NBP_BALLER

So I work full time and go to school as well. I met a girl in my speech class and we talked a bit, but not much All semester. I got her number and before you know it we we're together almost every day. So it has been about a month and a half. We went out once, but that was it. All the other times I would go to her house and study with her, mostly our own different classes. We'd cuddle up on the couch and take the time that we could together since we both worked and go to school, because time off at the same time was limited. We would get a little touchy feely and make out etc. But she is a religious girl (protestant) and wants to wait till she's married. I just accepted that... so she's 21 and I'm 24 and she lives at home. So I've met her parents, both are great. She's extremely intelligent, and prob out of my league I think. She's more of a goody goody. So, we went out again for the second time, had dinner and saw a movie. She was all over me, head on my shoulder, holding hands, kissing, etc. It had been going so well, I was gonna ask to make it official as my "girlfriend" but got side tracked. We talk every day like crazy, and have literally sent about two thousand messages in a month and talk on the phone for numerous hours at night. She all of the sudden doesn't talk to me all day Sun, then we spoke on the phone for an hour on my way to work at midnight. Didn't hear from her the entire next day. I asked her if something was wrong at 2am, I'm at work and she's always up late. We talk on the phone and she said she couldn't see me anymore. I met up with her last night for two hours to talk about it and she said she needed to work on herself... but that we could never be together and I couldn't make her change her mind. We went on a walk and she sat in my lap, curled up into my shoulder and held my hand when we got to a park. I tried to change her mind, respectfully, but also tried to just understand why we couldn't all of the sudden be together... she couldn't really tell me why... I brought her some bad ass flowers yesterday and kissed her on the cheek and left... I dunno what to do. I don't know what all of the sudden happened. I'm a gentleman, we never fought, Nothing bad or no signs at all. She said we could never be together because of it and pretty much made it clear that she wasn't changing her mind. I was falling for her and I dunno what happened. She's only dated one guy before for 2 1/2 years. He cheated on her and lied, was a dick etc. I dunno if that has something to do with him... they broke up in June. She said it didn't, nothing to do with her strict parents... I,dShe just broke up with me.... said she needs to "work on herself." We went out Sat night and we were soo happy. I was about to ask her to be my gf officially... nope got tossed in the trash. I dunno. I got dumped hard for no reason, she just tells me I won't understand.... that's all I got today. Maybe she's immature, maybe she is scared to get serious again, maybe I treat her too nice, I dunno. She said it has nothing to do with me. I asked her if she was dying or becoming lesbian as a joke and she said no haha. What should I do guys, thoughts? I'm just gonna give her space. That's all I know to do. Shit sucks balls....

usdmJON

I would say there are probably a good amount of guys that have had a similar situation.
Girl acts like she wants to be together physically but plays games saying it won't work.
My suggestion is run. Far away. I don't suggest being friends as. No point in it really. She is fickle and doesn't know what she wants.

NBP_BALLER

Haha I think she came up with some reason in her head and thinks she would rather not risk getting hurt by another guy or something like that. But she pretty much made it clear that we could never be together... so whatever reason that she won't tell me must have something to do with me, because I don't think she will go the rest of her life single. I'm sure she will date other guys. I wish I could run, but I can't keep myself away it seems... I've been single for three years and struck out too many times over that period of Time. It just sucks after all this time that you think you have something with a girl and then it ends like that...

YeuEmMaiMai

dude, you fell victim to the nice guy syndrome.... she does not want to be with you because she found someone else...

justnspace

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It's cuz you didnt engage RH protocol.


Next time, run through the RH checklist.

Whiskers

She dumped you because you don't use paragraphs.

Sarlacc

obviously, you are not a baller...

YeuEmMaiMai

oo7spy

What did someone say in the other thread? Something about young women being crazy. They don't know what they want, and you'll go crazy trying to figure it out yourself.

Maybe she knows she really likes you and wants to fulfill her urges but that means she has to marry you quickly and she is smart enough to know that doesn't make sense but naive enough to abstain. (Run on; I don't care.) That shit will never make sense to me.

doopstr

At least it was only 6weeks.

I knew a guy that dated a girl that wanted to wait. That went on about 2 years. They broke up and a week later she banged another guy.

XLR8R

After 2 1/2 years with the other guy, she sees the wall coming and is reinventing herself as a born-again virgin. But with all those late nights of soul sharing, you didn't make the grade as husband material. You were more of a BFF.

97BlackAckCL

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97BlackAckCL

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My thoughts are she found someone else, or she felt you were getting too physical and she was saving herself. Either way, time to move on

Flipster23

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She's not the one bro.

Scottyknows007

Sorry man sounds like you started to fall in love with the wrong girl. From my experience you might never get an closure from her. Best thing you can do is move on.. sucks

1killercls

Post up some nude pics of her. It will help with the healing process.

Flipster23

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Or bang her sister.

NBP_BALLER

lol @ some of your comments. I was def not in the friend zone haha. She was physical, but not anything past what she was comfortable with. I typed all that on my phone, so no paragraphs lol. Maybe I didn't make the cut as husband material in her eyes and she'd rather cut it off now before going any farther. I never date younger girls, but damn I fell victim. She was crazy about me until then... I don't know what changed. Nice guys finish last, I already know that. She's the type that you have to treat nice because of how proper and religious she is. Maybe she wasn't right for me... gonna take me a while to get over her, wish I didn't have too. Even Ballers fall on hard times...

YeuEmMaiMai

^you are now though....

Good Luck

Should have slapped that azz while you were riding her from behind giddy up baby I'm a cow boy baby and you are my cow girl lol type of deal

XLR8R

This might be why he didn't get past first base.

justnspace

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to get her back all you have to do is go out and have fun.

Flipster23

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Just tell her IDFWU

Rapture

Maybe it's another case of parents not allowing her to date because they want her to "focus on school" (which means they want her to stay a virgin until she's 30)

NBP_BALLER

Went out with two female friends tonight that were in the same class that me and the girl I was dating. They seem to think her x or another guy have something to do with it, prob her x. Since she can't tell me and look me in the eye when I was talking to her. They think she is either back with him maybe and she is ashamed to tell me because she seems weak and stupid. Sounds logical, I don't think he even lives around here tho... I dunno. Its some dumb shit

YeuEmMaiMai

^ see post #4...

She found a bigger one .... actually your two lady friends are right

TLDude876

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If it was meant to be it would have been. Take the positive from this in that there wasn't much time invested. Also, stop being mr nice guy , it almost always never works

doopstr

You seem to be on a lot of friends ladders. Just saying.

oo7spy

1Louder

First, sorry you had to go through all that. Sucks to be on the receiving end of that kind of drama.

I don't know that I'd spend a lot of time trying to figure out what changed her mind. I don't think "why" really matters - bottom line is she picked something over your relationship. Even if you did get back together, what's concerning is what's to say that it's not "something" else 6 months from now. Or a year. Also why you shouldn't try to "win her over". No good can come from trying to convince someone else to be in a relationship with you. The motivation for that has to come from her, not a compelling argument made by you. All that does is temporarily set aside her objection, but does not address the underlying cause.

I had a serious gf in high school - I was a class ahead so I went to college and she stayed. We broke it off, but stayed in touch and did this quasi-get-back-together thing over Christmas. I spent the rest of the year caught up in this romantic idea of making it work with her. In the end she dumped me. I lost an entire year caught up trying to win her over. It's time you just don't get back.

Sucks that she gave you all those mixed messages. Bit odd that she's not being straight with you. That's a bit of a red flag too IMO.

And I'll throw it out there - nothing wrong with being a nice guy.

97BlackAckCL

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You got that right...

Flipster23

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x2.

iSeeYouTwo

Bang your two lady friends instead

97BlackAckCL

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Flipster23

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Post said pictures of 2 friends posing together nude. They will become instafamous, the girl who dumped you will be pissed.

Majofo

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Acuramon

And there you have it. Sadly, when some girls deal with a guy who treated her badly in the past, she will get away from them and run to a man who treats her well. But that's only temporary. Some have gotten so mind-screwed by the guy who treated her like trash in the past that she will begin to crave that life again. She probably got bored with being treated well. Give her the space she craves. You'll only wind up going down with her if you keep trying to convince her to come back.

MySoCalLife

:Werd:. Women are freaken complicated and screwed up in the head somethings but we all know that. I've seen this many times and happened to me once.

Here's a few theory I can guess.
1st guy that a girl ever been with will have a huge impact on her mental state.
Also, what she see's on how her parents relationship is, will make her think that's the kind of guy that she needs (sometimes her dad might shows anger towards her mom alittle. She finds that normal. But usually are treating her mom great). She see's that as normal human behavior.

So when she see's a guy that always treat her good she find it odd and she thinks you are not being your true self when you are with her.( Since you said that you are always a gentleman to her).

She grow up believing that real humans have flaws and good side, you have to show a little bit of flaws to show her that you are not just acting all the time to be a great guy. Because no one is always in a good mood and a always a gentleman.

Now that doesn't mean you should treat her bad sometimes, or even a few times. Just be your real self, and if your are angry at something, talk to her about it. Make progress.

Girl see's nice guys as push-over, No girl wants push over. They already got a pussy, they don't want another one. I'm not calling you a pussy bro, that's just how most girls see's it. Like I said they are weird.

Girls like challenges, they want you to be a good man and also have your own mind and dont be afraid to show anger sometimes with her, just don't be an abusive angry boyfriend. lol
When a girl feels like she can lose you and you can find someone else if things don't work out. She will try to keep you longer. Put a girl on a pedestal, she will walk on you. Be a man and she will stay by your side.

Again, nice guys finish last.


Or she's just not ready to settle down, shes only 21. Girls that settle down at an early age will most likely to divorce and date like hell in their late 30's or so. I've seen alot of females relatives like that.

But I won't be shock to see her coming back to you in the future. Sometime a girl will save the great gentle for marriage. But for now, "girls, just wanna have fun-un, ohhhh girls just want to have funnnn" LOL
I have an ex come crawling back.

Majofo

ah... being 20.

DTF or GTFO I always say..

XLR8R

ya know...

..you don't seem to be particularly good at this.





have you considered running away to Syria, to be a bride of ISIS?

NBP_BALLER

Lol @ ^ Haven't talked to her in days since she test me last, I didn't respond. So Well see... it's not going anywhere If I contact her so I'm playing the "no contact" game lol So to say that I'm not good at this I'd say your right. I'm too honest and don't play games, so maybe that's why I have a hard time. Like not talking to her to make her want u n such. Never been an issue. Those friends are 31 and married with kids and the other is like 35. Both are a little thicker than is like. Cool girls/friends from class but def not someone I'd hit haha