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Old 07-15-2014, 08:07 PM
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Old 07-16-2014, 08:17 AM
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I don't know wtf some of you are preaching about... No one is suppose to adopt to YOUR style of living, but for sure you must compromise and establish a flourishing relationship where both are satisfied. (The girl always has more leeway)

OP will learn to love the bitch and her 200 outfits. Maybe it's a good sign that a gf will be great with the kids.

Does she take care of her dog fully or do you pitch in?
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Old 07-16-2014, 08:18 AM
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Photoshop that hand to be the shocker and it'd be perfect!
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Originally Posted by Scottman111
Both parties should do what they can to make it easier for the other, and not be offended that you don't think their pet is perfect

Any yeah, I'm also freaked out by people that dress their dogs up and treat them like human kids, and/or talk to them all the time in weird voices
She knows I don't care for her dog/rat and she is trying to make it easier for me (she did try the bed thing but that didn't work out). I've also told her I don't like tiny dogs with clothes on cus I think it looks ridiculous. I don't know if that will change her mind about the clothes though, probably not lol. Her excuse is the dog is cold and the dog actually likes to wear clothes..whatever. But she knows I will have a hard time adjusting to living with it. Oh and she never uses one of those weird voices.

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OP will learn to love the bitch and her 200 outfits. Maybe it's a good sign that a gf will be great with the kids.

Does she take care of her dog fully or do you pitch in?
I can't say I will learn to love the bitch, but I will do my best not to hate it and maybe even try to like it.

She takes care of the dog, I just feed it tiny pieces of human food.


I googled Maltese dogs yesterday. They said they are one of the hardest to housebreak and always bark. That being said, I know there is no way in hell it will learn to sleep on the floor. I personally think she didn't do a good enough job training it; she babied it too much . Did I mention that she has to put a diaper on it when she leaves the house for a long period of time because it still pees inside sometimes?


Please stop quoting those pictures I posted I dont want to look at it. That article about maltese dogs I found says 'Has a cute face with expressive eyes'. When I look at that dog I see the complete opposite. Derp.



I know I am hating on this dog a lot but that is how I truly feel about it. But I love my gf and like I said I am willing to sacrifice living with this creature for us to be together. I'm hoping we are the ones for each other (not the dog). Then we can get a REAL dog.

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Old 07-16-2014, 11:44 AM
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OMG, wife's parent's bulldog...they got it used to putting down newspaper in the house so he literally refused to take a sh*t or piss outside his entire life. They got used to cleaning it up daily. FK THAT SHT.
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Originally Posted by imj0257
I don't know if that will change her mind about the clothes though, probably not lol. Her excuse is the dog is cold and the dog actually likes to wear clothes...

I personally think she didn't do a good enough job training it; she babied it too much . Did I mention that she has to put a diaper on it when she leaves the house for a long period of time because it still pees inside sometimes?

Well, it seems your GF is ready to have kids now.
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We've talked about it. She wants kids, as do I sometime, but she said not for a few years. :phew:
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Well, if venting to us is allowing you to not have to vent to her and maintain your relationship...then by all means. And you're welcome.
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Old 07-16-2014, 02:36 PM
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Get your own dog - a real one.
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Originally Posted by YeuEmMaiMai
lol lets talk about being a retard eh? go look up the stats, they are provided in that article.... but hey as long as one gets a piece, who cares, right?
Correlation doesn't equal causation. The real deciding factor here is that only religious zealots like yourself holdout living together until marriage. As such, they are scared to break the marriage up due to judgements from their church and families. It doesn't matter what amount of abuse or unhappiness they have to endure; they won't change it. The only people dumb enough to suffer through life are those that do it in the name of their religion.

Also, at "as long as one gets a piece, who cares?" You mean like the people who abstain in the name of religion and hurry a marriage only to realize they are completely incompatible?

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I think waiting until you're legally bound before living with someone is a pretty ballsy move...

I've lived with 2 girls and a roommate (not simultaneously :mizouse) and I can attest to the fact that things get real real quick when you live together. Even if you spend every waking hour and then go sleep at your own place...it's not the same. There's no carpet to sweep the issues under anymore.
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Originally Posted by rockstar143
I think waiting until you're legally bound before living with someone is a pretty ballsy move...

I've lived with 2 girls and a roommate (not simultaneously :mizouse) and I can attest to the fact that things get real real quick when you live together. Even if you spend every waking hour and then go sleep at your own place...it's not the same. There's no carpet to sweep the issues under anymore.
Someone who gets it.....

Do it right and the odds are definitely in your favor to have a long lasting loving relationship....
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but that's only because I have lived it...
and it wasn't going against a strong religiously based moral fiber either...
lucky for me (from my perspective), my parents have always been supportive of anything I want to be or believe in. Damn Hippies!
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Old 07-16-2014, 05:15 PM
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Originally Posted by YeuEmMaiMai
Someone who gets it.....

Do it right and the odds are definitely in your favor to have a long lasting loving relationship....
Ditto -
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Originally Posted by oo7spy
Correlation doesn't equal causation. The real deciding factor here is that only religious zealots like yourself holdout living together until marriage. As such, they are scared to break the marriage up due to judgements from their church and families. It doesn't matter what amount of abuse or unhappiness they have to endure; they won't change it. The only people dumb enough to suffer through life are those that do it in the name of their religion.

Also, at "as long as one gets a piece, who cares?" You mean like the people who abstain in the name of religion and hurry a marriage only to realize they are completely incompatible?
Exactly.
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Originally Posted by YeuEmMaiMai
lol go look at the statistics of people that move in together before marriage and tell me if it is going to work out....

http://divorce.lovetoknow.com/Divorc...iving_Together

so go a head and I hope it works out but alas, the odds are definitely NOT in your favor...
I always test drive something before buying it.

That includes learning their habits and how they behave under stress.
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Ken knows...
ALWAYS test drive before you buy.

I got into the biggest fight with a long time friend because his wife to be was a raging disrespectful self centered bitch and I wasn't blinded by the pussy HE was getting from her. Tried to suggest living together first...no dice...he even shared with her and I became the friend she made him keep a distance from.

25K wedding, her cheating on him and a divorce later...
he apologized and told me I was right and to forgive him.
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bros before HOs... Meaning if she can't get along with people that you got along with all of your life... well, here is your sign to run... A person like this will suffocate you from enjoying life.

I never understood how can one commit to another without truly experiencing the rollercoaster of emotions and stress when living together. Your job is to study your better half, so you can complete the puzzle and realize it's not about you anymore.
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that's the exact reason I am married to my wife...aside from 7 years...from day one, all my friends and family seemed like they wanted to hang out with her more than me. You gotta know that if the people that love you love the person you're with...you're probably gonna be just fine.
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Originally Posted by TeknoKing
bros before HOs... Meaning if she can't get along with people that you got along with all of your life... well, here is your sign to run... A person like this will suffocate you from enjoying life.

I never understood how can one commit to another without truly experiencing the rollercoaster of emotions and stress when living together. Your job is to study your better half, so you can complete the puzzle and realize it's not about you anymore.
She likes all my friends and all my friends like her, so we are fine there
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Thought the bump was to tell us that you punted the rat dog...
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Originally Posted by rockstar143

that's the exact reason I am married to my wife...aside from 7 years...from day one, all my friends and family seemed like they wanted to hang out with her more than me. You gotta know that if the people that love you love the person you're with...you're probably gonna be just fine.
My mother and brother actually knew my wife before I did. So she was pre-approved.
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Originally Posted by YeuEmMaiMai
Someone who gets it.....

Do it right and the odds are definitely in your favor to have a long lasting loving relationship....
"Someone who gets it."

Yes, you are correct. J "gets it". However, he completely went against everything your are preaching about, so in the end, you are the only one who doesn't "get it".

Perhaps you could try understanding what people actually write instead of reading what you want to hear? That's always a good start to "getting it".
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Funny thing was when I wrote that...I totally forgot who I was agreeing with! Was more just my opinion based on my very limited vast knowledge.
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Limited vast knowledge or vast limited knowledge?
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I done did that on purpose!

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Look at that beautiful smile!

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Originally Posted by oo7spy
"Someone who gets it."

Yes, you are correct. J "gets it". However, he completely went against everything your are preaching about, so in the end, you are the only one who doesn't "get it".

Perhaps you could try understanding what people actually write instead of reading what you want to hear? That's always a good start to "getting it".
I quite honestly don't understand why he posts here. Always down on everything.
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I quite honestly don't understand why he posts here. Always down on everything.
His wife doesn't like listening to him, so here he is
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Originally Posted by oo7spy
"Someone who gets it."

Yes, you are correct. J "gets it". However, he completely went against everything your are preaching about, so in the end, you are the only one who doesn't "get it".

Perhaps you could try understanding what people actually write instead of reading what you want to hear? That's always a good start to "getting it".
yes because wanting the guy to have the best change at happiness is a bad thing, right?

http://divorce.lovetoknow.com/Divorc...iving_Together
http://divorce.lovetoknow.com/Divorce_Statistics

and since you are so mocking of Christians, I thought I would share this with you

http://freedomoutpost.com/2014/08/de...ly-to-divorce/

So go a head promote his idea, it will most likely end in failure

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And what advice do you have on my marriage?

Do you have links? Perhaps Stunna can help with a chart or graph.
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There are no less than 3 links posted above your post, and in those links, you will find other links that go out to the data referenced. I am sure you can follow them, right? As a bonus, you might even get a graph or two....

Hopefully your marriage works out but the data is in and you are NOT the norm for that scenario...
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Originally Posted by imj0257
Look at that beautiful smile!

Poor pup

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I don't know why you hate the dog so much Ian.. Probably because she gets more attention than you do.

Treat her dog right, she'll treat you right.. eh.
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Hah. Well the dog does get a lot of attention. I am doing better trying to like it.. actually I know I am doing better. Although it still makes the smacking noise in bed sometimes and then I put my earplugs in.

I just hate how it is so indecisive. Like it will ACTUALLY get off the couch when I get home and come up to me and want to be petted but when I lean down and stick my arm out it runs away.. then comes back and runs away. Only when I have food does it stay.. no surprise.

And like yesterday morning, I woke up and was about to go downstairs... gf still laying in bed. The dog gets up as it sees me about to leave the room and looks like it wants to go outside. So I pick it up (can't get down from the bed by itself cus it would probably break) and drop it off right in front of the back door and as I open the back door it runs back upstairs. A few min later the gf walks downstairs and the dog follows her, she opens the door and the dog goes out and pees.


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