7 years apart...
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7 years apart...
Is that too chester like? She's 20, will be 21 Aug 20. Well, I just turned 27 on July 16, so it's more like 6 years. Just trying to justify it.
Basically, I went to a wedding about 2 hours north of here for friend of mine this past weekend. I met a great girl. However, I'm 27, she's 20. She goes to school in St. Louis. I didn't get her phone number because of complications that arised in the moring. I stayed on her parents couch and her sister showed up when I woke up. So, we never had a chance alone. She's very cute and going to school for pre-med.
Oh, I should probably she's the groom's little sister. So, getting her number isn't impossible, but will be difficult. So, not only is she 7 years younger, she's my friend's little sister.
Should I let this fade or persue? A friend put it best when he asked what if one of my friends got on my sister.
Basically, I went to a wedding about 2 hours north of here for friend of mine this past weekend. I met a great girl. However, I'm 27, she's 20. She goes to school in St. Louis. I didn't get her phone number because of complications that arised in the moring. I stayed on her parents couch and her sister showed up when I woke up. So, we never had a chance alone. She's very cute and going to school for pre-med.
Oh, I should probably she's the groom's little sister. So, getting her number isn't impossible, but will be difficult. So, not only is she 7 years younger, she's my friend's little sister.
Should I let this fade or persue? A friend put it best when he asked what if one of my friends got on my sister.
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Well its "ok" if you are actually going in this for the long-term and not just to get in her pants. Her family members will know what you're up to.
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Don't worry about the age difference. My GF is 8 years younger than me.
I will say, however, that 20-27 is a very formative time for a person. Hopefully she's more mature than the average 20 y/o.
Oh - and as to whether or not it would be wierd? Wouldn't you rather have your sister with a friend of yours that you know to be a good man? She's going to be with somebody - it might as well be a known good person.
I will say, however, that 20-27 is a very formative time for a person. Hopefully she's more mature than the average 20 y/o.
Oh - and as to whether or not it would be wierd? Wouldn't you rather have your sister with a friend of yours that you know to be a good man? She's going to be with somebody - it might as well be a known good person.
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(Your age/2) + 7 = Bang away
That said, if its your friends sister, I wouldnt bother unless you're in it for more than just to get in her pants - which at her age is unlikely the case.
I wouldnt mind if a friend dated my sister (if i had one) seriously; but if he was just out for a quick score, I think id be pretty outta control about it.
That said, if its your friends sister, I wouldnt bother unless you're in it for more than just to get in her pants - which at her age is unlikely the case.
I wouldnt mind if a friend dated my sister (if i had one) seriously; but if he was just out for a quick score, I think id be pretty outta control about it.
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Yeah, that's been discussed. It's fine if I'm actually trying to date her than just get her drunk.
But the whole, wouldn't you rather have her with a friend. Well, that could be a problem too. He knows me, my life and how I think. We are fraternity brothers and he knows what I did.
But the whole, wouldn't you rather have her with a friend. Well, that could be a problem too. He knows me, my life and how I think. We are fraternity brothers and he knows what I did.
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Originally Posted by GoDucksCLSPride
(Your age/2) + 7 = Bang away
That said, if its your friends sister, I wouldnt bother unless you're in it for more than just to get in her pants - which at her age is unlikely the case.
I wouldnt mind if a friend dated my sister (if i had one) seriously; but if he was just out for a quick score, I think id be pretty outta control about it.
That said, if its your friends sister, I wouldnt bother unless you're in it for more than just to get in her pants - which at her age is unlikely the case.
I wouldnt mind if a friend dated my sister (if i had one) seriously; but if he was just out for a quick score, I think id be pretty outta control about it.
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Go for it, you only live once. So long as you don't make her think you're in it for the long term and then fuck+chuck her, you're fine. If she's up for a 1 night bangfest, why not?
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Well its "ok" if you are actually going in this for the long-term and not just to get in her pants. Her family members will know what you're up to.
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Originally Posted by GIBSON6594
what if you're 18? Stat rape
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Whats more important, your friendship with your frat mate, or his little sister? Once older, 7 years isnt too much, but if the girl is going to be a doctor, prepare for quite a bit of time apart(Pre-Med, Med, Residency).
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Originally Posted by phipark
Do you guys think I should ask him first? Yes, like permission.
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Im 30 and my girlfriend just turned 22 last week?? I was real apprehensive in the beginning, but now its OK.
I don't think I could ever date a 30 year old, they just look so old.
I don't think I could ever date a 30 year old, they just look so old.
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i wouldnt do it only because she is going to turn 21 soon, and you know what that means, party time, id wait, and get to know her better first
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Originally Posted by GoDucksCLSPride
Definitely. If not it will always feel like you are sneaking around, whether you are are you arent. ie: telling him the date with his sister was great probably wouldnt sit well with him if he didnt already anticipate it - thus you probably wouldnt tell him and are now in effect "sneaking around"
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Why the hell not. If she were 15, I would see a problem, but she's old enough. I would say this though, 20 year old girls may be hot in the sack, but they always seem to be surrounded by DRAMA. I would definately mention it to your buddy first though. Maybe leave out the part about wanting to bang his sister, no one needs that visual.
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$5 says she annoys the shit out of you and you post a thread about her wanting to party and do other stupid shit that you are over with already. Unless this broad has been on her own or in a responsible role your probably going to have problems with her unless you are on a 21 year olds level. I have a friend who is 21 dating a 28 year old and since I know her and how silly she is I couldn't fathom her and him together....but I am sure he is having fun.
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Well folks since she's turning 21, that really broadens the amount of things they can do together. I'd make sure it's cool with the brother first, unless you're really good at sneaking around behind people's backs.
All that said, did she give you signs she was even feelin you?
All that said, did she give you signs she was even feelin you?
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Well folks since she's turning 21, that really broadens the amount of things they can do together. I'd make sure it's cool with the brother first, unless you're really good at sneaking around behind people's backs.
All that said, did she give you signs she was even feelin you?
All that said, did she give you signs she was even feelin you?
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Originally Posted by Mike97 3.0P
Well folks since she's turning 21, that really broadens the amount of things they can do together.
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Originally Posted by M TYPE X
Like what, get drunk? You're not going to take her to a bar or club, that's where guys are that want to take her away from you.
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Originally Posted by M TYPE X
Like what, get drunk? You're not going to take her to a bar or club, that's where guys are that want to take her away from you.
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Originally Posted by M TYPE X
Like what, get drunk? You're not going to take her to a bar or club, that's where guys are that want to take her away from you.
What else is there to do really? Get ice cream? Go to a movie? Walk in the park? All very uncomfortable situations for girls just meeting a new guy if you ask me. Bar is low key, low pressure, easy ways out too.
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Originally Posted by JJ4Short
$5 says she annoys the shit out of you and you post a thread about her wanting to party and do other stupid shit that you are over with already. Unless this broad has been on her own or in a responsible role your probably going to have problems with her unless you are on a 21 year olds level. I have a friend who is 21 dating a 28 year old and since I know her and how silly she is I couldn't fathom her and him together....but I am sure he is having fun.
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Depends on what each of you is looking for in a relationship at this point in your lives. If you think you might be ready to settle down sometime soon, and she's nowhere near that - it'll never work, regardless of age........etc. I'd give those factors more thought at this point than the 6 year age difference. If those expectations and desires are in two different ballparks, I can see this potential 'relationship' being very short-lived anyway, or ending in a broken heart a year down the road.
EDIT: And yeah, I'd speak with your friend about it prior to making any moves. It's not like he can stop you, but if your friendship is important to you and you want a relationship to work with his sister, having tension and resentment surrounding it will suck!
EDIT: And yeah, I'd speak with your friend about it prior to making any moves. It's not like he can stop you, but if your friendship is important to you and you want a relationship to work with his sister, having tension and resentment surrounding it will suck!
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Originally Posted by GoDucksCLSPride
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