also young, which means she's a pretty ballsy girl with some cajones, for taking control like she is doing.
Here's my prediction. I have a feeling that you will choose to ignore my advice but remember this when it comes true and you'll know what I was talking about. Even if you "get back together" due to either her or you asking for the second chance. She will break your heart again. I give it all of 2 weeks maximum.
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07-15-2005, 02:16 PM
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i wouldn't say Evar!!!
but, +1 on the good advice.
but, +1 on the good advice.
07-15-2005, 05:57 PM
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tis def good advice IMO.
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Forget about her and move on.
AND NO, NOT EVEN A goodbye, be done with it.
07-15-2005, 06:27 PM
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Originally Posted by sasha
So what were her reasons for breaking up with you, if you don't mind me asking? It would give us a better view of the situation.
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Originally Posted by SDCGTSX
HORRIBLE ADVICE THUS FAR.
This is the worst story of p-whipped shit I've heard in a long time. Let her go, she's bad news and you are a vulnerable guy. Let me get this straight, she uses you like a womanizer uses a girl. She dumps you. She sees you later and uses you again and doesn't call you. She basically sees you as a knapsack and a wimp and she is right.
And I quote, "she gives me a call the next night saying if i would like to come over.... so which i did of course." That's what puppy dogs do and she's treating you like one.
After all this you are still pining away for her. Dude, you need a serious butt whopping from an older brother or a good friend who knows what's up. Call me cynical but people are who they are for the most part. She is a user and abuser. She acts for her benefit with little regard for your feelings or well-being. You are also only 18 and I'm guessing she's also young, which means she's a pretty ballsy girl with some cajones, for taking control like she is doing.
Here's my prediction. I have a feeling that you will choose to ignore my advice but remember this when it comes true and you'll know what I was talking about. Even if you "get back together" due to either her or you asking for the second chance. She will break your heart again. I give it all of 2 weeks maximum.
This is the worst story of p-whipped shit I've heard in a long time. Let her go, she's bad news and you are a vulnerable guy. Let me get this straight, she uses you like a womanizer uses a girl. She dumps you. She sees you later and uses you again and doesn't call you. She basically sees you as a knapsack and a wimp and she is right.
And I quote, "she gives me a call the next night saying if i would like to come over.... so which i did of course." That's what puppy dogs do and she's treating you like one.
After all this you are still pining away for her. Dude, you need a serious butt whopping from an older brother or a good friend who knows what's up. Call me cynical but people are who they are for the most part. She is a user and abuser. She acts for her benefit with little regard for your feelings or well-being. You are also only 18 and I'm guessing she's also young, which means she's a pretty ballsy girl with some cajones, for taking control like she is doing.
Here's my prediction. I have a feeling that you will choose to ignore my advice but remember this when it comes true and you'll know what I was talking about. Even if you "get back together" due to either her or you asking for the second chance. She will break your heart again. I give it all of 2 weeks maximum.
07-15-2005, 06:33 PM
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yup., your 2nd last post says it all.
you need to realize you're getting played just like Minch did. Is she related to our own GG by chance? Twin sister maybe?
U need to man up and tell her off. put her in her place.
you need to realize you're getting played just like Minch did. Is she related to our own GG by chance? Twin sister maybe?
U need to man up and tell her off. put her in her place.
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To sum it all up.
Stop being a pussy, grow some balls and get over her. We have all at one time or another been in some High school drama. I'm sure you won't listen to this because you need to learn the hard way. Just go get a escort to show you the time of your life, I promise you won't even remember the bitch's name.
Stop being a pussy, grow some balls and get over her. We have all at one time or another been in some High school drama. I'm sure you won't listen to this because you need to learn the hard way. Just go get a escort to show you the time of your life, I promise you won't even remember the bitch's name.
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Hey, I have no malice towards, you. I'm hating your behavior, not you. And all us guys have been there. We're initially brain washed by Disney movies, bad female advice to be sensitive and all that bs. We learn later in life that many women manipulate, for good or for bad, and that guys don't understand why since most guys are very straight forward with each other and tell each other like it is.
Women don't communicate like that. They communicate through a combination of actions and words and body language. Men read like reading a billboard. Understanding women is more of an art. Unfortunately for men, we filter most of what women say through our need to boost our egos. We justify their actions when they fuck us over, we call them lesbians or bitch when they don't like us, we do all sorts of dumb things just to protect this ego of ours.
Here's my final bit of advice. Listen well. Women don't lie. Some may lie with words, but their actions always tell the truth. The most telling thing about a woman is that if they want something, they act to get it. If she likes you, she will do things to cross your path. If she doesn't like you, she'll do things to avoid you. Simple. Think of it in reverse. You like this girl. If she IMed you and said "hey you never call or talk to me", you'd take that as an opportunity to talk to her and become closer to her. She used it as a way to backlash at you and let you know, in no uncertain terms, that she doesn't wasn't any part of you. That's just not how a girl who likes you acts.
Finally, there's this myth that is out there that a man can do things to make a woman like him. To some extent this is true, but different than what you think. There's nothing you can say or buy for (search for "purse") or do for her that will make a girl like you. Mostly, it'll make her sort of grossed out at your patheticness. The only thing you CAN do is work on yourself. Get in better physical shape. Work on your confidence and sense of self-respect. Get help, if you need, on a sense of style and nice clothes. Nice car helps. I'm not stressing the importance of superficial or material things but highlighting the fact that all these elements put together will make you a happier and more well rounded person who will know what he wants and learns to go for it.
Once you gain self-respect for yourself and realize that you and everyone on Earth DESERVES to be treated with respect and DESERVE to meet someone who appreciates you, then you'll realize how much of a B*%CH this girl is being to you. And once you have a health sense of self-respect you won't want to even talk to this girl. And finally, if you have done this for yourself, you'll see that she will probably want to be with you and a part of your life because she senses, with her female intuition, that you are a real man with a sense of self. And you will recognize that she's trouble and not worth your time. :endrant:
Women don't communicate like that. They communicate through a combination of actions and words and body language. Men read like reading a billboard. Understanding women is more of an art. Unfortunately for men, we filter most of what women say through our need to boost our egos. We justify their actions when they fuck us over, we call them lesbians or bitch when they don't like us, we do all sorts of dumb things just to protect this ego of ours.
Here's my final bit of advice. Listen well. Women don't lie. Some may lie with words, but their actions always tell the truth. The most telling thing about a woman is that if they want something, they act to get it. If she likes you, she will do things to cross your path. If she doesn't like you, she'll do things to avoid you. Simple. Think of it in reverse. You like this girl. If she IMed you and said "hey you never call or talk to me", you'd take that as an opportunity to talk to her and become closer to her. She used it as a way to backlash at you and let you know, in no uncertain terms, that she doesn't wasn't any part of you. That's just not how a girl who likes you acts.
Finally, there's this myth that is out there that a man can do things to make a woman like him. To some extent this is true, but different than what you think. There's nothing you can say or buy for (search for "purse") or do for her that will make a girl like you. Mostly, it'll make her sort of grossed out at your patheticness. The only thing you CAN do is work on yourself. Get in better physical shape. Work on your confidence and sense of self-respect. Get help, if you need, on a sense of style and nice clothes. Nice car helps. I'm not stressing the importance of superficial or material things but highlighting the fact that all these elements put together will make you a happier and more well rounded person who will know what he wants and learns to go for it.
Once you gain self-respect for yourself and realize that you and everyone on Earth DESERVES to be treated with respect and DESERVE to meet someone who appreciates you, then you'll realize how much of a B*%CH this girl is being to you. And once you have a health sense of self-respect you won't want to even talk to this girl. And finally, if you have done this for yourself, you'll see that she will probably want to be with you and a part of your life because she senses, with her female intuition, that you are a real man with a sense of self. And you will recognize that she's trouble and not worth your time. :endrant:
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Originally Posted by Titand19
To sum it all up.
Stop being a pussy, grow some balls and get over her. We have all at one time or another been in some High school drama. I'm sure you won't listen to this because you need to learn the hard way. Just go get a escort to show you the time of your life, I promise you won't even remember the bitch's name.
Stop being a pussy, grow some balls and get over her. We have all at one time or another been in some High school drama. I'm sure you won't listen to this because you need to learn the hard way. Just go get a escort to show you the time of your life, I promise you won't even remember the bitch's name.
07-15-2005, 08:03 PM
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Bravo SDC!
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wow i got 
i see where your going with this SDC and thanks.... thats why us teenagers look up to people older then us. you have the knowledge inwhich you pass on to us.
Thanks for the advice and I respect people who are straight up more then anyone else.
i see where your going with this SDC and thanks.... thats why us teenagers look up to people older then us. you have the knowledge inwhich you pass on to us.
Thanks for the advice and I respect people who are straight up more then anyone else.
07-15-2005, 11:40 PM
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Originally Posted by SDCGTSX
You are welcome. You honor me with your words. 
entrances yet!You know your relationships!
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From a woman's point of view...SDC....IS TOTALLY RIGHT!!!!! She is playing you...not because she want's you, but because she doesn't want anyone else to have you. Even if you never mentioned another female's name, she knows what she's lost and doesn't want anyone else to have it. She thinks that if she confuses you, that you will stay focused on her and what she "might" want to give you and you will not have time or energy for any other woman. STAY AWAY......FAR AWAY from her! 
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Originally Posted by DarkSithGirl
From a woman's point of view...SDC....IS TOTALLY RIGHT!!!!! She is playing you...not because she want's you, but because she doesn't want anyone else to have you. Even if you never mentioned another female's name, she knows what she's lost and doesn't want anyone else to have it. She thinks that if she confuses you, that you will stay focused on her and what she "might" want to give you and you will not have time or energy for any other woman. STAY AWAY......FAR AWAY from her!
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Stay away from these people who you. They do it because.... well they can. It's an ego trip to them to think they can control other people. It makes them feel good that they can at least do this. A good friend of mine, lets call him Mike, was like that with another good friend of mine, lets call her Ann. Ann was whipped over Mike and he was sort of meh about her. She would basically serve his every need while he treated her like crap. He met a 2nd girl, Tracy, (who just happened to be crazy) and was going out with her too.
Tracy somehow found out about Mike already dating Ann and somehow got a hold of Ann and told her what he was doing. Ann was upset and Tracy was upset. Mike was shitting in his pants. Tracy came to a party we were having and confronted him and began to punch Mike like there was no tomorrow. He ran away from her like a girl and LOCKED himself into our backyard. We were all watching this like the funniest thing we've ever seen, because it was.
Well the sad part was that Ann, even though upset, wanted to forgive Mike, now that Tracy is out of the picture, and get back together. It was sort of sad to watch because I know both of the kids but it wasn't my place to intervene really. Long story short, they broke up, she got married to some guy who is a really nice guy (although a bit weenie) and Mike is dating another girl who is cute but controling and he's still cheating on her on occasions.
Not to make it seem like all guys are like this but when we get together for college reunions, and such, we will go out and party pretty hard and we'll hook up with women, even those who have girlfriends. (Side Note: Mardi Gras was pretty nuts. We met and made out with girls who had boyfriends, etc. Power of the words, "but he's not here" is amazing.) Cheaters don't think it's a big deal to cheat so you gotta just watch out who you are dating.
you. They do it because.... well they can. It's an ego trip to them to think they can control other people. It makes them feel good that they can at least do this. A good friend of mine, lets call him Mike, was like that with another good friend of mine, lets call her Ann. Ann was whipped over Mike and he was sort of meh about her. She would basically serve his every need while he treated her like crap. He met a 2nd girl, Tracy, (who just happened to be crazy) and was going out with her too. Tracy somehow found out about Mike already dating Ann and somehow got a hold of Ann and told her what he was doing. Ann was upset and Tracy was upset. Mike was shitting in his pants. Tracy came to a party we were having and confronted him and began to punch Mike like there was no tomorrow. He ran away from her like a girl and LOCKED himself into our backyard. We were all watching this like the funniest thing we've ever seen, because it was.
Well the sad part was that Ann, even though upset, wanted to forgive Mike, now that Tracy is out of the picture, and get back together. It was sort of sad to watch because I know both of the kids but it wasn't my place to intervene really. Long story short, they broke up, she got married to some guy who is a really nice guy (although a bit weenie) and Mike is dating another girl who is cute but controling and he's still cheating on her on occasions.
Not to make it seem like all guys are like this but when we get together for college reunions, and such, we will go out and party pretty hard and we'll hook up with women, even those who have girlfriends. (Side Note: Mardi Gras was pretty nuts. We met and made out with girls who had boyfriends, etc. Power of the words, "but he's not here" is amazing.) Cheaters don't think it's a big deal to cheat so you gotta just watch out who you are dating.
07-16-2005, 07:25 PM
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Originally Posted by SDCGTSX
Once you gain self-respect for yourself and realize that you and everyone on Earth DESERVES to be treated with respect and DESERVE to meet someone who appreciates you, then you'll realize how much of a B*%CH this girl is being to you. And once you have a health sense of self-respect you won't want to even talk to this girl.
We all deserve to be with someone who respects us. Good relationships are those that bring out the best in you.
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fool me once-shame on you
fool me twice-shame on me
dude your 18, you should be out having fun and being yourself.
she doesn't care about your feelings or your take on it if she acts like that towards you. she will play the game forever with you
i dated a girl years ago, we were eachothers first's things were great blah blah blah and she started doing the same shit to me. yeah it killed me at first but my friends whooped my ass and made me realize she was playing me, she would see me out or call me up out of the blue to "hang out". thanks to my friends i moved on. i see her from time to time, even talk to her on the phone every so often, but now i know what the deal is. but nomatter what she tried(and believe me she tries hard) i dont give in,
stand your ground bro.
have some respect for your self
you wont get any unhonest answers here. we dont know you and your "girl", its best to get advise from a neutral party in my opinion
fool me twice-shame on me
dude your 18, you should be out having fun and being yourself.
she doesn't care about your feelings or your take on it if she acts like that towards you. she will play the game forever with you
i dated a girl years ago, we were eachothers first's things were great blah blah blah and she started doing the same shit to me. yeah it killed me at first but my friends whooped my ass and made me realize she was playing me, she would see me out or call me up out of the blue to "hang out". thanks to my friends i moved on. i see her from time to time, even talk to her on the phone every so often, but now i know what the deal is. but nomatter what she tried(and believe me she tries hard) i dont give in,
stand your ground bro.
have some respect for your self
you wont get any unhonest answers here. we dont know you and your "girl", its best to get advise from a neutral party in my opinion
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Originally Posted by SDCGTSX
Hey, I have no malice towards, you. I'm hating your behavior, not you. And all us guys have been there. We're initially brain washed by Disney movies, bad female advice to be sensitive and all that bs. We learn later in life that many women manipulate, for good or for bad, and that guys don't understand why since most guys are very straight forward with each other and tell each other like it is.
Women don't communicate like that. They communicate through a combination of actions and words and body language. Men read like reading a billboard. Understanding women is more of an art. Unfortunately for men, we filter most of what women say through our need to boost our egos. We justify their actions when they fuck us over, we call them lesbians or bitch when they don't like us, we do all sorts of dumb things just to protect this ego of ours.
Here's my final bit of advice. Listen well. Women don't lie. Some may lie with words, but their actions always tell the truth. The most telling thing about a woman is that if they want something, they act to get it. If she likes you, she will do things to cross your path. If she doesn't like you, she'll do things to avoid you. Simple. Think of it in reverse. You like this girl. If she IMed you and said "hey you never call or talk to me", you'd take that as an opportunity to talk to her and become closer to her. She used it as a way to backlash at you and let you know, in no uncertain terms, that she doesn't wasn't any part of you. That's just not how a girl who likes you acts.
Finally, there's this myth that is out there that a man can do things to make a woman like him. To some extent this is true, but different than what you think. There's nothing you can say or buy for (search for "purse") or do for her that will make a girl like you. Mostly, it'll make her sort of grossed out at your patheticness. The only thing you CAN do is work on yourself. Get in better physical shape. Work on your confidence and sense of self-respect. Get help, if you need, on a sense of style and nice clothes. Nice car helps. I'm not stressing the importance of superficial or material things but highlighting the fact that all these elements put together will make you a happier and more well rounded person who will know what he wants and learns to go for it.
Once you gain self-respect for yourself and realize that you and everyone on Earth DESERVES to be treated with respect and DESERVE to meet someone who appreciates you, then you'll realize how much of a B*%CH this girl is being to you. And once you have a health sense of self-respect you won't want to even talk to this girl. And finally, if you have done this for yourself, you'll see that she will probably want to be with you and a part of your life because she senses, with her female intuition, that you are a real man with a sense of self. And you will recognize that she's trouble and not worth your time. :endrant:
Women don't communicate like that. They communicate through a combination of actions and words and body language. Men read like reading a billboard. Understanding women is more of an art. Unfortunately for men, we filter most of what women say through our need to boost our egos. We justify their actions when they fuck us over, we call them lesbians or bitch when they don't like us, we do all sorts of dumb things just to protect this ego of ours.
Here's my final bit of advice. Listen well. Women don't lie. Some may lie with words, but their actions always tell the truth. The most telling thing about a woman is that if they want something, they act to get it. If she likes you, she will do things to cross your path. If she doesn't like you, she'll do things to avoid you. Simple. Think of it in reverse. You like this girl. If she IMed you and said "hey you never call or talk to me", you'd take that as an opportunity to talk to her and become closer to her. She used it as a way to backlash at you and let you know, in no uncertain terms, that she doesn't wasn't any part of you. That's just not how a girl who likes you acts.
Finally, there's this myth that is out there that a man can do things to make a woman like him. To some extent this is true, but different than what you think. There's nothing you can say or buy for (search for "purse") or do for her that will make a girl like you. Mostly, it'll make her sort of grossed out at your patheticness. The only thing you CAN do is work on yourself. Get in better physical shape. Work on your confidence and sense of self-respect. Get help, if you need, on a sense of style and nice clothes. Nice car helps. I'm not stressing the importance of superficial or material things but highlighting the fact that all these elements put together will make you a happier and more well rounded person who will know what he wants and learns to go for it.
Once you gain self-respect for yourself and realize that you and everyone on Earth DESERVES to be treated with respect and DESERVE to meet someone who appreciates you, then you'll realize how much of a B*%CH this girl is being to you. And once you have a health sense of self-respect you won't want to even talk to this girl. And finally, if you have done this for yourself, you'll see that she will probably want to be with you and a part of your life because she senses, with her female intuition, that you are a real man with a sense of self. And you will recognize that she's trouble and not worth your time. :endrant:
Forget about her - I don't care how much you thought you liked her, how good she was in the sack, whatever. She has used you and thus blown her one chance to correct a previous mistake. This means it was no mistake in the first place. Just treat her as if she were invisible. Walk away and let time do what it always does - heal.
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You shouldn't be wasting your time if she's doesn't give any positive output. I see your 18, you should go all out and have fun...trust me this girl isn't worth your time (from my past experience when I was in highschool too) there are plenty of girls out there who would definitely except the way you are.
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Originally Posted by m&b6speed
you wont get any unhonest answers here. we dont know you and your "girl", its best to get advise from a neutral party in my opinion
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thanks all, yea im 18 and it is time i just moved on which i have been doing.... just one thing, they do change in the future so should i just leave her behind forever or forgive her when the time comes up??
also is it possible to lose your touch??? meaning i have been single for about 7 months and i feel that i have lost my touch with girls.
thanks for all your input.... been bothering for a while since she is cute and knows well on what i want. she was the best that i have ever had. sometimes i just wonder if i am ever going to find that one girl that will be everything to me....
also is it possible to lose your touch??? meaning i have been single for about 7 months and i feel that i have lost my touch with girls.
thanks for all your input.... been bothering for a while since she is cute and knows well on what i want. she was the best that i have ever had. sometimes i just wonder if i am ever going to find that one girl that will be everything to me....
07-21-2005, 04:50 AM
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HORRIBLE ADVICE THUS FAR.
This is the worst story of p-whipped shit I've heard in a long time. Let her go, she's bad news and you are a vulnerable guy. Let me get this straight, she uses you like a womanizer uses a girl. She dumps you. She sees you later and uses you again and doesn't call you. She basically sees you as a knapsack and a wimp and she is right.
And I quote, "she gives me a call the next night saying if i would like to come over.... so which i did of course." That's what puppy dogs do and she's treating you like one.
After all this you are still pining away for her. Dude, you need a serious butt whopping from an older brother or a good friend who knows what's up. Call me cynical but people are who they are for the most part. She is a user and abuser. She acts for her benefit with little regard for your feelings or well-being. You are also only 18 and I'm guessing she's also young, which means she's a pretty ballsy girl with some cajones, for taking control like she is doing.
Here's my prediction. I have a feeling that you will choose to ignore my advice but remember this when it comes true and you'll know what I was talking about. Even if you "get back together" due to either her or you asking for the second chance. She will break your heart again. I give it all of 2 weeks maximum.
This is the worst story of p-whipped shit I've heard in a long time. Let her go, she's bad news and you are a vulnerable guy. Let me get this straight, she uses you like a womanizer uses a girl. She dumps you. She sees you later and uses you again and doesn't call you. She basically sees you as a knapsack and a wimp and she is right.
And I quote, "she gives me a call the next night saying if i would like to come over.... so which i did of course." That's what puppy dogs do and she's treating you like one.
After all this you are still pining away for her. Dude, you need a serious butt whopping from an older brother or a good friend who knows what's up. Call me cynical but people are who they are for the most part. She is a user and abuser. She acts for her benefit with little regard for your feelings or well-being. You are also only 18 and I'm guessing she's also young, which means she's a pretty ballsy girl with some cajones, for taking control like she is doing.
Here's my prediction. I have a feeling that you will choose to ignore my advice but remember this when it comes true and you'll know what I was talking about. Even if you "get back together" due to either her or you asking for the second chance. She will break your heart again. I give it all of 2 weeks maximum.
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Originally Posted by Specter
thanks all, yea im 18 and it is time i just moved on which i have been doing.... just one thing, they do change in the future so should i just leave her behind forever or forgive her when the time comes up??
also is it possible to lose your touch??? meaning i have been single for about 7 months and i feel that i have lost my touch with girls.
thanks for all your input.... been bothering for a while since she is cute and knows well on what i want. she was the best that i have ever had. sometimes i just wonder if i am ever going to find that one girl that will be everything to me....
also is it possible to lose your touch??? meaning i have been single for about 7 months and i feel that i have lost my touch with girls.
thanks for all your input.... been bothering for a while since she is cute and knows well on what i want. she was the best that i have ever had. sometimes i just wonder if i am ever going to find that one girl that will be everything to me....
As for losing your touch. It's like riding a bicycle, you never really forget. Mind you, it gets rusty and you have to tune it up and oil it but once you get on, you'll get it back. All it takes is that one first positive feedback from a girl and you'll be fine.
Don't let yourself get into a mindfuck with yourself with self doubt and remorse. She's the best that you've had.... so far. There's plenty more for you to find out and more people for you to meet.
And yes, that glow in my cheeks is from a fresh new hookup last night with a new girl. There are many many out there, believe me.
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