Ashburner

Never dated anyone outside my race before... anyways, she was born here but her parents are from China. She is 32. Just wondering if anyone has some insight into the unknown for me.

zguy95135

Leave your shoes in the entry if you go to her parent's house.

badboy

They seem to like the color red.

Ashburner

thanks guys... haha

I already know not to touch her Piyo... but the research i have found says it is Japanese anyways

RaviNJCLs

iTrader: (4)

Don't ask her parents if you cook cats and dogs in their foods.

Seriously though....just be yourself. If her perents don't get you, and she is inclined to follow her parents wishes, then NOTHING you do will make a difference.

I have NEVER dated within my race. I learned that people are either going to accept you or not. And trying to be different will never change who you really are.

Ashburner

ok... so i get that.

Is it fair to think that they all know Karate???

miner

are you single again (in the eyes of Texas)?

Ashburner

Yes and no. Still living together with the kids but then again- i am traveling a lot. Working on a long term solution.

Whiskers

Don't ask her if she likes Chinese food....

BENDER08

does she dress like a school girl...........



My friend dated a Chinese girl, but her parents where americanized.

UNeeKLiNG

iTrader: (3)

Karate is Japanese....Kungfu/wu shu/ tai chi/ shaolin kung fun is chinese...Americans j/p Does her parents speak engrish well?

RaviNJCLs

iTrader: (4)

If she does....

Wisc Badger

you seriously sound just like my gf's dad.
(shes chinese).


anyway. Is the girl assimilated or act like an FOB? if she's grown up in america all of her life (or like 90% of it) then she'll probably act pretty white/american. dont worry about the parents... just be respectful as best you can and if you treat their 32yr daughter well then you'll be fine.

be careful too... they are either shy as hell in bed or straight up crouching tiger, hidden penis in her mouth before you know it.

YoungCeo

but funny

Dr. Colorado

what is she? another CCH (cracker chasin ho)? j/p

don't ever ask stuff like does she likes karate since she'll bitchslap you and tell you she's chinese and not japanese. not infrequently, asians of a particular race (i.e. japanese, korean, chinese, thai, filipino) don't like being confused with one another so be chill. it doesn't really bother me, people often think i'm half caucasian and i take it as a compliment that i look different even though i'm japanese.

don't ask if her favorite movies include joy luck club or crouching tiger, hidden dragon or enter the dragon, etc. don't ask if she's into manga or shit like that either. i don't think anybody cares too much about being stereotyped.

you'll probably be better off viewing her raceblind and just being straight up cool like you would with any other girl.

that being said, family is often top priority for a lot of asians and perhaps even more so for 1st and 2nd generations.

finally don't forget that chinese love hennesy straight up on the rocks so you can impress her folks with that when the times comes.
but mix that shit with diet coke and you'll have another bitchslap comin your way lol.

pinky_ttc

HEY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I'm chinese (taiwanese technically) but go figure.

Anyways, if she's americanized then you have no problem.

My husband's white and we're great together!

Like everyone else said......respect her parents....

If you ever get close, you'll have tons of great chinese food for the rest of your life!

If you need anything else.....pm!

Don't forget.....there's also chinese (or any culture in general) where their parents have a greater influence and they pick up their own culture rather than being truly "americanized." For instance, I find that many koreans keep a lot of traditions and stuff intact. Someone I knew (ex-friend) had deep traditions and her parents were very by the book in terms of their culture.

ityper

if she likes u enough, her parents will follow suit. maybe learn a few basic greetings first such as hello and thank you. dont put forearms on table when eating. really wow them by getting ur gf food first n putting it on her plate/bowl. avoid stereotypes n most of all, dont stretch ur eyes out n say ching chong ching!

zguy95135

fuzzy02CLS

iTrader: (2)

Don't stick it in too far.

Oh wait you said dating.....Sorry can't help you there

phil2

Ask her what sweatshops she worked in as a child and at what age did she learn her rub and tug technique.

Street Spirit

From what you've written on AZ in the past, you seem to be in some weird on-again-off-again "engagement" with your current fiancee/mother of your children. My advice would be not to bother dating ANYONE of ANY race until you've come to a FINAL and PERMANENT solution/status with your current relationship. You always seem very impulsive and negative towards your "fiancee". Figure all that stuff out first. Man up, and don't cheat until you've "officially" moved on.

Ken1997TL

Don't bring up Tibet...

JediMindTricks

is she still your fiancee?

anyways. if she was born here, chances are her parents are pretty americanized by now. so hopefully race isn't/won't be an issue.

but i'd still be respectful and polite to her parents. asian parents like that.

crzygosu87

iTrader: (4)

some advice in dating a Chinese girl? Treat her like a spoiled princess if you really must date one b/c they're gonna expect to be treated that way considering their parents spoil/baby/treat them like princesses ... I would be more worried about the whole respect issue if you were dating a Korean girl @___@

Wisc Badger

totally off topic but i frickin LOVE you avatar dude

JediMindTricks

if you were dating a korean girl, you'd have to worry about the respect issue AND treating her like a spoiled princess.

Gfaze

Can you ask her to make me some Nike's?

Hapa DC5

Have deep pockets. Being half asian I can tell you at 32yo not married Chinese girl, the parents may be looking for a suitor for her.

03bl AC k CL

dont let her drive

FiveLiterCheater

m733l

iTrader: (1)

... first you need to be chinese. then you need to be either a doctor or a lawyer. good luck.

1killercls

I hope you dont own a dog.

KaMLuNg

iTrader: (5)

just say you are a US Citizen...

BENDER08

korrupted

Be yourself, respect her parents as you would anybody else's.
If they are relatively new to the country, remove your shoes before you walk into their home.
Watch the Joy Luck Club

SodaLuvr

einsatz

That's what I was gonna say. I've dated Chnese-American women a few times (all born here) and I can't say it's been any different than any other woman. Except that instead of talking about visiting family in, say, Indiana, she may mention a trip or two to China. This is a good conversation topic since you can get to know more about where in China she went, how long, what she liked, family details, and lots of other things to keep her talking about herself.
I dunno why I always thought you were black. I could've sworn you had posted pics before.

LuvMyTSX

I am new to dating outside my race, as well (I'm Caucasian). I've been dating a Chinese guy (actually, Taiwanese) for 2 months now and things are going great. My parents love him, but I still have yet to meet his parents. I'll probably meet them next month. They are away every 2 months (sometimes more) working at their business which is out of state.

Anyway, I can't say things aren't a little bit different culturally, but it's something new and interesting, and I am looking forward to meeting his family (although I'm a bit nervous to meet his mom, haha). There is always going to be a learning curve when you meet someone's family, no matter what race they belong to, so it's just some more stuff to get used to.

My BF's family came here from Taiwan several years ago. His dad came first and got established, then brought the rest of the family over when my BF was about 14 (he's now 32).

SuperTrooper169

iTrader: (2)

Hopefully your dating out of your race experience goes better than mine did. It was either her parents (in one case) or my parents (in the other) that didn't approve, which made for a very stressful relationship both times. There's always the exception to the rule though so lets hope that I just got the raw end of the deal on both mine and her parents except you for who you are, not for what race you happen to be.

virtualbong

Be ready to be open to many things...like eating chicken feet when you go to Dim Sum...