97BlackAckCL

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aomechmarine

Hey OP you you basically gotta force yourself to stay busy, and NOT THINKING ABOUT YOUR EX. Which is way easier said then done. But go to the gym, hang with buddies, go to random car meets, go to the movies, go do ANYTHING.This isnt like a permanent traumatic event, its just a fresh deep wound, only time is gonna heal it, so you gotta occupy that time. Even if you dont really feel like it, force yourself. The more you thnk about her, you'll only think about the "good" stuff, because you feel like shit right now. But later on, you will look back and think "WTF was I thinking being with that bitch?"
AND FUCK HOES. Lots of them. Use condoms. Dont use your real name. Get a second cellphone, the "bat phone". Make up a name and important sounding job title at a fictitious company. Act like you got money - but then trick the gold diggers and fuck em before they find out youre just a regular dude. You wont feel bad either, cuz fuck them, they're gold diggers bro. BWAHAHAHAHA

rossv1

So a little update...


Roommate and her started dating, no biggie. Actually opened up my eyes a bit and makes me thankful that we didn't get back together. Some of the stuff that they do just makes me sit back and think, damn there's no way in hell I would put up with that. Some of the stuff she does that I used to not even notice now just make how wonder how I put up with it for as long as I did. She literally gets on my last nerve now.


I have been able to think about a few things though. Someone posted earlier that maybe a reason I didn't say "yes" or make it "official" during the opportunities that I had was because I was holding out because I thought I could do better than her; you hit the nail on the head. Throughout the relationship, I didn't necessarily treat her bad, but I also wasn't the best. She still kept coming back. Maybe it was love, I think I took it as her being too easy/desperate. I mean, here was this girl that I could kinda be a dick to and she still kept coming back every single day no questions asked.


And in all honesty, I think she was desperate for the attention. She's one of those girls that as soon as someone starts to show interest she eats it up. There were a couple of guys that kinda did this whole same thing with, I stopped talking to her, then she came back and we were all good. Now I'm soooooo glad that I've finally realized I don't need her and can actually do okay without her.


It's slightly stressful just with the whole situation of still having her around the house or when we go out, not constantly but somewhat often. Like I said, I don't ever want to get back with her but some of the stuff she does just gets on my last nerves. lol. I'm debating joining a gym. I figure that might be a good stress reliever and I couldn't hurt to lose a few pounds and get in shape. I had actually been planning on getting in shape for a while, quit smoking 6 months ago as the first step, so maybe this will be a good time to take the next step.

XLR8R

Yeah, that always works well.

97BlackAckCL

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1Louder

Oh here we go.

mdkxtreme

There's not many things in this world that you can change for the better. But when it comes to your body and mind, you have full control over the change. Invest in yourself and don't lose motivation.

oonowindoo

Simple:

She messes around with your friend, so she is no good. Good girls do not mess around with an Ex's friends or family members.

Your roommate, so called friend is no good either. A good friend do not mess around with friend's ex.

I think they are somewhere in the Guy Code book...

Flipster23

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Sho is! That fool didn't read the guy code book.

Flipster23

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No matter how big them tits are.


Oh wait.. wrong thread..

rossv1

^
Yea. It seems cut and dry now, and I guess from the start it was.

Like I said, she was always desperate for attention (affection?) to the point where it was almost sad. I wasn't a total ass all the time, but I could get away with being a dick and she would always come back. I didn't have to put in any work at all.

My roommate was actually a pretty good friend, for the most part. But like you said, it's bro code and just something you don't do. Some people might be fine with it, I'm not. That was my line, it was crossed, so for all intents and purposes that friendship is done also.

Since he does live with us and is in our group they of course go out when we do, I just don't really associate with them.

I have to say, I really am glad it's him that's with her and not me. When we were together or whatever you want to call it, she would always ask me to do stuff for her, I looked at it as being her bitch because she was too lazy or didn't want to do it, and I'd flat out tell her no. This, of course made her mad to no end. Roommate has no qualms about doing any of it. All I can do is just think "damn" and chuckle a bit.


Edit.

What would ya'll do about the roommate situation? I mean, I don't really feel like I really need to keep a person or friend like that around. But others opinions are always welcomed. We were really good friends before all this, but this was one of my lines that got crossed so I don't have any issues with ending the friendship. But then I've had a couple other people, who also don't know the whole story, say I need to let it go or whatever.

oonowindoo

Depends how the lease is signed at your place. I'd pack up my shit and leave and live somewhere else. I don't know how you can see them together all the time like that.

If you live in the dorm... well ask them to change your room.

if i had a friend like that who messed with my ex, no one in the group will talk to him ever again because that is worst you can do to a friend.

rossv1

Well it's me and 3 other guys. We've all shunned them for the most part.

It's not bad seeing them together. It's made me thankful that its him and not me that is with her now. I've had time to do a decent amount of thinking and in all honesty, if we would've gotten back together we would've probably both been miserable in the long run; I sure would have. Most of our arguments when we dated were over her trying to tell me what to do, which is one that I can't stand. Ill just say that, chances are, she'll run all over him. Lol

I guess I may have worded the question wrong. Not necessarily looking for opinions on keeping him as a roommate or whatever, lease ends in 6 months so that isn't a big deal. More so asking for opinions on if it's worth cutting ties, as best I can given the situation, or not. I Don't really see any point in keeping him around as a friend, but it's always good to have someone play Devil's advocate I suppose.

oonowindoo

is it worth?

Your so called friend is fuking your gf... or ex gf...

If that is not enough to cut ties with both of those back stabbing bitches, then i don't know what is.

rossv1

True. Most people say be done with both, a couple of others think I'm exaggerating. Figured I'd see what the all knowing Azine thought.

Funny story. We were playing never have I ever a few days ago, someone brought up having sex while someone else was in the room. She didn't put a finger down so I called her out and reminded her that the other person in the room was her now boyfriend. lol

Taking things slightly too far should be something else I start working on I guess.

oonowindoo

exaggerating or not.

Fact: She is your ex
Fact: he was your friend
Fact: they are fucking
Fact: They are still shamelessly hanging around you

But based what you just said, you are obviously still not over her and you won't be as long as she is around you.

rossv1

True.

And yea, I'm definitely not completely over her. Realizing more that we maybe just weren't a good fit for each other.

I have until May when I can put myself out from around around her. But until then I'm stuck.

97BlackAckCL

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this, so this

97BlackAckCL

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Now THAT is classic, nice job

Sounds like you're stuck living with them for now, so just do what you're doing, tough it out, don't associate with them, and be happy it's him and not you dealing with her bs. Once May comes, cut em off, don't associate with them, and move on with your life. Between now and then, bring as many honeys to the crib as possible and live your life.

1killercls

Post up some nudes of her. It will help with the healing process.

rossv1

lol. If I had any, they would've already been sent around.

doopstr

Tell her you want to fuck. A little effort here would be appreciated.

Rapture

Well IMO I think when you go through some sort of heartache it's best to let all the pain and grief sink in momentarily. That's really the only way you'll be able to grow and be better off. If you're really attached emotionally to someone who pulls some kind of shit with you like this thread depicts, immediately going all Alpha and the Chipmunks and slaying sluts left and right is (again IMO) similar to drinking your problems away after a loved one dies. You'll feel better but you won't be able to root out your frustrations and your grief. I think they're supposed to be 7 stages of grief you need to go through before you come out better on the other side. Something like that..

This wasn't really directed at OP, mostly the people suggesting going out and running the gauntlet of pussy to help them get over their ex.

oonowindoo

it might not resolve the problem but he will not regret it.

Rapture

True. But it seems to me they'd be right back where they started post-breakup.

oonowindoo

that is only because he has not done "enough"

meeting someone new is the fastest way to get over someone...

justnspace

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debils advocate here; Ex's do come back.

oonowindoo

They do but in this case, it does not matter. She is no good.

Flipster23

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No nudes. How long did you guys date again? She should have flooded your phone with nudes. I still have pics of ex's floating around on a memory card.

oonowindoo

PM please

justnspace

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will be a test for ross.

97BlackAckCL

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Not when she's a slutbag banging your roommate

oonowindoo

yah that is why he has to find someone new before that ever happens. At his age, the temptation will be to great.

Majofo

No fucking nudes, flatmate is porking her while shaking your hand and smiling.. don't be a vagina. I'd fuck with your flatmate's head. Ask if she squirts everywhere like a firehose when they do it. Tell him how she'd gobble your balls and gag on your dingus whenever you went on a drive somewhere. Tell him the time you fucked her on his bed with a dude you guys met that night. Be cool about it like you think he's cool about it.

Then mess with her. Wink at her randomly. Ask her to be fuck buddies, if not, tell her you masturbate to her every night. Go visit her mom and bring her v-day flowers, tell mom that even though you guys broke up they're still part of your family. Send v-day flowers to her at work from a secret admirer. This is amateur shit. Now go.

CCColtsicehockey

^

Rapture

Or you could make them some food and j/o into it. After they eat it, reveal the secret ingredient and say "I figured it would be okay -- I mean, you're both used to the taste anyways, so..."

rossv1

I honestly expect that she'll try to come back at some point, whether it be inconspicuously while they're together or if/when they break up. If she tries coming back, I highly doubt I'd consider doing anything with her, whether thag be being friends, together, or otherwise.

This whole thing has left a pretty bad taste in my mouth. Like I said, she pulled this thing once before (albeit not on the same scale) and I chose to stay friends or whatever we were. So I've made the mistake once before, not going to make it again if given the opportunity.

I know I said it before, but I think I was more worried about what it would be like without someone always around, not necessary without her always around.

Lol at majofo. I'll heed your advice.

oonowindoo

you are freaking 22 years old and you are worried that you won't find someone?

there will ALWAYS be someone better... both inside and out.

Trust us on this one.. this is not the end of the world. When they say there are plenty of fish out there, it is true, not just trying to make you feel better.

rossv1

Lol. I was (past tense) worried about it. Not anymore. I guess after 4 years of pretty much constantly being around each other I was worried about. I think I had become so used to always having her around, the thought of her not being there was scary.

I'm kind of glad/relieved this happened, because chances are if it didn't happen now it would have later down the road when I had more invested.

Majofo

bruh