CivicB18B1

iTrader: (2)

WTF is wrong with womens in 2012? Do women really think that having tattoos will attract guys ? (well probably the dumb guys) Im saying this because when i browse the dating sites, i would say that 30% of womens start their introduction with " hi my name is ________ i have 2 tattoos and 1 percing and i like doing sports and go to the movies".




For me as a psychologist ( who didnt finish school yet ), i did a reflexion. A big one. I came to the conclusion that many women will have a tattoo because they want to express themselves. But with the lack of maturity, they choose having a tattoo instead of free speech for expressing themselves.

And also, most of the guys i see having tattoos are most of them, idiots thinking that having a tattoo will increase their masculinity.


I like to observe the people with tattoos and they seems to be more unstable compared to the ones who dosent have any tattoos.

Im freaking out when i see stats that 40% of the 18-40 yo have tattoos.

crazyasiantl

iTrader: (7)

what does it matter if a woman has tattoos? My fiancee has two, and she is the most intelligent, level headed, and mature person i know.

and if you're looking for a woman on dating site, you're starting in the wrong place

CivicB18B1

iTrader: (2)

hehe.... btw i do have a wife and we like to see together the profiles on the dating websites.


lets go back to the discussion.

i will ask a simple question.

How can a women or a men wake up in the morning and decides of having a tattoo? What is the reason? What is the reason of having something that will stick to you the the rest of your life?


i know my thread will create controversy i assume that half of people here have tattoos.

crazyasiantl

iTrader: (7)

I'll ask a question..

what do you have against tattoos?

for some people, it's their thing. some people drink, some smoke, some drive fast.

I know PLENTY of intelligent people with tattoos.

honestly dude, its not a big deal.

Scottman111

I don't have any, and I don't like them on girls I date. It wouldn't be an instant deal breaker, I'm just not into them.

However, I have dated plenty of girls with them and it wasn't a big deal. Most are small, like something dumb on their foot that is usually hidden (prolly most common). Tattoos all over the place aren't really my thing though.

And yes you are going to get ed for this.

Scottman111

There was a really hot but trashy girl in one of my classes last year that had asian symbols tattooed behind her ear. One of the worst I've seen

sixsixfour

unless its something major like a sleeve, I dont have any problems with tatoos. my girl has one.

Rapture

One thing I do know for sure is that for some people (mostly hear women say this) is that tattoos are kind of addictive. Like they're addicted to the pain or sensation that comes with getting a tattoo.

Myself personally I'd never get one. I do tend to think it's pretty unattractive on women.

Whiskers

Interesting topic for me. I never got one. Growing up I always thought they were trashy and people who got them were as well. My inlaws for example....But a few years ago my wife and my sister in law (both in their late 30's) decided to get their first one in Vegas. Small ones, with a meaning to them. My wife got another one last year, she said she is done now. Both look nice and not trashy. Im ok with it, it doesnt affect me either way.

24no7

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1killercls

I have sleeves from my elbows up. Got most all of them years ago when I was much younger. That being said, I still love them they are a part of my life history, they all reflect back on a time and place in my life.
That being said, I am however glad I stopped above my elbows...We call UN-hideable tats "Career Killers". These idiots today with their neck tats and full sleeves will be sorry when they actually want and need a solid career.

Oh..my wife does not have a single tattoo.

doopstr

What's the problem?

Anachostic

I am very anti-tattoo, but my current GF has 3 large tattoos and we had a disagreement over her getting another one. I don't hardly notice them anymore. It might be because she's not the type that brags about them or calls a lot of attention to them. In fact, she covers them up if she thinks people are going to be distracted by them. This gives me the impression that the tattoos are just personal to her instead of being a "look at me" statement.

I think that's your bigger problem with the profiles, that the person feels their tattoos are more interesting than themselves.

Nexson

tats are damn trashy, esp girls who get sleeves. Yea i actually made the girl wear long sleeves i was seeing to cover them up when we went out to eat.

today's youth is much stupider then ever.

parasitius

I totally agree with op.

The fact of the matter is that... the girl who have them are attractive in a different way: they are attractive because you feel "this is such a slovenly tramp who gives everyone a turn that I can do whatever I want whenever the hell I want". Of course it is fun, just like a night with a porn star would be fun, the issue is just that what if the relationship turns serious? Then you are screwed because you cannot honestly tell the girl that the whole attraction was built on "what a tramp" she is due to the tattoos and that you can't respect her or take her seriously

That's why I'd just avoid'em

CivicB18B1

iTrader: (2)

Most of the girls will assume that having a tattoo will put them with the group or think that they will attract a lot of boys.

For me a girl OR a guy who have a tattoo is someone who PROBABLY:

1: didnt have a good mother who was affectionate and caring when she was young.

2 didnt have a proper masculine figure at the house. Remember, little girls needs to be watched to help their developpment of being a true women.

3 was probably beaten by her jealous mother at a early age or when the breasts start growing.

Dont call me a freak these things happen a LOT of times. I know what im talking about.

CivicB18B1

iTrader: (2)

wow do you really think that a one night stand is a plasurable moment that can create intimacy or closeness ?


Its impossible for a women to orgasm during a one night stand.

97BlackAckCL

iTrader: (6)

I don't mind them, as long as they're not over done or trashy

SharksBreath

iTrader: (33)

this thread is ridiculous. there is absolutely nothing wrong with women who have tattoos.

if anything, you should feel like a jerk-off for judging someone like that. who are you to speak ill of those that have tattoos?

your views and accusations are completely skewed. people didn't have a good home life, so they got a tattoo? people didn't have a father figure so they got a shooting star inked near their pelvic bone? give me a break...you sound ignorant as hell.

some of the most successful, smart, and driven people i know have tattoos.

doopstr

Source?

SharksBreath

iTrader: (33)

sauce?

justnspace

iTrader: (1)

his made up mind.

Undying Dreams

iTrader: (3)

You're married already and you're browsing for fun, but then bitch about the women on the site? You dumb shit.

Get off the internet.

Guise...guise...OP is so close-minded on tattoos that there is no point in arguing.

parasitius

You guys just want to jump to conclusions -- you want to say that because you happen to know upper crust folks and you have a counter example of one person with a tattoo who isn't trash that there is no correlation...

But the whole point of finding scientific correlation is that it is not about the counter examples, it is about the majority or at least statistically significant portion. So for example, we know know the nightmare of violent crime into the 80's suddenly and completely unexpectedly declined due to the legalization of abortion 20 years prior. The portion of unwanted kids who will become violent criminals is higher than the portion of wanted kids that will become violent criminals by an amount that is statistically significant. That doesn't mean there aren't tens of thousands of exceptions to the general rule.

I think size and visibility of tattoo also comes into play here. My brother's wife is a hardcore Christian from a fundamentalist background ... and yet has her name tattooed on her foot in Hebrew letters. That shocked me -- but compare her to girls who have a full sleeve and I bet you'll find a huge average/statistical difference between their backgrounds, drug use experience, and criminal status.

SharksBreath

iTrader: (33)

^sounds like you are stereotyping to the max. you're telling me if someone has a 1/2 sleeve that automatically makes them a drug addict with criminal tendencies?

gotcha.

parasitius

I go to great pains to use the term "statistically significant portion" and you say automatic... common man!

I had long hair 3" down my shoulders all through high school. People automatically assumed that I was a "fellow" pot smoker. In fact, the substance is very disagreeable and not enjoyable in the least for me. The hair was for headbanging. Nonetheless I could barely fault the boatloads of people who approached me with the assumption -- it was correct in 95%+ of cases,... it was my problem I had to deal with giving people a false outward signal.

The culture dictates what signals have what meaning, and while you are free as an individual to do as you please -- when you chose to usurp one of the culture's symbols you will be fighting an upward battle (long hair in my case). Heavy metal shirts in high school made people fear me and think I worshiped Satan. My social life in China was much better than the US -- and I'm confident at least a PORTION of the reason was that no one feared my shirts or had any superstitions about "skeleton" = devil worshiper, maybe he'll kill me, etc.

If you get tattoos you have to realize only 20~40% of the population sees them with neutrality and will not interpret them as indicating something about your character. There is a cost associated with deciding to undertake the fight to change the silent 60~80%'s opinion and make them be neutral in meaning for future generations. But one thing is for sure: culture doesn't change in one generation.

stogie1020

Are you for real?

Maybe this only applies to your personal experience...

Me thinks we have a :troll:

SharksBreath

iTrader: (33)

society is changing, fashion is changing, and the way of thinking is also changing. there is no one fixed criterion to judge right or wrong in this world, it's soley only based on whether you like or not. tattoo is an art. in old days, tough guys got tattoo'd, but it was an absolute taboo for women. so, i think that tattoo's are so popular today because everyone reflects the innovation of modern society.

tattoo's are highly acceptable in today's world. doctors, lawyers, scientists, they all get tattoo'd.

1killercls

With a guy like you I believe you. But wow are you WAY, WAY wrong on that.

1killercls

Drain Blammage.

filipinoooy

OP:
simple.

"never judge a book by its cover"

this topic is just plain immature and ignorant. a person can have the stupidest/coolest tattoo but skin deep if you dont know the person you dont have the right to judge them just by the looks.

Sarlacc

Awesome

We have an OP....who

a) wants to be taken seriously but can't spell for shit in half of his posts.

b) is taking his personal opinions (most likely rubbed off from his parents) and stating them as pure fact

c) is psychology student...(and I'll post my opinion as fact here) Most shrinks as just as fucked up in the head if not more than the people they try and treat. Which is how they ended up in that field in the first place. And proof is in the posting.

OH...then we have good ol parrotdick, who couldnt get laid with a blank check hanging out of his fly....yet he is going to be picky?

This thread is full of retarded fail.

1killercls

"Retarded Fail"

parasitius

During the transitioning period where there is a mix of prejudice and acceptance, I'm personally not willing to pay the cost of the chance that I'll be 5% less likely to pass a job interview, 5% less likely to score a phone number because a girl makes an assumption, etc. Good luck to those willing

As for girls! Ugly girls should get all the tattoos they want. But I feel sad when I see any girl 7 or above doing something that permanently reduces her beauty ... I know maybe for you that increases beauty

CUNextTuesday

How do you know what you are talking about? Can you site sources or studies? OR are these just your own personal thoughts and meditations on tattoos and the people who get them?

As a future psychologist (you're en route to a phd?), you should know that the latter is not sound science. Your personal observations in french canada mean diddlyshit in trying to predict the psychological background of people who get tattoos.

However, I don't think it's right that everyone else just says you're full of shit because they don't think it's true. You have these ideas and you should test them. Parasitius makes a valid point - just because people can come up with one counterexample does not prove anything wrong. There very well could be a correlation between the things you mentioned and people who get tattoos.

Whether or not there is, we'll leave to you as a psychology experiment!

^^ this however, is complete bullshit. Tread carefully when using the word "impossible."

CUNextTuesday

a) How well do you speak french?

b) True

c) You admit to your own hypocrisy. Nice going.

parasitius

I didn't even catch that one... criticize the logic method, then use it himself

Makes him proud to be a sarlacc I s'pose!

Sarlacc

a) I dont care if he is French Canadian...he is on here speaking English well enough that if he doesn't know how to spell something he can look it up. We aren't talking mis-typing here. Just kills his credibility...not that he had any to begin with.

b) duh

c) when in rome....but tell me I'm wrong...

Sarlacc

Considering I knew full well what I was doing, and admitted it as I did...I was making a point.

CUNextTuesday

Wrong or right, I don't know. Again, this is something that would have to be scientifically studied to give a fair answer. And even then, the predictive power of those results would only be applicable to a large sample of psychologists.

At first you used the hypocrisy as a way of making a point, but now you're suggesting that there is some truth to your generalization, which there may be! But then how can you hold him accountable for doing the same exact thing? o.O